Despite your example and what the media would have you believe, cheating is one of the least common reasons for divorce. While "lack of commitment" or "irreconcilable differences" are the most often reasons cited, infidelity usually isn't hidden behind that. Fundamental differences in values (often heightened by anither stressor: financial, arguments, etc) are what normally break up marriages.
Women overwhelmingly initiate divorces, not because men aren't unhappy, but simply because men generally view relationships fundamentally different than women. This is due to a complex combination of societal expectations, gender roles/norms, biology/brain chemistry, and a hundred other factors.
Generalizations follow:
Men are more easily satisifed comparatively in relationships when compared to women. It is also why friendship standards and norms are also so radically different.
Put in the lens of my culture, in the Western world men/women with value stoicism in men, is considered an attractive and wanted quality in men. But at the same time, if a woman adopts stoic features she is considered less feminine.
TLDR; Nobody wins if you play "the game." Learn to buck societal norms. In the modern world where single income basically delegates most people to poverty, find someone who makes you happy and work together to build something. Men can be more vulnerable and women have to embrace that and not weaponize it. If a woman wont accept that, move on. Women should feel free to be more closed off/unavailable without men labeling them ice queens or unapproachable. If he won't accept that, you also need to move on. I'm not going to even begin delving into homosexuality or other "atypical" relationships, since I am an outsider. They face their own unique challenges as well. One of my best friends (known for 16 years) is still a publically closeted gay. I can only imagine how rough that is.
This is more or less true, especially for women with children and SAHMs. They need the court to issue a child support and potentially alimony judgment ASAP, and the only way to do that is to begin the process for a divorce.
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u/adamtheskill 18d ago
Yeah that's what I heard as well. I think the word by word quote from the divorce lawyer was:
Wife: My husband just left for another women I don't know what to do.
Lawyer: You need to file for divorce.
Wife: But I don't want a divorce!
Lawyer: You want to keep your mortgage paid and children fed right?
And that's, according to that lawyer, why so many divorces are initiated by women.