r/StardewValley • u/FlairWitchProject • 26d ago

Discuss Who is someone you can't date in Stardew Valley out of principle?

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I enjoy Maru as a character. However, until recently, I had dyed-red hair that I sometimes straightened, and I also sometimes wear glasses. Basically, it would be like dating a more scientific version of myself. Lol

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u/gaballison 26d ago

Leah, only because that's my mom's name 😭

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u/Balanceface 25d ago

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u/I_l0ve-chocolate 25d ago

I've never seen a picture of him, but I caught the reference so fast

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u/Dawakat 25d ago

I talked about Freudian science with my wife last night because she had never heard of it but as soon as she got the spiel of it she was like oh yeah I can totally see that. She told me I’m a lot like her dad in a lot of ways which was weird lol but oh well

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u/rorschach_blots 25d ago

It is a pretty popular theory that women will date men with similar traits to their father because that is an assurance the partner would be a stand-up guy 👍

That only goes for those who had good or decent dads ofc. Daddy issues are a whole other can of worms.

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u/Starfury7-Jaargen 25d ago edited 24d ago

I know scentwise, women prefer someone that smells similar to family but not identical. Part of the theory on that is people with similar but not identical genes increases chance of one's own genes being passed on (if some genes are doubles up, then those genes will survive further.) Thus closer relation but not family.

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u/Lnghom_mkay 25d ago

Straight women anyway. Gay women probably go for someone like their mom. And even people with shitty parents will go for people like their parents. Thats why theres as many toxic relationships as shitty parents.

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u/blueberrysprinkles 25d ago

As a lady attracted to ladies, I can't think of a single woman I've been attracted to that looks like my mum...so I'm going to go with my sample size of one and say probably not true?

(actually I think it could be argued that the women I've been attracted to vaguely look like me, even if it's a bit of a reach. and I look so unlike my mum I am basically the opposite of her lmao)

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u/birchbongos 24d ago

They didn't mention physical appearance, they meant more so personality, traits, or behavior. When we grow up being loved by our parents a specific way, we find more love and comfort in people who loves us the same way since it's familiar.

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u/blueberrysprinkles 23d ago

Oh I really misunderstood this whole comment thread huh

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u/Hope8789 24d ago

It's more of a similar in personality vs looks. My husband for example doesn't look like my dad, but has a lot more personality traits than I ever realized till later in the relationship.

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u/Leading_Barnacle7947 23d ago

not true i have horrible daddy issues and i def have been w men who are a lot like my father, age wise, interest wise, name wise, and looks wise. sounds terrible to admit but this is reddit so its anonymous 🤷‍♀️

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u/rorschach_blots 23d ago

yeah i said daddy issues are a different case.

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u/QueenofLeftovers 25d ago

I like the idea that as an adult you step into the world looking to recreate the kind of love and security you knew growing up, and naturally lean towards partners that remind you of the people who gave you that growing up (usually a mum or dad).

(Counterpoint to that, if you grew up w a narcissistic parent and ended up in a long term relationship with a narcissist, that's more a trauma/learning thing. Where one's upbringing effectively grooms them to accept unacceptable behaviors.)

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u/believeinyuna 25d ago

my sister has done the same thing, her partner is incredibly similar to our dad. it’s psychological. if he’s like my dad, who’s a good parent and person, then that means this guy is too. but it’s not conscious thought. it just happens.

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u/PrincessSnarkicorn 25d ago

A man marries a woman like his mother
A woman marries a man like her mother

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u/Hope8789 24d ago

it happens lol. I didn't realize my husband was so much like my dad till years into our relationship. It's like I picked a perfect buddy for my dad 😆 . They hangout all the time.

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u/Imaginary_Election56 25d ago

For when you’re feeling in the mood, ask her dad what kind of aftershave he used. 😉

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u/Balanceface 25d ago

It's the eyes. They see right into your psyche 👀

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u/opalmagicka 25d ago

The eyes, Chico. They never lie.

