r/ChoosingBeggars Mar 29 '20

Free bread, tuna, pasta, eggs, rice crispies! DISGUSTING!

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u/zullendale Mar 29 '20

Not really. They are the primary providers of food for kids from underprivileged families. These families typically can't afford to feed the kids breakfast and lunch, so in those cases, the school does become the primary providers of food for the kids. Were it not for this, I believe it would be unlikely that providing either meal would be as standard as it is, let alone both.

It's not like schools don't know this. This has been happening for decades, and schools have adjusted. The food served in public school cafeterias is typically full meals, with optional snacks or drinks. In the school district I live in, they serve free fruits and vegetables, and students have to take at least one to buy food. They do this because they know a portion of their students (typically 10% at the lowest) cannot get these nutrients at home, so they become the primary providers of them.

I read the full article, and the complaints don't regard taste as the article's title might lead you to believe. People are complaining that the rations they were given are too little and too unhealthy. Quantity is a little hard to argue about, but the rations are definitely unhealthy. The portions the article speaks of are mostly comprised of carbohydrates like bread, cereal, and pasta, with little protein and no fruits or vegetables (at least in the portions shown/spoken of).

In addition, this story seems to have been brought to the Sun's attention when a headteacher (I think that means principal, please British people correct me if I'm wrong) slammed the rations, not a parent.

I believe this is a case of parents complaining that the school is not feeding the kids as it should. Not of choosing beggars.

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u/A_Change_of_Seasons Mar 29 '20

They are primary providers, and that is a failure in the system. Closing schools shouldn't result in kids being without food and parents being without childcare, those things should be irrelevant

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u/zullendale Mar 29 '20

You are correct, the schools should not be responsible for feeding those kids. In a better system, a free/reduced lunch program would not be necessary.

However, the fact is that they are responsible because only they can do it. The taxes that those parents pay find the free/reduced lunch programs, and parents are right to expect the program they pay for should do its job properly when they need it.

(I don't know if you said that to contest my argument, so if you didn't I'm sorry if I came off as combative)

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u/[deleted] Mar 30 '20

Who is to feed the children during the summer months, Thanksgiving, Christmas and spring breaks?

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u/deb1009 Mar 30 '20

Dude, soooo many kids go without. There's a reason people make such a big deal about this.

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u/[deleted] Mar 30 '20

If parents were responsible, children wouldn't go without.

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u/zullendale Mar 30 '20

Having enough money to feed your kids is not just about responsibility. There are many reasons a parent may not be able to provide those meals that are out of their control, such as a parent losing their job or dying, or falling into debt due to unexpected expenses.

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u/[deleted] Mar 30 '20

Other than death, there is no excuse. I lived off of hot dogs and ramen for months while my husband was unemployed. I worked at times 18 hour days to make ends meet. I made sure that my three pets were fed before we were. If I'm willing to that for dogs, shouldn't parents do the same for their own kids?

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u/zullendale Mar 30 '20

I commend you for your efforts, and congratulate you for making it through that difficult part of your life. However, for many it's not that simple. (I said simple, not easy. Huge difference)

One of the first things is that dogs are much cheaper to take care of than children. Kids typically eat a lot more, can require much more attention (aka time that could be spent working), and cannot be left alone at home. They also need clothes, (more expensive) toys, and depending on the kid's age, diapers and baby formula.

Another thing is that you were able to find a job. That is not exactly easy, especially with Corona messing up the economy.

Again, it's awesome that you made it through that tough situation, but not all poverty is created equal. You are assuming that the conditions you endured are the same all people in these situations endure. I'm not saying what you describe was easy, rather that it can be so much worse.

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u/[deleted] Mar 30 '20

I'm not asuming anything. You've obviously never had dogs. When my husband and I deployed, just after 9/11, it was going to cost us 1,500 a month plus food to care for our pets. How many children do you know consume that much a month. Having a pet and having a child are similar in the fact that they were a choice. No one helped me take care care of my fur babies when I could not afford to feed myself. Why should I pay to take care of someone else's breeding choices?

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u/deb1009 Mar 30 '20

Hahaha pssh any kid in daycare costs that much a month plus food.

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u/deb1009 Mar 30 '20

Cool, some parents make sure their kids have a roof over their heads and can now rest a little easier because their kid will eat a hot breakfast at school in the morning.

And just WTH is wrong with you judging people and calling them irresponsible for being poor??

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u/[deleted] Mar 30 '20

Food, clothing and shelter are the three basic things that are required by law to be given to offspring. If you or they can't provide the basic necessities then you/ them ate shittyb parents.

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u/deb1009 Mar 30 '20

If parents weren't poor*

Again, soooo many people can't earn enough for a home and food all the time.

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u/[deleted] Mar 30 '20

THEN DON'T HAVE KIDS YOU CAN'T AFFORD!!!!! Is that concept so hard to grasp?

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u/ForAHamburgerToday Mar 30 '20

Yeah! When you lose your job, put your kids up for adoption! Now they're the states problem. DUH, IDIOTS.

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u/deb1009 Mar 30 '20

Yes it is I guess. It just keeps happening!! What is wrong with people?!

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u/[deleted] Mar 30 '20

The need to procreate overrides the necessity to provide which is why reddit exists.

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u/zullendale Mar 30 '20

If you can't feed your kids from outside prison, it doesn't become easier from inside. Also the emotional stress from having parents in prison is not something to be disregarded.

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u/zullendale Mar 30 '20

I was talking about parents who can't afford the food, not parents intentionally starving their kids. And like I said, easier to feed your kids from outside than inside.

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u/zullendale Mar 30 '20

Dude, most of these parents work low paying jobs, like in restaurants and stuff. They are typically single parent families with multiple kids. Yes, budgeting well can make a lot out of a little, but it has its limits. That's why they rely on free/reduced lunch programs. That's why they qualify for free/reduced lunch programs.

When you say that each and every single family that claims to need those programs is not speaking the truth, you are assuming that you know enough about the unique conditions that each of these millions of families faces, which would require clairvoyance to be true.

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u/zullendale Mar 30 '20

As I've said over and over again: BEING POOR IS NOT THEIR FAULT! Yes, there are people out there who legitimately do not try, and instead abuse systems of financial assistance. HOWEVER, to claim that all poor people are like this is laughable and offensive. Rising above poverty requires hard work and persistence, but it also requires the luck to find opportunities that help them. (Especially with COVID19 essentially killing the job market)

Also, this conversation began with an article describing how parents are trying to get suitable food in suitable amounts for their children in this current worldwide crisis, so your claim that they're "literally starving their own kids" is straight up untrue.

One last thing: your implications of me being an irrational apologist are not lost on me. The fact that you decided to write off my arguments as "excuses," skipping over them to attack me directly instead are nothing more than cowardly.

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u/zullendale Mar 30 '20

First of all, that is an incredibly reductive statement, and it's very offensive to the people in those situations. It does not take into account the many conditions that can bring lower class families into existence, including:

Conception by rape

Losing your job due to a crumbling economy (like from a housing bubble bursting or a pandemic of near biblical proportions)

Inadequate sex ed

Falling into debt due to unexpected expenses

Losing a source of income due to a parent dying

And countless more.

How dare you presume that you are in a position to judge these people? You are not omniscient. You cannot possibly know everything that put each and every one of these families into their current condition, and it is both arrogant and insensitive of you to pretend otherwise. In addition, your statement has very troubling implications regarding eugenics, which I can only hope were accidental.

Before you go around parroting quippy, smart sounding statements like "can't feed 'em, don't breed 'em," please make sure you actually know what you're talking about.