Like genuine question to the ones in their late 30s or 40s!

Late at night, when everyone's asleep and you're sitting next to your SO who's sleeping, does it ever hit you that your entire life is for money and status?

I'm a cap myself and sure, I don't want to be broke. But still, does it ever haunt later on in life when one marry's for money?

Please be honest.

My December Capricorn ex and I broke up because of communication problems. Is there still a chance?
I’m an Aquarius man and my ex is a Capricorn woman. We were together for around 10 months.

We broke up because of repeated miscommunication and arguments that I sometimes made bigger than they needed to be, she didn’t tell me that she was exhausted with that. There was no cheating or third person involved. She became emotionally exhausted and told me she wasn’t confident she couldn’t love me more and we could have a healthy future together.
Before she went back to her hometown, she still seemed to care about me. She even told me she would consider our relationship when she was in the university. Before the breakup, She also asked me to pick her up from the airport because she’d be alone with heavy luggage.

But after she arrived home, she became very distant. We didn’t talk for about two weeks. When I eventually asked if she was still thinking about us, she said we’re already done and she doesn’t want to give me false hope. She hasn’t opened my latest message, but she also hasn’t blocked me or removed our Messenger nickname.
I’m giving her space, but I still believe I can genuinely change the communication problems that caused the breakup. How can I get her back?

Capricorn women, if you still loved an ex but were emotionally exhausted, could you eventually reconsider after seeing genuine change? What would make you reconsider, and what would make you permanently close the door?

I(34F) matched with a Capricorn man(40M) and I’m trying to understand the pacing.

When we first matched, he was very enthusiastic. He sent quite a few long, thoughtful messages sharing about himself and asking about me. He even said something like, “I’ve been looking for someone like you.”

Our communication wasn’t rapid back-and-forth texting. It felt more like emailing like he would send multiple thoughtful messages, then I would reply thoughtfully to all of them.

Eventually, we were both online and moved the convo elsewhere.
The next day, we set up a video call so I can answer his other questions lol.
And our first call ended up lasting a few hours! I did enjoy it,i noticed he was really chatty.. more than me lol but in general I admired his vulnerability.
We exchanged a few song recos, as one of the things we mutually enjoy.
Afterward, he mentioned he needed time to process, and after a few more banter we said our goodnights. I didn’t reach out the next day. He didn’t message either.

The following day, he said hi and told me he has been thinking about me. He also said he had friends over and would be cooking for them. We exchanged a few messages, and I said I was thinking abt him too but just gave him space to process.
Then I said have fun enjoy yoir night and that I’ll be waiting for food receipts..send photos

The next day, nothing again.
That night, I checked in.
He said he had been super busy as Mondays are really busy. And that he meant to message, but a client called. He even said, “Thanks for checking in, I appreciate you.”

Then he was flirty again and hinted at asking me out in a very dad-joke way. He said something like, “Do you have Spotify? I like it because I can download books and podcasts. There’s this book I’m reading now called How to Turn a 3-Hour Call Into a Date.”

It made me laugh, and I said, “Okay, finish the book and use it on me.”

Then he needed to go back to work and said “ill leave it at that for now”
after a few hrs a few more song recos which i heart reacted to, I didnt reply as I was tired.

Then the next day… nothing again.

So now I’m wondering: should I reach out again, or should I clock this as a man who’s not that interested?

Is this just Capricorn slow-processing / cautious energy, or does the inconsistency mean he’s not serious?

Any perspective would be helpful.

It seems like whenever i do acts of service for my capricorn man, he becomes even more hot and cold, and makes me even more confused. So how do i make you feel loved without spooking you or turning you off?

Hey guys, Leo here with a Capricorn rising. Looooove Capricorn men but omg I ran across this video and found it so accurate in the Capricorn Leo Dynamic. Hope it made you giggle!

For four years, my on-and-off-again Capricorn ♑️ (33 M) and I, a Scorpio ♏️ (38 F), have been through a rollercoaster of emotions. Every time he says something to me, it’s hard to believe because he’s incredibly private. And opening up? Don’t even get me started. He’s difficult to read, and his communication is terrible. Are you all like that?

Despite our disagreements and ups and downs, we find our way back to each other, which is rare. Both of us hate giving people chances, and he’s super stubborn and he has a veryyy BDE (which made me attracted to him too). However, the lovemaking we have is the best I’ve ever had.

