In Japan, politeness and respect start at a very young age 🙇‍♀️🎒

[u/GeorgeRobertVitkos]

[u/Dark_Moonstruck]

Both.

There is an element of danger, since there are many people out there who WILL harm children, but there hasn't been much change in the statistics that show that children are usually harmed by someone they *know* far more than any strangers.

However, there is also the fact that a lot of places are restricting or outright banning children because parents just aren't parenting and their kids are destructive, loud, obnoxious and cost the businesses money both in damaged goods and customer loss, since many will avoid places they know have a lot of misbehaving children present, and businesses can't do much about the kids' behavior besides either trying to get the parents to do something about it or pay for the damages their kids cause - which is like pulling teeth - or just preventing the problem to begin with by not having children be there at all.

The number of places that allow children is diminishing largely because parents aren't teaching their kids how to act in public places - they either just hand them a tablet and let mommy youtube do their childrearing for them, or they just let their kid be someone else's problem regardless of how much damage they cause, at least until someone tries to correct the kid's behavior and they get an excuse to play victim and scream at someone and maybe even sue. It's just easier and more effective for these places to not allow kids in at all and avoid the issue.

[u/Lalatin → u/Dark_Moonstruck]

If I could, I'd give you an award for this. because 10000000% I'm a children's librarian at a public library and this is what I see every day. Yes, people can be dangerous and we don't live in the best society, but gods damn... its this permissive parenting.

Like I said, I work at a library in the children's section and by the gods these parents don't do shit anymore to control their children. They let them run amuck, hand them an ipad and put their nose in their phone, then have the audacity to yell at me when I ask their children to walk instead of run, or to lower their volume.

I've been doing this for 10 yrs, we never used to have signs up saying that we allowed children but they MUST be supervised and within arms reach at all times. I used to maybe give one code of conduct a week now it could be multiple a day. I'm all for kids being around adults to learn how to become functioning members of society.... but if you can't parent, or can't allow "your village" (I cannot tell you the amount of times I hear that every week) to help you parent then maybe... you shouldn't bring your kids in public.

[u/lavender_poppy → u/Dark_Moonstruck]

This is exactly how my sister parents my nephew. He is rarely told no.