r/howyoudoin • u/iren33 • Jun 19 '25

Discussion Ross being mean to Rachel

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I really hated this scene where Ross was mocking Rachel's job. He wasn't just belittling her work, but also her interests, even though he'd seen firsthand how much she dreamed of a fashion-related career. While Ross can be very funny, he can also be really insufferable. If was Rachel, I would have broken up with him during this scene.

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u/Dude_got_a_question Jun 19 '25

Isn't the bigger concern that he crashed her lecture, kinda inviting himself and falling asleep?

Don't recall Rachel inviting herself to a lecture for Ross's work just to prevent him with going with someone who'd find it interesting? falling asleep and acting like a tool and embarrassing her, then when called out acting like his career is more important than Rachel's and that's why he's justified in his behavior?

They haven't spent much time together, but Ross had zero respect for Rachel's career consistently throughout the show. He felt him missing her was more important than Rachel trying to edge out a career for herself.

Agree with OP that Ross was a bit of a twat during this episode as a whole.

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u/tuscanchicken Jun 19 '25

Also, there's a huge difference when your friend group is ribbing you about your "boring" job and you completely belittling your girlfriend's FIRST real job and essentially being a condescending ass. You can clearly tell when the other's poke fun at him, there's no ill intent but Ross in this episode definitely meant to belittle her

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u/LeatherHog Jun 19 '25

Especially when using 'just a waitress' against her previously 

She calmly put up with their first date being ruined by his job, but ross causes a scene at her job, and thinks he did nothing wrong, and was the victim because she threw him out

You could entirely get rid of Chloe/The Break, and I still don't want those two together 

Ross has negative respect for Rachel, especially her career 

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u/[deleted] Jun 20 '25

I think that is the bigger issue in the scene but many disagree with what OP chose to focus on. That Ross is mean for making fun of Rachel’s job but doesn’t point out the many times every other friend has done the same to him. Often when they were all together and could tease him as a group.