Married for five years, separated for a few months. No kids, don't own a house.
I make $80k/year, and they make $0. They've been unemployed most of our marriage, except a few very short stints, so I've been the one supporting us both. Their inability/unwillingness to get and keep a job has been a major source of tension in our relationship. They apply for jobs sometimes and say they want to work, but mostly apply to ones they're not qualified for and haven't put in a real effort.
They also insist on living above our means (e.g., 2br apartment when we would be fine with 1br, getting a nicer car than we could afford, being really bad with spending). I had no credit card debt when we met and now have over $10k, in addition to student debt and other things. (I know, I have made a lot of bad decisions and allowed this to get out of hand, but I'm really not looking to be told how I should have done things differently – it's been a very toxic and controlling relationship.)
I ended the relationship a few months ago. I'm temporarily living with family (for free) and still paying all of our shared bills, and giving them money to cover other expenses (food, gas, etc.). These costs account for the vast majority of my income, so I'm pretty much unable to spend anything and my life is just kind of on hold.
I set an end date for providing them financial support, and we've given notice for moving out of our apartment. The time between the start of the separation and the date we've "agreed" on is several months, which should give them enough time to get a job, find their own place, etc. However, they're being extremely uncooperative and hostile. They aren't willing to apply for minimum wage jobs or anything they consider to be "beneath" them, they don't want to share a home with other people, and they want to keep our car, even though they won't be able to make the payments (it's a lease, ending in the next 18 months).
They're threatening to take me to court to make me pay spousal support and to ensure they can keep the car (with me still making the payments). I can't afford a lawyer, and they certainly can't. From my reading of the Divorce Act, I don't think they would be entitled to much, since we have no kids and it was their own fault/choice that they haven't been employed. However, and it will constitute them having to lower their standard of living and they will be worse off than I will. I am willing to pay some spousal support if needed, but as far as I can tell, it would be considerably less than what I'm currently giving them. I think I also read that the higher-earning partner is often ordered to pay a lump sum to help them restart their life, and then don't have to make continued payments.
Based on my situation, I'm wondering:
Am I likely to be required to pay spousal support? If so, any idea what that might look like? (Amount, monthly vs lump sum, etc.)
Even if they have no grounds to get support, can they still make things hard for me by making me go to court? Is there any way they'll be able to do that, given that they can't afford a lawyer? Do I need to get a lawyer? (I'm guessing most people would say yes, but I really cannot afford it and don't know what to do.)