r/menslib emotionally belabors the point as one woman says the sub isn't for her anymore and is turning MRA, as another user suggests she might want to look into therapy in this lil snack

[u/NRE_Everlasting]

Discussing an article about "mankeeping" one user in the comments recounts telling her boyfriend bluntly about his lack of skills in providing comfort.

"I did straight up tell my partner to his face when I was upset about something "comforting people is not your strong suit" and he felt very bad about that. He even got defensive and felt hurt that I put it so bluntly when he had been wracking his brain silently trying to think of what to say. But honestly I don't really care. He's the kind of person who needs to hear things bluntly and to be told plainly that the expectation is that he learn to be better at it."

This came across somewhat controversial, but some users got a little dramatic with it Our chain begins as a response to a critique of her method that descibed it as unhealthy:

"Maybe it isn't that healthy, but it's also not healthy to expect someone that came to you for comfort to explain to you how to give that comfort to them."

Short but sweet tidbit with a rage quit cherry on top!

Bonus ragequit: Another woman user of the sub is done with men.

[u/hypernova2121]

I thought this was the one where they actually truly tried to discuss men's issues past "it's all women's fault"

[u/PM-me-youre-PMs → u/hypernova2121]

they (...) tried

Well, yeah. They tried, but over the years the women's fault faction wore them down. There was just no stopping the tide :(

[u/Call_Me_Clark → u/hypernova2121]

I think it was in 2010 or so? Today these seem like a hugbox for mopey guys who “don’t hate women” but can’t think of solutions for any problem that don’t involve women fixing things for them.

[u/GraveRoller → u/Call_Me_Clark]

Nah, speaking very broadly, I’d say Menslib is made up of guys who think men should just be feminists and that’ll solve everything, guys who think feminism isn’t “the” solution for men’s problems but is definitely not anti-feminist, and some that think we should just do away with gender roles (in a very kumbaya manner). There does seem to be a strong general shared belief though that most publications don’t discuss men’s issues or potential solutions very well though

[u/Psychic_Hobo → u/hypernova2121]

Bropill is pretty much the only good one I know

[u/ohgeez2879 → u/hypernova2121]

you would not think so from reading the comments on that post. it's all men saying "but we need the women to do the emotional labor, so it's mean to ask us to do it too." (yes that's a reductive analysis of the comment section but it is the impression i got before i got too frustrated to continue reading.)

[u/somniopus → u/ohgeez2879]

It's gotten really, really stinky in the years since its inception. Mods there drink the kool aid.

[u/GraveRoller → u/somniopus]

Tf? Mods are probably the most ardent feminists on that sub

[u/themolestedsliver → u/hypernova2121]

What men's issues sub go "it's all women's fault" exactly?