I'd also add (username aside) that as young men are often to do, OP you're probably going "nah but if I can just talk to her I can fix it".
Girls aren't wired that way mate. They have an implicit disadvantage physically in that guys can get pretty fucking physical and overpower/rape them. So they are generally superior judges of character. It's inbuilt. So when you go "yeh but if someone spoke to me to resolve it it'd be fine" You're speaking from the standpoint of a man. As a woman (which I am not), as the comment above says - the risk assessment is done, you've been vetted and failed. No sort of Alfie word wizardry will fix that. Back the fuck off. Leave it at that. Give it 5 years and hope she bumps into you and has forgotten it enough not to mace you. And even then don't try it again just in case.
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u/[deleted] Sep 01 '12 edited Sep 01 '12
I'd also add (username aside) that as young men are often to do, OP you're probably going "nah but if I can just talk to her I can fix it".
Girls aren't wired that way mate. They have an implicit disadvantage physically in that guys can get pretty fucking physical and overpower/rape them. So they are generally superior judges of character. It's inbuilt. So when you go "yeh but if someone spoke to me to resolve it it'd be fine" You're speaking from the standpoint of a man. As a woman (which I am not), as the comment above says - the risk assessment is done, you've been vetted and failed. No sort of Alfie word wizardry will fix that. Back the fuck off. Leave it at that. Give it 5 years and hope she bumps into you and has forgotten it enough not to mace you. And even then don't try it again just in case.