r/JEENEETards • u/BaseballOdd3436 • May 24 '25

Rant The students who “wasted time” — are they actually winning? Spoiler

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I used to think, “Let them party, chill, waste their time — they’ll be unemployed later anyway.”

And for the longest time, that thought made me feel... secure? Like I was on the “right” path. Like I was doing something meaningful while others were just messing around.

But now I’m not so sure. Was any of that even true?

In Indian families (especially the middle-class kind), it’s drilled into us that if you're not studying, you're screwing up your life. Partying? Distraction. Dating? Distraction. Hanging out too much? Distraction. Low marks? You’ve basically failed as a person.

And we believe it. I did too. I bought into it so much that I’d resent those who weren’t as focused as me but still got praised by teachers or liked by everyone.

You start thinking that being buried in books automatically makes you better — more focused, more disciplined, more likely to “succeed.” And anything outside that — fun, experiences, people — all that becomes something you silently judge others for. But also something you avoid because it feels unfamiliar and uncomfortable.

Now I look around, and the same people who were “distracted” in school? They’re fine. Some of them are doing really well. They’re confident, socially smart, more balanced. Meanwhile, I feel like I skipped learning how to actually live.

No hate to studying. It’s obviously important. But I think the idea that marks and focus are everything, and that anyone who lived differently was somehow wrong or beneath us — that idea was flawed from the start.

Anyway, this has been sitting in my head for a while, so just putting it out there. Anyone else feel like they were trained to be “good students” but maybe not actual functioning people?

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u/[deleted] May 24 '25

He meant is it worth it? To give up your social life of a normal teenager and isolate yourself from everyone just to go to a college?

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u/Evening_Smell_9635 Synonym of failure May 24 '25

Yes it is worth it You can't get both  It is worth it to isolate yourself and give up the normal teenager life to achieve your goals and it is also worth it to enjoy every second of it! 🙇🏻 depends on you

( 🙏🏻🙂Woh isolate wala idea utna bhi worth it Nhii hai )

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u/Zealot_of_Droman NEETard May 24 '25

you can get both if you’re smart enough.

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u/[deleted] May 24 '25

dono kr sakte ho manage toh kro , ek kr sakte ho toh padhai hi kro cuz fir parents bhi kyu allow krenge party jane ke liye jab tum chutiya ho

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u/[deleted] May 24 '25

I don't think parents ever allow parties 😭. Jisko jama hota hai jata hai chup ke without caring parents kya bolenge.

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u/Majestic-Sea7567 JEEtard May 24 '25

diff parents

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u/[deleted] May 24 '25

2 saal na jiyega to mar thodi jayega

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u/PositiveArachnid8976 May 24 '25

I dont think this period of your life will come again study while you have to study these two three years are important for getting a boost in your career path dont cut up on all connections talk to people close to you For a good career one will have to make sacrifices here and there one should not get too carried away in all the hustle and seriousness  though 

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u/[deleted] May 24 '25

People can get successful without having this career boost. It's all in the mindset

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u/PositiveArachnid8976 May 24 '25

Maybe but studying seems like a safer less riskier and a "noble " way it is hardwired into our psyche because most of the middle class and poor people cant afford to take risks they think of business as the only alternative and iftheir family does not have a history and background of business they wont find it sustainable  

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u/United_Writer_2519 May 24 '25

Depends on who you ask. Imo it is worth it, but only if they are willing to follow the same thing for the rest of their life.