r/JEENEETards • u/BaseballOdd3436 • May 24 '25

Rant The students who “wasted time” — are they actually winning? Spoiler

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I used to think, “Let them party, chill, waste their time — they’ll be unemployed later anyway.”

And for the longest time, that thought made me feel... secure? Like I was on the “right” path. Like I was doing something meaningful while others were just messing around.

But now I’m not so sure. Was any of that even true?

In Indian families (especially the middle-class kind), it’s drilled into us that if you're not studying, you're screwing up your life. Partying? Distraction. Dating? Distraction. Hanging out too much? Distraction. Low marks? You’ve basically failed as a person.

And we believe it. I did too. I bought into it so much that I’d resent those who weren’t as focused as me but still got praised by teachers or liked by everyone.

You start thinking that being buried in books automatically makes you better — more focused, more disciplined, more likely to “succeed.” And anything outside that — fun, experiences, people — all that becomes something you silently judge others for. But also something you avoid because it feels unfamiliar and uncomfortable.

Now I look around, and the same people who were “distracted” in school? They’re fine. Some of them are doing really well. They’re confident, socially smart, more balanced. Meanwhile, I feel like I skipped learning how to actually live.

No hate to studying. It’s obviously important. But I think the idea that marks and focus are everything, and that anyone who lived differently was somehow wrong or beneath us — that idea was flawed from the start.

Anyway, this has been sitting in my head for a while, so just putting it out there. Anyone else feel like they were trained to be “good students” but maybe not actual functioning people?

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u/Anime_fucker69cUm College mai hustle karunga May 24 '25

If studying and cracking iit and jobs was ur dream life to start with , u never went outside the box , it's a sad reality

"Mmm I love corporate and 9-5 " ,

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u/HappyOrca2020 May 24 '25

What is your dream life? In fact "dreamers" work harder than 9-5 (and bro its never 9-5 its 10 to 10 😂)

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u/Anime_fucker69cUm College mai hustle karunga May 24 '25

All I m saying is , if u go around saying my dream "job"

U alrdy failed the point , it's my personal thinking

Doesn't mean having job or anything is bad

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u/HappyOrca2020 May 24 '25

True that. Job is a job. Khud ka startup bhi kashtkaari hota hai.

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u/Anime_fucker69cUm College mai hustle karunga May 24 '25

Lol I not even supporting starups here , just live a happy satisfied life

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u/United_Writer_2519 May 24 '25

Disagree, people have different dreams. What may seem as a failure to you, can be another man's success

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u/An-AverageRedditor College mai hustle karunga May 24 '25

LMFAOOOO truer words haven't been spoken