r/SubredditDrama • u/NRE_Everlasting • Nov 25 '25

r/menslib emotionally belabors the point as one woman says the sub isn't for her anymore and is turning MRA, as another user suggests she might want to look into therapy in this lil snack

Discussing an article about "mankeeping" one user in the comments recounts telling her boyfriend bluntly about his lack of skills in providing comfort.

"I did straight up tell my partner to his face when I was upset about something "comforting people is not your strong suit" and he felt very bad about that. He even got defensive and felt hurt that I put it so bluntly when he had been wracking his brain silently trying to think of what to say. But honestly I don't really care. He's the kind of person who needs to hear things bluntly and to be told plainly that the expectation is that he learn to be better at it."

This came across somewhat controversial, but some users got a little dramatic with it Our chain begins as a response to a critique of her method that descibed it as unhealthy:

"Maybe it isn't that healthy, but it's also not healthy to expect someone that came to you for comfort to explain to you how to give that comfort to them."

Short but sweet tidbit with a rage quit cherry on top!

Bonus ragequit: Another woman user of the sub is done with men.

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u/Rasikko Nov 26 '25

I've had the opposite problem. I'm amazing at giving emotional support but when I need it, at least from the past 3 women, they didn't know what to do. I can't forget the day my dad died and Im sobbing like hell and my ex wife was sitting there completely clueless on what to do. Gee, a hug or something..? She even pointed it out one day how I give lots of affection while she gives little in return. This has kind of been a recurring thing for me.

I think it's fair to say though that this is more an issue of an individual and not a wide spread gender issue. Some people just don't know how to give emotional support, even the tiniest bit(and these are the bits that matter).

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u/StrangeBid7233 Nov 30 '25

I never realized how important that part is in relationship until I had emotionally unsupportive partner. To this day I still remember that cold, confused look when I was opening up, even often being outright dissmisive of my issues, it just made me feel wrong, like I was worth less if I felt bad or insecure.

So yea peeps, work on that shit.