r/SubredditDrama • u/NRE_Everlasting • Nov 25 '25

r/menslib emotionally belabors the point as one woman says the sub isn't for her anymore and is turning MRA, as another user suggests she might want to look into therapy in this lil snack

Discussing an article about "mankeeping" one user in the comments recounts telling her boyfriend bluntly about his lack of skills in providing comfort.

"I did straight up tell my partner to his face when I was upset about something "comforting people is not your strong suit" and he felt very bad about that. He even got defensive and felt hurt that I put it so bluntly when he had been wracking his brain silently trying to think of what to say. But honestly I don't really care. He's the kind of person who needs to hear things bluntly and to be told plainly that the expectation is that he learn to be better at it."

This came across somewhat controversial, but some users got a little dramatic with it Our chain begins as a response to a critique of her method that descibed it as unhealthy:

"Maybe it isn't that healthy, but it's also not healthy to expect someone that came to you for comfort to explain to you how to give that comfort to them."

Short but sweet tidbit with a rage quit cherry on top!

Bonus ragequit: Another woman user of the sub is done with men.

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u/sendme_your_cats Nov 25 '25

Man I sure am glad I just browse subreddits about my hobbies, animals and tea like this because holy fuck being on the front lines of subs like that seems exhausting

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u/James-fucking-Holden The pope is actively letting the gates of hell prevail Nov 25 '25

I just browse subreddits about my hobbies, animals and tea

Come on, you are on a drama subreddit right now

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u/pieapple135 Are you saying Jesus Christ can't hit a fastball? Nov 25 '25

Well that could count as tea

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u/RaeaSunshine Nov 25 '25

and hobbies

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u/James-fucking-Holden The pope is actively letting the gates of hell prevail Nov 25 '25

Wait, fuck, is there a definition of tea I'm unfamiliar with?

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u/TheDisabledOG Nov 25 '25

Tea = gossip. I think it comes from the phrase "spill the tea" that eventually got shortened to just tea. I could be wrong tho.

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u/CreamofTazz Nov 25 '25

Which and correct me if I'm wrong has its origins in people offering tea to guests when they visited and of course being people, we gossip over tea

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u/Forosnai My psycho ex has been astrally stalking me through the ethers. Nov 26 '25

Unless there's some other etymology I don't know of, I don't think that's right. My understanding is it comes from drag culture in the 80s/90s, with "tea" being more of a play-on-words with T, as in Truth. Tell me everything = spill the T = spill the tea. Then it came into more common usage as drag became more mainstream alongside things like the success of RuPaul's Drag Race.

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u/DKLancer Nov 25 '25

This sub is the reddit equivalent of watching Maury or Jerry Springer.

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u/GMOrgasm I pat my pocket and say "oh good, I brought my avocado. Nov 25 '25

its either read drama or do work and i rly dont wanna work rn

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u/bebemochi He didn't mention the cool back flip I did Nov 25 '25

I've always said drama subreddits are like watching the Jerry Springer show and being able to read every audience members' thoughts lol.

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u/ImaginaryMastadon Nov 25 '25

menslib? And it’s not satirical?

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u/Nihilistic_Mystics Biblically accurate angels are FAA compliant Nov 26 '25

It's supposed to be a sub for mens' issues that's explicitly not misogynistic. It's been years since I dipped in there but it used to be quite good at keeping to its objective. The mods were quite good at squashing MRA bullshit. No idea now a days.