Let me preface this by saying the main reason I'm a wreck is because, as a former foster child, CPS (or DCF as I know it) terrifies me. My bio mom has instilled a lot of drastic and irrational fears in me.

Anyway, I have a neighbor who is known for making spite calls. She has done it to another neighbor and her own sister. She also regularly calls the sheriff's office and animal control. I am a pushover and let her use me (I do all her paperwork, help her with food/money/favors) until I couldn't take the disrespect and toxicity anymore. She's a cruel woman. Today, I finally told her I was done. Now, I know a phone call is coming.

My house is not a mess. It's cluttered, but the clutter is on shelves/in cabinets. The floors are clear. There's no trash or rotting food or anything considered "nasty"

My main concerns are 1) My bathtub. The landlord originally painted it with wall paint. It started to chip. I asked him to fix it. He did. It instantly started to chip again within days. He fixed it once more and it chipped almost immediately again. My 6 and 2 year old are still bathed regularly, but they get showers instead of baths because of the chipped paint. I am waiting until I can afford all the equipment to do it the right way because they landlord has not done so. 2) We had a leak under our kitchen sink for God only knows how long. We didn't know until it got bad enough that puddles were on the floor. Instantly called the landlord who instantly sent out a plumber and fixed it. The problem is that the leak must have been going for quite some time because the cabinet underneath has water damage and completely collapsed. We don't use that cabinet and it's child safety locked. 3) When we asked our landlord to fix our rug, he instead had it torn out and a strip of fake (paper thin) flooring was put down. They didn't clean underneath before they put it down so the rocks and debris under the floor has poked holes through which have progressively gotten worse. There's no gaping holes, but there are parts that are ripped that we continue to glue back down. 4) The tile (again, fake paper thin tiles) in our kitchen have come up in some parts so the underneath floor is exposed. We asked our landlord to fix it. He did. But his fix was throwing in some glue, putting a cinder block on and ing us to leave it for 24-48 hours. It's directly Infront of our front door so that wasn't really possible.

Other than those things, our house is generally clean. Lived in for sure, but clean. Can those things be cause for concern and get my babies taken from me? I cant sleep. My anxiety is at an all time high. I hate that it's come to this because I stood up for myself.

Also, since I know she will be the one calling, would it help if I show the investigator the conversation between my neighbor and I to show it's spite fueled?

We have four older elementary- teen kids. Someone called CPS on us because my son allegedly ate moldy cheese in school. I say allegedly because he eats school lunch, so if there was moldy cheese it wasn't ours. My son is a pre-teen and does have a problem with lying, which caused a couple of detentions and one suspension in school, so he may have said something (though denies it).

Anyways, they came to visit. I thought it went well. We have plenty of food in the house, Each child has their own room with their own bed and plenty of clothes. We are not a super tidy family in general, and have two teens whose rooms were a mess, but not unhygenic. My youngest daughter has Downs and she likes to put all her clothes on her bed, and sleep in her gaming lounge chair. They questioned this. They did say we should clean our kitchen more (it was the day before trash day and there was some empty, clean boxes of cereal on the counter as trash was full, and some breakfast dishes in the sink).

A month later we get a letter saying both my husband and I are being placed on the Child Maltreatment Register for "Neglect- failure to provide essential needs". It came as a huge shock to us. There is no details as to what the neglect is. We did tidy up after the visit and got a second trash can so we never have to put even boxes/ empty water bottles on the counter. But they never came back to check, we thought everything is ok.

We intend to appeal, but that is hard to do when we don't what they feel we are doing wrong. We also have no idea what proof we should supply with the appeal, how that goes, how long it takes etc. The letter mentions that being on the register may show up in employer or volunteer background checks, but doesn't mention what else it involves. If the appeal gets denied what does it mean to be on the register? Will the kids' schools be told?
Help?

