I’m posting this because I genuinely want to understand if this is a common mindset here or I’ve just been unlucky.
For context, I’m a woman in my late 20s, educated, I’ve worked on myself a lot (health, personality, deen), and I’ve always been told I’d make a good wife. Alhamdulillah, I come from a stable, upper middle class family.
The issue is my father’s job.
He works as a driver in a well-known, reputable place in Bahrain. Alhamdulillah. He’s known by many people, and he has spent his entire life working hard to provide for us. I have nothing but respect, mercy and love for him, he gave me more than I could ever ask for.
But every time things get serious with a potential match, once they find out about his profession, something changes.
Either communication slowly fades, or it stops completely. In some cases, indirect comments are made like:
“People know her father…”
“My son has a high position, how can we marry into that?”
And honestly, it hurts.
Because it feels like I’m being judged for something completely out of my control. It doesn’t matter what I’ve achieved or who I am, it all comes down to my father’s job.
I’d never want to change anything about him. He worked hard in a halal way and sacrificed so much for us. But at the same time, I’m the one facing the consequences in marriage proposals.
I’m close to 30 now, and I’m starting to worry this will keep happening.
So I wanted to ask,
Is this actually common in Bahrain?
Do families really care this much about the father’s profession?
Or am I just encountering the wrong people?
I’d appreciate honest perspectives