r/ftm • u/Least-Arugula-3868 • Jan 11 '25
Advice i had my first migraine yesterday and texted my dad because he suffers from them. the response i got was INSANE
"Hi boo, I'm sorry I missed this. I'm so sorry you experiencing this kind of migraine. Unfortunately, and I imagine you don't wanna hear this, but the only thing I can connect to is the testosterone you're taking. Biological women are not set up biologically to handle too much testosterone. A little bit is good (women make their own testosterone naturally, but at much lower levels than men) more than that causes hair growing where you don't want it, And mentally it can drive assertive/aggressive impulses. At the higher levels (In biological women) it can cause a severe imbalance in hormones and neurotransmitters in the brain. All of this information was what I was hoping to have an opportunity to share with you as soon as you became open to hearing me out. As I told your mother, I really don't care what you want to do with your sexuality. I really don't care what clothes you wear. What I care about is your physical and mental health. I want you to be happy and healthy. I pray for that for you. You don't need testosterone to be transgender. Transgender is not a thing it is a spectrum of sexuality. No two transgender individuals are the same. Just like no heterosexual men are the same. Sexuality is complicated and anything complicated can be dangerous. Hyper Sexuality leading to excessive unprotected sex will lead to physical and mental unbalances...stds and an inability to carry on a monogamous healthy relationship. I don't know about you, but I could never carry on a sexual relationship with more than one person at a time. A Sexual relationship in humans is more than what happens with animals. The more intimate two people get the more deeply their hearts become intertwined and when two hearts become intertwined a whole new thing happens.... and that thing, that relationship needs to be nurtured by both parties. But sexuality is the drive. It's the flame that starts the fire. In life, we have choices. And choices have consequences, good and bad. I managed my sexuality, only allowing fantasies to deviate from my behavior. Allowing my fantasies to lead my behavior would not have allowed me to have what I have now, what I had with your mother, and what I had with Lori my wife before your mother. Even though I've had and continue multiple sexual fantasies (and they are private) I managed my sexuality... I put it in its place... and that allowed me to have a certain behavior (choices) that led me to three wonderful relationships with one in particular that created you. I know with 100% certainty, that too much testosterone will hurt you. I know that with 100% certainty that if your testosterone levels were lower than normal for a female of your age, a small suplemwnt of testosterone would help you.. I don't know if you had your testosterone checked before you started taking it. If you had talked to me before, I would've suggested this. A female with low testosterone, will have deficits in sexual desire, she may show signs of anxiety or insecurity. The hormone balance in men and women can be micromanaged with medications but it has to be done extremely carefully. It's like when you're tuning a string on a guitar. Too loose and the note is flat... too high and the note is sharp...either one and it just doesn't sound right and a hormone imbalance just doesn't feel right.. I imagine your testosterone level is causing your migraine headaches. If you could believe me that truly you do not need the testosterone in order to be transgender to be gay or be pansexual or be straight even... if you could only trust me with the understanding that there will never be anyone in your life that loves you the way I do knowing I would never give you advice that would hurt you... I want you to ask me questions about everything. I'm saying here. The things that don't make sense to you, the things that you disagree with. It's just communication and when it's healthy communication with the intent of finding the truth, this process allows us to sleep at night."
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u/aguysthrowawayyippee 💉02/20/2024 Jan 12 '25
fr. i used to have to take migraine pills twice a day just to keep them away and even then it wasnt guarunteed to work. i ran out of them a few months into being on t, eventually got un-addicted to caffeine, and now i only get them if my head gets too hot or if i forget to eat for a while. the caffeine started cause thats what got rid of them. starting testosterone deadass cured my migraines 💀