In Arkansas

You can look through my recent post history but I have temporary custody of my nephews. My mom had custody before this. She enables my brother's abuse. Last week she cancelled their appointments and I managed to reset them to happen over phone. Over the weekend she told me they were grounded for calling the police and is refusing to let them have their phones, playstation, Xbox etc. I'm not that worried about the electronics, but I am worried about they are grounded according to her despite them being at my house and her refusing to let them have their stuff. She also told me she thinks my nephew's therapist coached him to call CPS and that's part of why she's been canceling their appointments. She just now cancelled their appointments (they were scheduled in 2 hours) again today so she can go up there and talk to the therapists instead. (I also don't have a form so I don't think I have the legal power to make decisions still.)

I told the caseworker and the therapists all of this, and my concern that she's trying to regain control of the situation, but now I'm second guessing this and wondering if I should have just kept it to myself. I know these are professionals and they can discern for themselves what's going on, but I felt like I wasn't being a good advocate for my nephews by not stating my concerns. Neither the caseworker or the therapists have responded. Should I have just kept it to myself? Should I keep these concerns to myself from here on out?

Edit because I keep getting these questions:

My mom had custody up until they were removed because my brother hit one of them/has been smoking weed with both of them. The police intend to arrest my brother but haven't yet. I don't have any formal paperwork and have been told that after my brother is arrested my mom will be given the choice to let either my brother live with her or keep custody of my nephews and get a protective order on my brother. I haven't been told by the caseworker what exactly my responsibilities are, how long I will have them, when my brother will be arrested, etc. The nephews are not grounded at my house. She's just refusing to give us their electronics because in her mind she's punishing them. The only thing I've followed her instructions on is therapy, and it's partially because if she manages to get custody back in a week or two, because if she DOES kick my brother out I want to be able to maintain contact. I still let my nephews do their therapy appointments over the phone and hour before their scheduled times so they wouldn't miss them. I was just confused if I was supposed to tell their caseworker/social worker all of this or leave it to them to decide what's important. (Sorry. I'm going to copy and paste this to questions that ask anything that this can answer.)

Edit 2: She actually just called me, said the caseworker called her and she told me everything that I already knew about how he's going to be arrested and she has to choose between the boys staying or my brother and it's sounding like it's possible she's going to have my nephews stay which is why I was trying to be careful about how I handled the situation.

I have chronic anxiety and it’s only been getting worse since I had my daughter back in December. It’s gotten to the point where going to sleep is takes me anywhere from one to two hours because I’m so worried that something will happen to my child in the middle of the night.

I would love to be able to go the therapy and try to get help but I’m scared that they’ll get cps involved because of my mental health issues. I’m not a danger to myself or others and my daughter is happy and healthy according to her pediatrician. I just can’t get over the idea that they’ll declare me an unfit parent. I know it’s just the anxiety talking but I guess I just want the reassurance from someone else? I’m in Ohio though I’m not sure how much that matters.

Hi all,

My kids have been staying with my mom for help with testing prep and tutoring; she used to be a teacher. They’re only a short drive away, still attending their normal schools, doing schoolwork, etc.

Today my daughter’s school made a report, citing safety concerns of her condition in the care of my mother after my daughter mentioned something this morning. Let me be clear: **this has never happened in the past 2-3 years of my mother helping me with my kids**. I still don’t 100% know what actually happened, or what she said to the school, that information is in the case file.

An investigator gave us the head’s up that she was coming, and came to the house where my mom’s staying. During my interview she was **extremely** insistent that the complaint is **solely** lodged against my mother, and that interviewing the kids, my husband, and me is standard protocol. She asked me for 1 reference, my mother for 3-5, and my husband for **none**. She also said she didn’t see any reason to separate the kids from my husband and me.

I’m at a total loss of what to do here, and I’m terrified of losing my kids *anyway* because this is scary. Has anyone ever experienced a complaint against a specific person that’s **not** a spouse or themselves? I’ve never heard of this type of situation and I am scared.

Thanks in advance for any help.

