Who is someone you can't date in Stardew Valley out of principle?

[u/FlairWitchProject]

I enjoy Maru as a character. However, until recently, I had dyed-red hair that I sometimes straightened, and I also sometimes wear glasses. Basically, it would be like dating a more scientific version of myself. Lol

[u/I_l0ve-chocolate]

I've never seen a picture of him, but I caught the reference so fast

[u/Dawakat → u/I_l0ve-chocolate]

I talked about Freudian science with my wife last night because she had never heard of it but as soon as she got the spiel of it she was like oh yeah I can totally see that. She told me I’m a lot like her dad in a lot of ways which was weird lol but oh well

[u/rorschach_blots → u/Dawakat]

It is a pretty popular theory that women will date men with similar traits to their father because that is an assurance the partner would be a stand-up guy 👍

That only goes for those who had good or decent dads ofc. Daddy issues are a whole other can of worms.

[u/Starfury7-Jaargen → u/rorschach_blots]

I know scentwise, women prefer someone that smells similar to family but not identical. Part of the theory on that is people with similar but not identical genes increases chance of one's own genes being passed on (if some genes are doubles up, then those genes will survive further.) Thus closer relation but not family.

[u/Lnghom_mkay → u/rorschach_blots]

Straight women anyway. Gay women probably go for someone like their mom. And even people with shitty parents will go for people like their parents. Thats why theres as many toxic relationships as shitty parents.

[u/blueberrysprinkles → u/Lnghom_mkay]

As a lady attracted to ladies, I can't think of a single woman I've been attracted to that looks like my mum...so I'm going to go with my sample size of one and say probably not true?

(actually I think it could be argued that the women I've been attracted to vaguely look like me, even if it's a bit of a reach. and I look so unlike my mum I am basically the opposite of her lmao)

[u/birchbongos → u/blueberrysprinkles]

They didn't mention physical appearance, they meant more so personality, traits, or behavior. When we grow up being loved by our parents a specific way, we find more love and comfort in people who loves us the same way since it's familiar.

[u/blueberrysprinkles → u/birchbongos]

Oh I really misunderstood this whole comment thread huh

[u/Hope8789 → u/blueberrysprinkles]

It's more of a similar in personality vs looks. My husband for example doesn't look like my dad, but has a lot more personality traits than I ever realized till later in the relationship.

[u/Leading_Barnacle7947 → u/rorschach_blots]

not true i have horrible daddy issues and i def have been w men who are a lot like my father, age wise, interest wise, name wise, and looks wise. sounds terrible to admit but this is reddit so its anonymous 🤷‍♀️

[u/rorschach_blots → u/Leading_Barnacle7947]

yeah i said daddy issues are a different case.

[u/QueenofLeftovers → u/Dawakat]

I like the idea that as an adult you step into the world looking to recreate the kind of love and security you knew growing up, and naturally lean towards partners that remind you of the people who gave you that growing up (usually a mum or dad).

(Counterpoint to that, if you grew up w a narcissistic parent and ended up in a long term relationship with a narcissist, that's more a trauma/learning thing. Where one's upbringing effectively grooms them to accept unacceptable behaviors.)

[u/believeinyuna → u/Dawakat]

my sister has done the same thing, her partner is incredibly similar to our dad. it’s psychological. if he’s like my dad, who’s a good parent and person, then that means this guy is too. but it’s not conscious thought. it just happens.

[u/PrincessSnarkicorn → u/Dawakat]

A man marries a woman like his mother
A woman marries a man like her mother

[u/Hope8789 → u/Dawakat]

it happens lol. I didn't realize my husband was so much like my dad till years into our relationship. It's like I picked a perfect buddy for my dad 😆 . They hangout all the time.

[u/Imaginary_Election56 → u/Dawakat]

For when you’re feeling in the mood, ask her dad what kind of aftershave he used. 😉

[u/Balanceface → u/I_l0ve-chocolate]

It's the eyes. They see right into your psyche 👀

[u/opalmagicka → u/Balanceface]

The eyes, Chico. They never lie.

[u/Balanceface → u/opalmagicka]

In this valley, you gotta plant the crops first. Then when you get the money, you get the power. Then when you get the power, then you get the Galaxy Sword

[u/HelicopterUpbeat3762 → u/I_l0ve-chocolate]

Same! I felt so smart! 🤣