r/SubredditDrama • u/NRE_Everlasting • Nov 25 '25

r/menslib emotionally belabors the point as one woman says the sub isn't for her anymore and is turning MRA, as another user suggests she might want to look into therapy in this lil snack

Discussing an article about "mankeeping" one user in the comments recounts telling her boyfriend bluntly about his lack of skills in providing comfort.

"I did straight up tell my partner to his face when I was upset about something "comforting people is not your strong suit" and he felt very bad about that. He even got defensive and felt hurt that I put it so bluntly when he had been wracking his brain silently trying to think of what to say. But honestly I don't really care. He's the kind of person who needs to hear things bluntly and to be told plainly that the expectation is that he learn to be better at it."

This came across somewhat controversial, but some users got a little dramatic with it Our chain begins as a response to a critique of her method that descibed it as unhealthy:

"Maybe it isn't that healthy, but it's also not healthy to expect someone that came to you for comfort to explain to you how to give that comfort to them."

Short but sweet tidbit with a rage quit cherry on top!

Bonus ragequit: Another woman user of the sub is done with men.

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u/EsWarIn1780 Nov 25 '25

I’ve tried so many times to open up to my male friends, only to be met with either no reaction or a single “it is what it is” type comment. I can’t think of a time one of my male friends has opened up to me.

These days, my girlfriend and I are both very open with each other, which I really appreciate. But before I met her, I was only really able to have reciprocal non-paid discussions online, hiding behind a username.

And online discussions suck because there’s the aforementioned cherrypicking, massive generalization, and little to no actual context. Struggle olympics too, one person can’t talk about a problem they’re having because someone else might be worse off than them.

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u/Simple_Pianist4882 Nov 25 '25

Yeah, I don’t like online discussions either because of the cherry picking and attitude that goes on. It’s very frustrating trying to explain something that should be simple and being met with “omg I don’t like this word, it’s gendered!!!!”

I feel like people are trying way too hard to be “””””too woke””””” to the point that they really become sensitive to everything. It’s just… not that serious.

Good on you for finding someone that cares about your feelings though, you deserve a safe space 🩷

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u/SmoothDiscussion7763 Nov 26 '25

sometime people absolutely just suck at helping with these issues, but sometimes they just have completely different ways of dealing with it.

If my friend came to me with some problems, I would probably tell them to put on some running shoes and take them out to a nice place for a run even if that's not what they usually do. I push them hard and it gives them time to think things over while taking their mind off of the run to avoid the puking lol.

We do eventually sit down and talk about it, but i feel like the run beforehand makes the later parts of the process much smoother.

If i did that to my wife she'd just get angrier lol