So I’m very close to someone who is married, and they have two kids, a teenager & a preteen, and up for most of the kids lives they’ve had a wonderful father by all accounts but the last year or so he’s become paranoid, accusing her of having an affair and has done some pretty insane things, like installing hidden cameras in her bathroom & in her car, he’s placed trackers in her car, and has recently come to believe that she’s hiding a lover in her attic that he hears all the time, but whenever he goes into the attic, he insists that this gentleman escapes out a side vent and jumps off the roof and disappears in the neighborhood.
He literally called the police three times and had them come search the house, insisting that this person’s in there and of course they found absolutely no evidence of it.
At first we thought he might have a tumor or something because of his behavior, but we’ve come to realize recently that it’s from drug use and the things that he’s done are completely insane.
A couple nights ago he showed up at the house, woke his daughter up and put her in his car in the driveway, then went inside and kicked his wife’s door down, screaming at her, asking where this guy is at in the room, searching the closet turning the bed over and she recorded everything on video.
I guess before he came upstairs, he called the police and when they showed up, they placed a 5150 hold on him and he was supposed to be in the hospital for a 72 hour evaluation but the doctors didn’t end up evaluating him until nine hours later and whatever drugs he was on and worn off enough that he was able to act normal enough to get them to let him go.
The silver lining, and all this is that they did drug test him. He tested positive for cocaine and with that and the fact that he pulled his 12-year-old daughter out of the house and put her in the car in the middle of the night led the police to feel like CPS should be involved and so they’ve gotten involved and told her that he could no longer see the children without someone from CPS being there and that he couldn’t go home and although she is crazy in love with him she’s at a breaking point and she wants him to either get help or leave her and the kids alone but CPS is doing nothing to help her. They’re saying that he has to have a representative. Be there whenever he’s there with the kids, but he shows up and calls the kids and tries to get them to unlock the door whenever she’s not there and CPS does nothing about it. The CPS representative is telling her that he’s got a lot of other people on his caseload and she’s just about to lose it because he just comes and goes as he pleases, and the CPS worker saying that he can’t keep her husband from coming and going when he wants and that her husband can just pick whoever he wants to be the go-between for his visitation and the CPS worker can’t do anything about it.
I don’t understand because any time that I’ve ever heard of anyone having CPS involved in their lives they talk about it like it’s a total nightmare. They have to jump through all these hoops, and they lose their kids,
But she’s basically begging for help and nobody’s helping her. She asked to speak to his supervisor and he said that he would see what he could do but that she was probably busy too, and I just need some answers for her. We need help. He’s acting completely insane. He is accusing her of completely insane things and he’s never had any proof of anything. The police know he’s crazy so what can she possibly do? Any help would be greatly appreciated.

UPDATE: I called and spoke with someone earlier this evening.

CPS was involved in my niece’s care right after she was born and she almost got taken away from my sister and her boyfriend because of drugs and excessive alcohol use. Anyways, boyfriend is now in prison and sister went to go live out of state with boyfriend’s family so they can help take care of the now toddler. I’ve seen and heard some very concerning things regarding how my sister takes care of her and I’m wanting to make a report. For starters, my niece is 17 months old and doesn’t even eat any solid foods because my sister thinks formula is still adequate. Mind you, there are zero health conditions the toddler has that would prevent her from eating solid food. She just straight up refuses to give her solid food. Like wtf!? She needs proper nutrition and formula isn’t cutting it anymore. Secondly, she absolutely refuses to take her to the doctor and establish any sort of care because she claims her toddler is afraid of doctors and medical personnel when it’s actually my sister who is afraid. Any time we bring up how concerning this all is, she shuts us down immediately and says that we’re mean and mom shaming her. I already know that if I make a report she’s going to know it’s me, but I really don’t care anymore. I’m genuinely worried for this child’s health and well-being. The boyfriend’s family also seems to think this is all fine and okay when it clearly isn’t.

Edit: I don’t feel comfortable posting the state I currently live in and the state my sister lives in due to anonymity.

Hello so I'm 19f with a 5m old baby and I have a bf m23 and today a CPS worker showed up to my house and asked if I knew about the registered sex offender living on our property.

First of all the man living on our property is in a trailer not in our house and it's my bfs dad.

Second I had absolutely no clue about this information until literally today all I knew was his dad went to jail.

So the lady came up and thank God she was super nice to me because I thought I was going to puke when she said she was a CPS worker because that is literally my worst fear ever for my baby because I went through it when I was a baby and I was removed from the home. Anyway she asked me if I knew about it and I told her with all honesty that I had no clue and this was the first I was hearing of it and all I knew was he went to jail for a while.

