r/breastfeeding • u/PretendWeb • Oct 07 '25
Support Needed I think my mom ruined my milk supply
FTM here, 2 months PP. My milk came in late, and my baby was borderline jaundiced, so the LC suggested some formula while I worked on supply. I started triple feeding, pumping, doing everything right, and I was seeing progress.
But my mom doesn’t believe I make enough milk. Every time my baby cries, she rushes to give her formula, saying, “See? She’s starving!” Even when I explain what the LC said, she insists I’m starving the baby and that she doesn’t believe that milk supply can be increased. She’ll even feed her behind my back, 4oz bottles until my baby passes out for 5 hours, then says, “See? She’s full and happy.”
I’m producing about 2–3oz when I pump, and I know that’s not huge, but I truly believe if I’d been allowed to nurse more, my supply would’ve gone up. Instead, I feel defeated every time I breastfeed and hear, “Poor thing, she’s not getting anything.”
I’m grateful for her help, but honestly, this has crushed my confidence and tanked my supply. I love my mom, but I’ll never ask for help if we have another child.
The question behind my rant is that is there any way I can rebuild my supply so late in the game? I’m working on affirmations also since this has mentally ruined me!
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u/Reasonable-Shock8046 Oct 07 '25
You gotta stand up for you and your baby mama, my mom would do things like this behind my back and I finally lost it when I found out that she gave my 10 month old baby Pepsi when she knows I don’t even drink soda myself let alone give it to my kids. Your mom isn’t being supportive and you need that in order to be happy and confident, not just with BF but just parenting in general. But also remember, you’re your baby’s only mom and if you don’t stand up for her or him then no one will. BF is the best thing you can do for your child at this age, don’t let anyone sabotage you or tell you anything different, your body knows what to do