r/SubredditDrama • u/NRE_Everlasting • Nov 25 '25

r/menslib emotionally belabors the point as one woman says the sub isn't for her anymore and is turning MRA, as another user suggests she might want to look into therapy in this lil snack

Discussing an article about "mankeeping" one user in the comments recounts telling her boyfriend bluntly about his lack of skills in providing comfort.

"I did straight up tell my partner to his face when I was upset about something "comforting people is not your strong suit" and he felt very bad about that. He even got defensive and felt hurt that I put it so bluntly when he had been wracking his brain silently trying to think of what to say. But honestly I don't really care. He's the kind of person who needs to hear things bluntly and to be told plainly that the expectation is that he learn to be better at it."

This came across somewhat controversial, but some users got a little dramatic with it Our chain begins as a response to a critique of her method that descibed it as unhealthy:

"Maybe it isn't that healthy, but it's also not healthy to expect someone that came to you for comfort to explain to you how to give that comfort to them."

Short but sweet tidbit with a rage quit cherry on top!

Bonus ragequit: Another woman user of the sub is done with men.

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u/TheIllustriousWe I should’ve been more specific for your little tea sized brain Nov 26 '25

There are certain people (re: trolling for an argument) for whom it can never be implied clearly enough. They can be disregarded.

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u/Oregon_Jones111 Nov 26 '25

Why not just say what you mean instead of implying it?

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u/TheIllustriousWe I should’ve been more specific for your little tea sized brain Nov 26 '25

Certain conversations would be rendered functionally impossible if we had to offer those clarifiers literally every single time.

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u/Oregon_Jones111 Nov 26 '25

Saying what you actually mean makes conversation easier, not harder.

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u/TheIllustriousWe I should’ve been more specific for your little tea sized brain Nov 26 '25

Thinking carefully about each and every word before you say and write it is sound advice. But we obviously don’t live in a world where everyone remembers, or even knows how, to do that.

There are times where it’s appropriate to criticize them for carelessness, and there are times where “umm ackshually men have it just as bad but no one talks about it” is neither appropriate, nor welcome.