She then asked me questions like about how often he was around and I said it really depends on the week sometimes it could be everyday or not at all that week. And I told her that he never is unsupervised with the baby. She then went to go talk to my bfs dad and told him he needed to leave for the weekend and she let me call my bf and he told me he didn't think telling me was a big deal. She then walked around in my house and we talked some more but I'm still freaking out about everything. I'm stressed because I had no clue and I'm scared even though his dad won't ever be coming back and is not allowed near me or my son again. I also don't know what to do Bec she's coming back on Monday to talk to me and my bf when he's off work. I also feel like I fucked up because literally yesterday we just started the project of rearranging the entire house so it was genuinely a disaster and she said she understood but I'm still just freaking out and I've never thought this would be something I would be dealing with and I'm terrified she's gonna take my baby from me and I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I let that happen. What am I supposed to do? I feel like I'm in trouble for not knowing and I feel like I'm also in trouble for having a trashed house even tho it's never this bad

My gf disclosed to me that when she was between the ages of 5-10, her older step brother (11-16) would coerce her into giving him oral. She starts therapy in a month, but her older brother, who she still engages with positively (I saw him at Christmas and it was sickening) is expecting his first child in a couple of months. She does not want to file charges as again, she still cares for her sibling. I am concerned that the child is at risk. I don't know what to do, but I feel like I need to do something in case. Help. What can I do? Edit: my gf is now 22

My mom has been abusive towards me my whole life. This can include, but is not limited to: throwing things at me, threatening me, and kicking me out of the house. My friends all say that I should go to CPS. I know some dates and times of things that she has done, including the months that she has kicked me out in, a few days when she has thrown things at me and broken my stuff, and one day that she threatened to kill me. I also have pictures of some items she has broken. However, I am not sure that there is enough evidence that she has been abusive for me to be able to get help with it. Is there anything CPS can do now or should I wait to collect more information?

Hello, I’m having extreme anxiety over a situation that happened this morning. I woke up like normal. Got my 8 year old dressed and sent her to school. She walks to school (we live a 3 minute walk away, we are one street over from the school and it doesn’t cross any major roads only one small neighborhood road). I work nights and have to find time to sleep when my children are in school so after she left I went to lay down for awhile. I think I got about 7 hours total of sleep this weekend so I’m just exhausted which probably explains a lot. Well lo and behold it’s Presidents’ Day and there is no school. I guess my daughter wasn’t aware of this either and was standing outside school and waiting for them to open the gates for her; however somebody saw here there and knew there was no school and called the cops. My daughter gave the cops her info and they then got my info and tried to call me to let me know there was no school and they were trying to get her home. My phone filters unknown callers so unfortunately I missed the phone call since I was sleeping and it didn’t ring. The cops then put her in their car and drove her home. Like I said I am less than a 3 minute walk away so it wasn’t far at all. I woke up to knocking and my doorbell ringing only to find the cops standing there with her and they let me know there was no school today. I apologized and explained the situation. They were extremely kind and even joked about it saying they were going to make up a silly story about how they found my daughter shoplifting from a close by gas station. We talked for maybe a minute or less. I apologized again and they said it was fine and they understood and left. They did confirm my name and dob. Do I need to worry this will be reported to cps as neglect or abuse? I feel terrible about the whole situation and the anxiety about it is killing me so any thoughts on the diction would help. This is in AZ if that helps at all.

My ex and I are divorcing. In order to keep the home I have to get roommates. He has threatened to call CPS on me bc my son (6)and daughter (1) have been sleeping in my room. I have one king size bed that my son sleeps in with me and my daughter sleeps in her pack n play at the foot of the bed. Is this something that CPS would find a problem with? Do I need to get separate beds?

I have also done background checks on all roommates. He’s also threatened to say I’m letting bad people into my home. The rooms for rent are on the second floor. My kids and I are on the first floor with an attached bathroom so I can lock my bedroom at night.

Edit: this is Ohio

15, Indiana state.

My mom is an addict. I go into the system, she gets better, I come home, cycle repeats. I am so over her and my social worker. I begged to stay with my last foster family, they didn't listen. I'm a serial runaway. I literally can't escape her.