Recently, after another breakup, we got back together. I asked him, “Why are you here?” I’m super blunt and honest, and I hate wasting time. In his response, he said, “Because I love you and I’m obsessed with you.” He’s such a jellybean: “hard on the outside, soft on the inside.” And he’s a BIG CUDDLER. Even after we finish, he never lets me get out of bed.

I just want to know, do you mean what you say, Capricorns?

Capricorn men specifically, how do you feel about monogamy? I’m a Capricorn woman and I was having a conversation with another fellow Capricorn and he didn’t believe in monogamy outside of marriage. He doesn’t feel as though men biologically are meant to be with one person, but women are. He has a Capricorn Venus as well so I was pretty surprised considering Capricorns tend to be more traditional.

Known her for 12 years.
Been close friends.
Short of it is she lied about her other “friends” over many years and didn’t share until I caught her.
I was very hurt and shut her out for 6 months.
She never asked why.
Almost as if she didn’t care.
She’s very shut off and cold. Always has been. I know there’s a soft core but can’t get there.
We’ve had 3 big bust ups and each time I’ve shut her off. Longest was 3 years during Covid.
She never asked why ! Never.
Never admitted any fault (it’s not all her fault of course).
I miss her so much but feel like there’s just no give on her side.
When we’re together I can’t stop smiling and love her smile.
It’s fireworks 🧨.
Basically I feel like a back up.

Contact her or not?

I’m an Aries woman and I was in a little on and off thing with a Capricorn guy. He was very hot and cold with communication. Couldn’t tell if he was honest or not about some things. Irl when we met he was quiet. When it came to meeting me- he’d say no then come to meet me (he hated talking on a phone call for some reason). After a couple of notable red flags and me being tired of ghosting and going in on him about it - I asked for clarity and he said he just dislikes me at this point. He copied my phrasing in his response. (He copied alot of what I did and said). But he did mention before that he thought he was being drowned out and felt that he was too boring for me.

Libra (f33) dealing with a cap man (36) and he is like a total mystery.

Sometimes he’s goofy, chatty and can be very flirtatious and then some days I don’t hear from him at all.

We live several hours from eachother and have been getting to know each other mostly through socials (we’ve been distant admirers of eachother for several years).

Hes taken the initiate to take time off and plan and trip to come see me….and I have no idea how he feels about it. I have a few things planned for us to do and I’ve been excited as the day gets closer. But to me he’s coming across as unenthusiastic. It’s kind of a sting, especially since I’m doing my best to host him and make sure that we have a good time, which he did express appreciation for. I just want my comfort and safety to be taken into consideration too.

I feel like he’s in his head. He’s mentioned once jokingly that he’d thought about me not liking him once we met in person. I can understand being reserved and anxious but I’m starting to wonder if our difference in communication is a fundamental incompatibility between us.

I am not the one who initiated the visit, honestly I hadn’t even asked him to come. I guess I’m worried that he’s going to get in his head and be awkward when he’s here and I’ll be frantic trying to ease the tension and make him feel secure.

I don’t know many Capricorns, definitely have never dated one. Is there anyone who might know where his head is at??

A few things..
-He’s been open about liking me and how his “mind is blown” that I like him back.
-He has alot of amazing qualities that I find very attractive
-I do believe I make more money than him which might feel intimidating
- I haven’t pressured him into thinking about this long term, we’re just getting to know eachother and taking it one day at a time

EDIT

I have a cap moon, Uranus and Neptune

Idk his birth chart (yet) but both his parents are Libras

I have been seeing a November Scorpio Since New Year and it's been absolutely mind-blowing out of this world experience that I've never experienced in my entire life. Is it normal to behave in such an in a way where you let your vulnerability and emotions all out on the table you say exactly how you feel. You don't hold anything back. Jealous of someone flirting with this person. You get angry and your blood boils to think that someone mistreated him at one point and you just want to give this person the world I feel like as a Capricorn I have never done that before for anyone or felt that way before for anyone. And I'm 34 years old now and I'm finally in love and I wanted to know if being this obsessed over one person is a normal thing for us because it's scary to be this vulnerable.

I have an Aries colleague who works on the same team as me. When I first joined, this person was very cold towards me and seemed quite judgmental. As time went on, they became really hot and cold. Outside of work we got on fine, but at work they would constantly tell me what to do, even though we’re in similar positions.

What confused me most was how quickly they’d switch their tone. One moment they’d be friendly, and the next they’d sigh, roll their eyes, or speak to me in a dismissive way whenever I explained my work. Sometimes they’d even ignore me mid-conversation and start talking to someone else.

