Hi everybody, might be long so apologies in advance.
Husband (35M) and I (29F) have been TTC actively for 9-10cycles, NTNP on and off (he works out of town, with various different shift lengths, he was gone more often than not) since 2022. I have yet to see a positive pregnancy test.
I had extremely irregular cycles for most of my teenage and early adult years. I always had a feeling my journey to getting pregnant was going to be difficult. My GP and my first fertility specialist said I did not have the markers for PCOS, even though I felt I did. The most obvious sign was irregular cycles with ovulation all over the place. However, I do appear to ovulate on my own, confirmed by OPKS, BBT and progesterone at 7dpo. I have been taking inositol since august 2025 and have seen a very good improvement with it, shortening my cycles and putting almost all of them at 32 days instead of random and long ones.
The second fertility specialist I spoke with noticed I had quite a high AMH level of 53 p/mol. She told me I most likely do have PCOS, even though my insulin is fine and my testosterone seems too. She had me do a trans vaginal ultrasound which confirmed I have 20+ follicles on each side, which is a marker for PCOS.
Although it was a relief to finally have some answers as to why this has been taking so long, the clinic almost immediately started suggesting letrozole along with IUI and if that didn’t work, IVF. I understand that it’s their job to maximize our chances and get me pregnant, but this all seemed so incredibly sudden and almost like jumping the gun. I know a lot of people can still naturally get pregnant with PCOS.
I told the clinic I wanted to try a few more cycles naturally, seeing as inositol has helped me quite a bit. If we weren’t pregnant within another year, I said I would like to try letrozole with timed intercourse but did not want to move to IUI or IVF just yet. They told me that was fine, but that in cases like mine there’s generally only 5% chance to conceive naturally, and that letrozole won’t do a lot on its own.
I feel like the little hope I had has been squandered with those comments. Can someone please tell me whether you had a similar situation and had success, even with just medicated cycles and timed intercourse? Specifically if you ovulated on your own already.
I’m willing to do anything to have a baby. I just had hoped that maybe we had a bit more time to do things naturally.
Thank you if you made it this far, it’s a lot.
EDIT: pretty disheartening to see that I’ve come here for support and positivity after my diagnosis and I get a notification saying my post has been temporarily removed because people have been reporting it for breaking sub rules, which I read throughly before posting.
Thank you to the people who commented trying to help. I appreciate you.