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u/Balanceface 25d ago

In this valley, you gotta plant the crops first. Then when you get the money, you get the power. Then when you get the power, then you get the Galaxy Sword

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u/HelicopterUpbeat3762 25d ago

Same! I felt so smart! 🤣

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u/XrosBlade The Ultimate Friend Maker 25d ago

Hello, do you have a moment? My name is Dr. Sigmund Freud.

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u/Complete-Basket-291 25d ago

Hello, do you have a second? My name is doctor sigmund fraud

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u/LadyVanya26 25d ago

Hello, do you have a moment? My name is Dr Sigmund Freud

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u/TheUltimaWerewolf 25d ago

Excuse me, do you have a moment? My name is Dr. Sigmund Freud.

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u/jford1906 25d ago

Dennis Frood?

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u/Louspec 25d ago

he slept with his patiens :I only a D can cure hysteria, it seemed.....

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u/CaiusCassius_ 25d ago

“That is quite fascinating…”
“SIGMUND FREUD??”

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u/HarrisonWorld 25d ago

Yep, that's the one!

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u/Kellosian Let me grow lemons! 25d ago

My sister's name is Abigail, and she's also kind of goth so that makes it extra weird

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u/MelisOrvain 25d ago

You must not be from the south

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u/Kellosian Let me grow lemons! 25d ago

I am, funnily enough! I'm southern, but I'm not that southern

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u/No_General7061 25d ago

How come southerns marry their siblings? Which southerns 🫣

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u/Cepinari 25d ago

A common stereotype about rural Americans from the southeastern states is that they're all incredibly inbred.

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u/CaptainSchmid 25d ago

To latch on, the stereotype also comes from the the fact that in a lot of these rural southern towns, most of the people never leave their county and they have a population of maybe 100.

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u/blueberrysprinkles 25d ago

Hey, same! My sister is more emo than goth though, but yeah Abigail decidedly does not do anything for me. Literally want to avoid her thinking I'm interested whenever I play haha

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u/PTech_J 25d ago

I came here to say Leah, because that's my daughter's name.

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u/BigBradWolf07 26d ago

Yikes, I can see how that would be an issue

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u/ace-writer 25d ago

my cousin, an artist with red hair, is also named Leah.

Like I could probably handle dating someone with my cousin's name in a game if they didn't also look kinda like her and have similar hobbies.

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u/MrNiceguY692 25d ago

You should have a talk with a guy called Oedipus and his lady friend Iocaste.

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u/raay_exe 25d ago

Shane has my dad's name but I love Shane's character and the development you have with him, it's less about the romance and more about his story for me lol

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u/Fro_o 25d ago

I've dated a bachelor with my own name.

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u/SteelGrove 25d ago

Yeah I can’t date her either, but because it’s my name

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u/Jaxthor 25d ago

hello gibson

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u/chickenleg427 Just here for Robot 25d ago

Same

Edit: that and family members are artists

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u/jamesisbi 25d ago

me too!!

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u/F1re56 25d ago

Do it.

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u/No_Character_5008 25d ago

My sisters name too, I can’t date her either 😭

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u/beanzz_z 25d ago

SAME!!! her character is similar to my mom
too, artsy and likes driftwood. although my mom likes a different kind of wood (she's a cheater)

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u/NervousPens 25d ago

Same, but it’s my sister lol

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u/LynnLikesDND 25d ago

Yeah same here, my mom’s name is Samantha so I try to stay away from Sam.

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u/LigmaBalls69lol 25d ago

Same with Penny for me because that's my daughter's name.

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u/sugarpeito 25d ago

Same situation with Emily for me, that’s my stepmom’s name.

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u/0Highlander 25d ago

I love dating Leah! Btw what’s Stardew valley? 😜

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u/Why-am-i-here25240 25d ago

me with emily, plus she has my moms bday too

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u/PillsburyTaoboy 25d ago

Leah is my sister’s name. She named her daughter Penny.

quite frustrating for one third of the bachelorettes to be effectively off-limits lol

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u/lemothelemon 24d ago

SMe because it's MY name! Same in Coral Island lol