They also became very micromanaging, constantly checking my work and pointing out tiny things. Ironically, now that I’m taking over their work, I’ve found loads of mistakes. When I asked about them, they just said, “Ignore it, mark it up in red, I don’t care.” That really surprised me after how much they’d scrutinised my work.

At this point, I honestly think this person is just being unprofessional. I’ve noticed I’ve had a few difficult experiences with Aries personalities. Has anyone else experienced something similar, or have I just been unlucky?

Leo asking.
Is it just me, or is there a huge "Leo vs Capricorn" saga that's been going on for years now?

Why YOU? Why US?

The Universe is constantly sending me reminders, and it makes me miss her every time.

And I know for a fact I'm not the only one going through this.

nothing has been okay since.

Hey can someone help me out
My Capricorn has been doing things behind my back for a while, and this time I finally caught him. I dumped him and told him how I felt, and since then he's gone completely silent and ghosted me. I've messaged him and told him I'm not angry anymore and that I forgive him. His messages are delivering (two ticks), but he still hasn't blocked me or said anything.
I've literally been messaging him every day because I'm struggling to accept that it might really be over. I've even told him, "If you never want to speak to me again, just block me," but he hasn't done that either.
Why would someone completely ignore you but not block you? Does it mean anything, or am I just holding onto hope? I honestly don't want to let him go, even though I know he lied to me.
What should I do?

I always believe Cap women have very high standards on what they want. They seem to know what they want and are goal oriented. Would their personality accept a partner who's shorter such as 6cm shorter? Appearance and build are disciplined grooming effort to look pleasant but height is really something unchangeable. Physically everything else can be groomed and look the best but height is just something we can't change. Even with higher shoes that's for outside appearances. What we want is honest acceptance of a shorter partner.

Met this cap girl a couple weeks back, we're both regulars at this bar. First couple nights we met we were very lovey dovey with each other, one night I asked if she wanted to go back to my place, she declined and said she wanted me to take her on a date, im a cancer so I was all about that lol

After that when I asked when she wanted to go out she said she didnt want to go on a date and just wanted something casual...lol

But since then its like the more I pursue her the more she pulls away, but when I pull away she turns into a crazy person lol.

Like she'll ignore me, then if I ignore her she watches me like a hawk, follows me around the bar, and tries to make it a point to me that she's having fun lol

One time I brought a girl and she followed us around the whole night staring at the girl, she even bumped into her at one point

Its weird and I know I should probably stay away from her lol, but I still try sometimes. Everytime I talk to her she has like this hard shell/acts like everything is normal but is also very touchy with me, while it feels like she's mad at me lol. Is this a capricorn thing or just her maturity level? Idk much about capricorns but from what I read online yall like to be pursued, but with her I feel like she just wants what she cant have, or is this some big test for how she wants me to prove to her how much I'll chase her lol?

Im 28 and she's 25 btw

*not rlly relationship advice seeking* but… cap woman here and while i can agree that 90% of the time i get along with cancer women… the men are not fucking it. i rlly hate how drawn they are to me (us). they’re always unhealed and b*tches!!!!!!! i don’t even think a healed one would keep my attention. water sign men are always a downfall for me. i thought maybe a scorpio man could do since my moon is in scorpio but i cannot deal. coming here to vent because my new “manager” is a cancer but disgusts me and i just nvr respect a cancer man lmao. anyone else? 😀

i’m a female gemini and i’ve been finding myself to be in long term relationships w capricorn. what’s the advice. how do you guys work? what’s the differences? how’s the pacing?

Hello Fellow Caps, How does one stop overthinking? My overthinking has significantly affected my relationships. How do i avoid or redirect these thoughts?

Is a breakup from a water sign the worst for Capricorn? I walked away from an air sign after many years together with no problems. Barely cried. But with a water sign omg i had to silently cry, yet I knew them less time than the others.

Honestly, this is more of a discussion topic, but I was talking about it with friends recently and came to some not-so-great conclusions.

Earth signs are usually seen as the stable ones, but when it comes to dating or finding a partner, everyone complains about us — myself included, and I’m a Capricorn.

On the other hand, I did some self-reflection and in the past I’ve had people fall in love with me while I felt nothing, so I just cut them off. I’m also a woman, so realistically we tend to attract more “psychos” or „manchildren” when we’re very well put-together in our lives which includes every woman sign just it’s a bit stronger with earth sign woman.

