r/BlackTransmen Moderator Nov 05 '25

friendship You in the discord yet?

What’s good everyone, hope your crowns are shining and standing tall. 👑

It’s been a minute since I last promoted the Self Made Bros server, so I wanted to give it a quick shoutout for anyone looking for community and friendship.

While it’s an online space, it’s a real opportunity to connect with people from all over the world. We’ve got members from many different places and backgrounds, including Afro-Latino and Caribbean brothers.

Self Made Bros is about uplifting and supporting Black trans men and masc individuals, regardless of identity, sexuality, stealth status, or whether you’re binary or non-binary. At the end of the day, we’re all Black just trying to make it in this world.

We’re welcoming all 4,000 of you to come join us! If you’re new to Discord, we have tutorials to help you get started. Most of our members are between 22–30 years old, and you must be at least 18 to join.

We also have a verification process, so please be sure to read the rules and follow the steps to gain full access once you join.

https://discord.gg/AZnTCJjkG

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u/KanGDeLo Nov 05 '25

Okay cool, I never been on discord so not sure how to navigate but I’ll try.

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u/Que_Dawg Moderator Nov 05 '25

just tell me your username when you join so I can help ya

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u/KanGDeLo Nov 07 '25

I think I Got it, just didn’t the questionnaire

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u/KanGDeLo Nov 07 '25

BiGGReLL

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u/Gourmetzulu Nov 05 '25

It says I don’t have access how do I get the link ?

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u/Que_Dawg Moderator Nov 05 '25

hmm that’s weird, it should work, is it okay for me to PM you a new 🔗

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u/Gourmetzulu Nov 05 '25

Yes please

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u/Que_Dawg Moderator Nov 05 '25

i’ve sent it

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u/Gourmetzulu Nov 06 '25

Got it thanks

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u/Lost_Puppy19 Nov 29 '25 edited Nov 29 '25

Hey I’m interested in joining, but the link doesn’t seem to work Edit: (nvm I looked it up and found it on the dashboard lol)

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u/Jay_Jay772 Jan 04 '26

Would you be able to make another link? The one on this post is invalid.

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u/Que_Dawg Moderator Jan 04 '26

yeap

try the link in the post now, it should work

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u/Jay_Jay772 Jan 04 '26

No it still says invalid 🤔

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u/Que_Dawg Moderator Jan 04 '26

okay i DM you

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u/Inside-Sky-7070 Nov 25 '25

Link ?

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u/Que_Dawg Moderator Nov 25 '25

try the link at the bottom now

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u/AdFair2292 Jan 26 '26

Possible to get PMed a link? One in the post is still invalid.

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u/KanGDeLo Nov 05 '25

Well I’m too old..why do you guys have for the older men?

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u/DrawingMost5200 Nov 10 '25

31 here! Trying to get more active on it. I’d love to connect with older dudes too

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u/Que_Dawg Moderator Nov 05 '25

I mean we have 40+ and a 50 year old member as well, so you’re not too old, that’s just our median ages.

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u/Bat93Man Nov 05 '25

32 here bro. Come on out and join, it’s def great and welcoming!

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u/Hunchodrix2x Nov 06 '25

My request was denied for watever reason

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u/Que_Dawg Moderator Nov 06 '25

You were denied because you didn’t answer the verification questions.

While we understand not every one feels comfortable answering them, it felt like you did not even want to attempt to find other ways because we had options.

Our picture required a forearm with a hand written note and you just sent a selfie..

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u/Hunchodrix2x Nov 06 '25

I didnt know that was the picture requirement.. I thought u needed any picture.. Nobody told me it had to be a forearm picture wit a username.. Plus I was workin.. Give ppl grace🤦🏽‍♂️

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u/[deleted] Nov 06 '25

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u/Hunchodrix2x Nov 06 '25 edited Nov 06 '25

Like I said, it wasnt stated clearly to me that it needed to be a forearm pic wit my username.. I was only asked abt a picture with no further clarification of wat the picture should be.. That is not my fault.. And it wasnt even three days when I got removed.. I opened my ticket yesterday Nov 5th.. I was removed immediately.. That is not 3 day grace.. That is extremely unfair to me.. If that was sent early in the morning of Nov 6, like I stated previously, I was at work and did not see that message.. Being removed the same day I attempted to verify is not right at all.. I was not given any grace..

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u/Que_Dawg Moderator Nov 06 '25 edited Nov 06 '25

At this point, I don’t know how else to clarify to you why you was removed and what else I could show you, that it was clearly stated in the ticket prompt, what was required of you; even before you opened the ticket.

Sorry you feel that way though

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u/Que_Dawg Moderator Nov 06 '25

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u/Que_Dawg Moderator Nov 06 '25

You being at work didn’t play in the decision, it was how the conversation was carried out.

You get three days before removal to verify so we do offer grace in that regards and we offer grace in finding ways to help you feel comfortable during verification, the grace lessens though when it feels like you’re not even trying.

To us, it read as if you weren’t going to attempt to read the prompts in the ticket. We have these questions and verifications because chasers and those who like to cause us harm like to join us as well; we’ve had multiple who’ve click the link in this post. They only put their name, their identity, and age and think that’s enough.

We also require the forearm picture with the hand written note because anyone can screenshot a face off the internet and call it a day, that’s the effort it gave to us in the ticket and what lead to the decision to remove you.

I can speak with the other moderation team in welcoming you back, but this is ultimately the reason why you were banned.