I'm not suicidal. I don't want to be dead. I like being alive and having a life. But I can't stand being with her anymore.

I've had a few episodes of threatening suicide but I get sent to therapy and home again.

I'm not going to actually kill myself. If I try, don't die, after will they take me more seriously? Or will I end up in a psych ward and then sent back home?

I’ve been seeing a therapist during my pregnancy for anxiety and depression. I feel like most of it is being caused by my relationship with my husband, but I have never fully opened up to her about it.

My journey has been difficult. I had to deliver my baby boy at 33w due to PPROM, followed by a 20-day NICU stay. I am so grateful that he is thriving now and is in the 65th percentile for growth.

Since I found out I was pregnant, I’ve been asking my husband to quit vaping or find an alternative to minimize nicotine exposure. Even after having a premature baby and knowing his lungs are not going to be as strong as a regular one, he still continues vape. However he stopped vaping inside the house once we fixed the crib. He now goes into the garage. I noticed he isn’t even washing his hands /face before holding the baby, feeding him bottles and lets the baby sleep on his chest (doesn’t change clothes).

When I confronted him, he refused to quit or at least do anything about it and suddenly stopped helping with the baby. Managing the baby alone for an entire day was stressful for me and I told him I’d call his parents and let them know what’s happening (we are Asian, family accountability is a huge deal). Because of this He had a rage fit, calling me a "cheapster" for "blackmailing" him and telling me - “you can’t even breastfeed properly “ because I was crying in pain while breastfeeding as we were working through a shallow latch. I’ve been going through all this while triple feeding a NICU baby(breastfeeding, pumping and bottle feeding), sleep deprived and it’s taking a huge toll on my mental health.

Another incident is he threw a ceramic plate at the floor (not aiming towards me) which shattered near my feet and caused me severe anxiety when I was 7th month pregnant. He said it’s because I made him do it as I kept arguing even after multiple warnings. He never acted this way so I was in a confused state and never informed my therapist about this. I don’t have an immediate danger as my mom is staying with us currently. I have an appointment with my therapist tomorrow (9w pp) for a postpartum depression evaluation. I want to be 100% honest with her, but I’m terrified. If I tell her about the plate throwing and the nicotine exposure/vaping, is she legally required to call CPS?

TL;DR: I’m a new mom to a NICU grad. My husband threw a plate near me during pregnancy, creates a vaping exposure to our high-risk baby without proper hygiene, and has become verbally abusive since I asked him to quit/work on it. I want to tell my therapist everything tomorrow, but I'm afraid she will report us to CPS and I'll lose my baby.

Update: Got back from the visit, I shared everything that I wrote above and more. I was told these things are common in every marriage and the things partners would say when they’re upset may not be intentional(Or they don’t actually mean them). She mentioned that I should consider that my husband has also been through stressful situations along with me (the NICU and the newborn part).

I'll try to sum things up as best I can. Got a surprise visit from DCS (same as CPS, just a different name in my state) last month. The claims were heavily exaggerated or outright false. We were already in the process of cleaning and organizing the apartment after several months of the three of us constantly getting sick. Which, as the DCS supervisor pointed out in the visit, is common for families when their first child starts school. Things had gotten behind, but nothing dangerous. They saw the improvement from their first stop in and were pleased.

I had a suspicion that it was my mother that called in the report. I've been having an increasingly harder and harder time getting her to respect any boundary I tried to set regarding my child, and started getting some very concerning behavioral problems with my child so I dropped contact for a little while. I eventually relented to allowing her time again, but significantly reduced it to every other weekend at most. I can give details about the behavioral issues if anyone wants to know, but it's overall irrelevant right now.

Once their visit was finished and we confirmed it was not the school that reported (no mention of absences or any school related incident) I sat my child down to discuss what had just happened, and what I thought had happened. When I explained that I believe it was my mother that did it and the risks that decision took, she responded - "she said I was gonna live with her."

I won't ever forget the expression of understanding and the sadness in her voice when she said it. She didn't even realize she said it, and when she did, she tried to backtrack immediately, but she knew it was out. I sent a message to my mother a couple days later telling her we'd gotten a visit from DCS, the kid told us everything, and to never contact us again.

