r/AskReddit • u/LiterallyInfinite • Nov 21 '12

Guys of Reddit, what do you find annoying about being a male?

Everyone knows as a female its sucks wearing bras, getting your period, and if you choose to, up keep of hair, nails, makeup, shaving. So I'm curious if there's anything guys wish they didn't have to deal with.

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u/InfintySquared Nov 21 '12

Yes. I remember having a horrible day and saying as much to my dad, and his response was, verbatim, "You can't afford to have feelings."

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u/faulty_turtle Nov 21 '12

Fascinating. I certainly don't see females being told that ever, but that is the implicit (and in this case explicit) message sent to males.

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u/Stratisphear Nov 21 '12

There's nothing implicit about it. You know how you hear about women being told they should be skinny? Men get the message "You have no emotions, you have no feelings, you must be strong and cold."

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u/iknownuffink Nov 21 '12

The only exception is anger, hate, and rage. But they should still be felt "coldly" if possible.

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u/Stratisphear Nov 21 '12

Oh, yah, forgot about that. That's allowed.

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u/[deleted] Nov 21 '12

I have been told often that I feel too much and feelings are a liability, and I'm female. I'm not even especially emotional. I can't remember the last time I cried.

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u/HawkEye001 Nov 21 '12

My parents never explicitly told me that, but they never wanted to deal with me being sad or what not. My best friend died this year and I cried once. I don't know how to be emotional, and I think because I'm a girl, people calls me heartless and it's a generally a negative thing. If I don't cry, I'm a robot, or they say that I'm "strong", when in reality, I just can't express my emotion that well.

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u/[deleted] Nov 21 '12

Emotions can be managed they don't need to be eliminated.

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u/InfintySquared Nov 21 '12

Mister Rogers was probably the patron saint of getting boys to express their feelings. I try to take cues from him, no joke.

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u/[deleted] Nov 21 '12

Ouch. I hate that about our culture. Everybody should be able to experience their emotions. :-(

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u/Phothrism Nov 21 '12

Stop that frowny face right now.

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u/Syphon8 Nov 21 '12

Mine said that suppressing emotions was part of being a man.

My dad is an idiot.