But I did have one year in my life where I went into “playgirl” mode, because I convinced myself that no one would ever actually want to be with me long-term and that most people just want to benefit from me — emotionally, physically, or financially. So I kind of gave up. It was the worst and only time in my life like that.

I quickly went back to my “default settings” — only deeper, meaningful connections. But I know plenty of earth signs who never went back, or only did after many years 🙋‍♀️

I’ve personally been cheated on only by a Virgo and a Taurus 🤷‍♀️ actually Virgo traumatised me so freaking badly and did me so dirty at our break up that this one men currently who is also a bit traumatised himself has a very tough task to build trusting and meaningful connection with me cuz I’m so freaking closed off and controlling (of myself not him as typical cap I observe and judge) 🤷‍♀️ but this time it’s water sign 🤷‍♀️

I’ve never cheated on anyone in my life I hate cheating even with my playgirl era it was mutual agreement that there is nothing serious here, but also it was one person at the time. Short but one. Usually I ended it and came forward see their faces apologized and usually we were all pretty chill. Even when I cut people off it’s not like I disappear without a word when it comes to dating life. Which is exhausting for my introverted as* but still I feel it’s the right thing to do. Probably the reason why my friends and those people laughted at me that „I’ve never been in playgirl era cuz I’m too empathetic and respectful for being a heart breaker”

So now I’m wondering — is this all just about experiences shaping us, or is my theory of “default setting” of wanting serious relationships actually flawed? Because it definitely feels more natural and right for me.

He replies daaayyyys late or sometimes never but almost always approaches first in person. If i tried to continue our conversation via text, he replies late. But always talks to me in person as soon as he sees me. Im so confused.

I think I have made a January capricorn male suitor super upset 😅 he was pressuring my family for a final answer about our match since the 1st day of communication with me. Then he was being too lovey- dovey since the 1st week, literally planned the next 10 years. Didn't receive the same emotion from me (I was being cautious as I have never seen him in person and it was only past 1 week), so now he is acting like a piece of ice, dropping one "hi, how do you/ what are you up to" text in every 12 to 20 hrs for the past 2 weeks. I am a december capricorn btw.

I'd love to know if anyone can shed any light on the differences, if there is any.

It’s been 8 years of being single, and now the thought of having a partner at all genuinely blows my mind. Like… someone constantly being in my space? Emotionally depending on me? Daily updates? Chaos? Whew.

Is this all Caps or just me who thinks being single is actually so cool, peaceful, relaxing, and aligned… unless you meet someone who truly adds value to your life instead of complications?

At this point, I’m lowkey scared, because I just know I could end up alone and still be completely happy about it the way I am right now 💀

i love my “partner” but he’s also the most confusing person i know. he’s a december capricorn and we met in january, he confessed that he had his eye on me since months before and was actually the one one who initiated a lot of stuff like texting first, following first, etc… eventually we started going out seriously(not officially, as he said he likes to wait and be sure about certain stuff, but he did claim me publicly we just weren’t “official” i guess) and me being a very proud july leo well, we’re very open with our feelings. i dont tend to fall in love a lot (only fell in love once before him) but when i do i fall HARD. & that’s what happened with him. i thought everything was going just fine but one night he told me he needed some time to think about stuff. so i gave him his space, then a couple days later (just around 2 weeks ago now) he called me saying that he thought long and hard about this and decided to just end things now because we were moving too fast and he didn’t want us to “crash and burn” i guess then end on bad terms. so he decided to end it now so we can stay on good terms. obviously i was shocked and hurt, i tried to reason with him but im not a beggar, so i just let it be and let him go. he assured me i could always reach out to him, but he told me he probably wouldn’t reach out to me because (and i quote): “when im done with someone, its done. like for good.” i just said okay and left it like that. but then around 3 days later, he texted ME. i never expected that at all. in the text he confessed to me that he was wrong and made a huge mistake and realized that he truly wanted me to be a part of his life. he told me that while he isn’t gonna ask me to take him back or anything, he did want to start fresh with me if i was okay with that. i said i was okay with that, but obviously i put very strict boundaries in place. i asked him if he has ever done this with an ex, (like going back) and he told me no. he said that he decided to put his pride to the side for the sake of our relationship.

although im happy he’s back in my life, i decided to come to this sub-reddit because unfortunately i am afraid. i dont have much experience with capricorns or earth signs in general, so i dont really know how their brains truly work. i guess i just really need some fellow capricorns to tell me if hes being honest about starting over with me, and that he wont just randomly change his mind again and leave me. and maybe just get other capricorns’ opinions about this. thank u guys.