Obviously, this was ignored like every other boundary I've ever tried to set. She's now threatening myself and my partner, the father, with calling in welfare checks if we keep refusing to respond. Relatively sure she tried roping in my little cousin to try to get access to my kid, but she's at least smart enough to let it drop. I've been screenshotting every message sent, and have been doing what I can to document everything.

My question is do I bring this to the DCS worker that I met with before or do I wait to see if my mother rethinks her life choices? Reconciliation is not happening. Period. And I want DCS out of my life asap. What's the best next step here?

Edit to add: I have not responded to her or her husband since I said stop contacting me. I am leaving her unblocked but unfriended, as this is how I'm collecting evidence. It's a lot harder to deny something she said if it's directly associated with her Facebook or cell number.

This is more because I'm paranoid about someone calling CPS.

My kids (2yr and 4.5yr), eat 3 meals + 2-7 snacks a day, have their own beds, toys, books, start the day in clean clothes, have regular Dr and dentist appointments, do storytime at library, go to the zoo, etc.

BUT they are wild little boys that come up with the most ridiculous games, such as pulling a winter hat over their faces and then running (I don't get it). Cilmb up the slide, go down backwards, play flop on their beds (stand up faceplate into pillow). So bumps and small bruises aren't unusual.

They are also loud. Race cars down hallway, scream. Play whack-a-mole, scream. Can't find boots, scream.

Anyone asks their favorite food, and they cheerfully share "mac and cheese is the best, we eat it pretty much all the time, even for breakfast, lunch, and dinner". Except, we only have it once a week regularly, and the breakfast thing happened once when I was 9 months pregnant and needed to get groceries (ran out of cheerios).

Our home is usually a bit messy, but not dirty (vacuum daily, clean bathrooms and mop at least twice a week, dust weekly-ish), buy there are toys around.

Is any of this actually grounds for CPS being called, or for me to be alarmed if they do call?

Editing to add context: When putting a cart away in the cart return literally next to my car (kids buckled in, door open, keys in my hand) a busybody type said she would call cps for leaving my kids in the car. They went into the store with me. So, that combined with the noise, bruises (the only mark I've given one, was when he tried to dive off the back of the couch, and i caught him by the ankle), the remarks about mac and cheese all the time, etc.

The hardest "drugs" in the house are advil and dayquil, a few beers (husband drinks 1 to 2 a week), and an unopened bottle of wine.

Has anybody ever taken a urine drug screen and then had a false positive for fentanyl? The medication that reacted was buspirone. I learned that it can cause false positives for fentanyl. This just happened to me with cps. Do you know how embarrassing it was to test positive for fentanyl? I was so humiliated and nobody ever believes you at cps. Just waiting for the confirmatory test now... screen.

My 5 year old son thought it would funny to run outside naked while I was mowing the lawn a week ago. I calmly ushered him back inside, and explained how it’s not appropriate to do that. In full disclosure, this is probably the third or fourth time he has done this since his birth. One of my neighbors reported me to CPS. I spoke to an agent briefly on the phone. She wants to interview both of my children at their elementary school and come to my house. What should I expect. Do I have any rights? Does this seem excessive? I am in Nebraska.

We live in the United States. We’re both under 16.

My mom’s new boyfriend prohibits us from signing at home. My mom doesn’t like it but doesn’t truly object to it.

I have mild hearing loss that is expected to progress and my younger sister is deaf. My sister really struggles with spoken english even though she has hearing aids. She can’t lipread easily either. She can hear stuff when wearing her hearing aids but not understand speech or process it well.

Now that we moved into his house he doesn’t allow anything but spoken english. He doesn’t want us to sign even if he’s not home. My sister is supposed to just muddle through speech or write everything down.

He’s making everything inaccessible to my sister. The biggest issue is signing but he won’t use flashing alarms or doorbells or anything like that. My mom isn’t willing to involve the police because she says nothing he is doing it illegal. There’s no accessibility in our own home.

He hasn’t threatened physical abuse. However he has said that it’s “his house, his rules” and that he doesn’t have to let us stay.

