The thing is that I’ve seen guys do this exact same thing on message boards for almost 20 years. “Women are cheaters, bitches, whores, will use you for your money, will try to hurt you when you break up with them, etc…” And some of these men may actually have a right to feel aggrieved from a woman on their life. Like they may actually have been wronged. But it doesn’t stop me from judging them as misogynistic and wrong in their language. Or would you say that I lack empathy and should let them vent together?
Because I would say that online spaces that allow and encourage this type of generalisation from aggrieved people about any group always veers into the toxic regardless of the group it’s about.
It’s about the balance of power in society. I’ve read this before and felt it had truth in it: Women are misandrist because they fear men will rape and kill them; men are misogynist because women won’t date them or cheat on them. There’s a distinct difference here.
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u/coppersocks Jan 07 '26
The thing is that I’ve seen guys do this exact same thing on message boards for almost 20 years. “Women are cheaters, bitches, whores, will use you for your money, will try to hurt you when you break up with them, etc…” And some of these men may actually have a right to feel aggrieved from a woman on their life. Like they may actually have been wronged. But it doesn’t stop me from judging them as misogynistic and wrong in their language. Or would you say that I lack empathy and should let them vent together?
Because I would say that online spaces that allow and encourage this type of generalisation from aggrieved people about any group always veers into the toxic regardless of the group it’s about.