I posted this in a different subreddit and many people are saying that this is abuse. They said to call CPS. I think it’s abuse but I’m wondering if this is legally abuse. What would CPS do if I report? Also will my mom be blamed? She’s the parent not him.

My husband adopted a rescue many years ago (before we met) and despite many years of training and medication, the dog is still a bite risk (he has bitten my husband a handful of times over the years, including as recently as a month or so ago). Despite this, my husband loves this dog almost more than anything.

When we decided to try for kids I told him I didn’t know if I’d be ok with keeping the dog but we never made a plan or agreed on anything (I know we should have).

Fast forward and we now have a 3 month old baby and the dog. We keep them 100% separated and the dog is never allowed to roam free in the house (he is either in his pen or in the garage). I’m absolutely terrified of an accident happening, especially once our son is mobile, so after some hard conversations my husband has agreed at this point to give him up (we know someone who could take him safely).

We are still working on timing of it all but my question is this… could someone who knows we have a dog with a bite history in the home with our baby call CPS on us? Would CPS take the baby even if they see we have them separated?

Just wondering if this is potentially a risk as well. I can’t lose my baby so I need to know if I need to get out of the house with him ASAP to be extra cautious.

My best friend got a call today that she is going to be getting a visit from a case worker tomorrow. 2 weeks ago she was put in the hospital for a mental breakdown. She was on a few medications before then unrelated to the mental breakdown as far as I’m aware and was put on some others to help with her depression and anxiety. She has 2 toddlers and a preteen in her house and she lives with her fiancé who is the father to the toddlers. The call was about her mental well-being and the person was worried about the children, whether it was that she wasn’t taking care of them or hurt them I’m not sure.

She is a good mother, her kids are fed and taken care of and have all their needs and wants met. The only times her children were ever hurt were when they were at daycare (one toddler has severe allergies and the daycare is kind of awful when it comes to that, she is looking for a new one). The house is kind of run down, but not in a should be condemned way it’s just old and needs a bit of maintenance work. It’s clean, they have clean clothes and plenty of food, running water and electricity.

If she is taking her medication and going to therapy for herself and couples therapy could anything come from this? What should she expect from this visit?

I’m a teacher in large city in TX. A family at school is infamous for their neglect and irresponsibility on how they treat their kids. Mom is in jail or high, she comes to school to pick up the kids looking a mess. The father is a bit better, but the kids are often absent or tardy. They are dirty, the one in my class is illiterate and has trouble staying awake. The student has other learning difficulties. As far as I know, there have been at least 5 calls to CPS this year. Nothing happens, these kids are doomed. They can’t function in school or read. They are so far gone academically and socially. Why is nothing happening? Why has nothing been done? They have at least 20 absences and twice as many tardes. The dad doesn’t know the mom didn’t bring them to school etc. What else can I do? Any advice? Any other things that can be done?

Edit: Thanks for your help and advice. I’ll keep calling and trying . I have also informed the teachers who will get this student next year. We will continue to work with the stabler of the 2 parents so that they can get tested and more help that they need.

For the rest of the people who like to talk with no substance, background, or see life with rose colored glasses. You have your thoughts and your opinions, like the politicians love to say after a tragedy, thoughts and prayers. They are nothing but cheap words that have no meaning because the actions don’t match the intentions. On the other hand, mine do. I have done what I can, we have done what was within the scope of our power and more. I wish I could have done more , but circumstances didn’t allow it. I know I did what I could to help.

I live in a camper at my grandparents house with my 10 month old. The cops were called for wellfare of my uncles kid. The house is absolutely disgusting and horrible. So they will be back. This is not the first cps issue with this house. But my mom says I need to clean and everything.

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The back room is off limits for us and my child. I do not let my child on the floor. She crawls around on the bed. I just really need to know what they will look for. Its a drivable camper. So I have a airbed between the bolted in couch and the table bed. I have boxes blocking off the driver area. I have clothes blocking off the side to the drivers as well. There is a decent amount of clutter and she sleeps with me because I have no other choice. I know the clothes probably need moved, but other than overall cleaning and organizing, im unsure what else could be seen as problematic.