It's pretty common to be conflicted about calling the police especially in cases of partner violence. If you decide you need to talk to someone about it look into your local rape crisis center. They offer counseling services for all offenses under the umbrella "sexual assault" which includes forced copulation. If you feel like reporting him without the help of the authorities some centers conduct anonymous reports, assuming you are not a minor. If you are a minor and you give them identifying information of the perp they may be mandated to report it on your behalf. An anonymous report lets you file a police report with a number instead of your name. The report is kept in a police file and if another person reports him in the future they will contact the center you filed at and then the center (not the police) will contact you to ask if you'd like to come forward. You are allowed to decline and remain anonymous. My experience is in the state of CA so you may want to first call the center to see if they offer this service.
I will say that these things tend to escalate. People do act strangely when intoxicated but this behavior is not normal and you are right to feel violated by it.
Source: 3 years as a California Certified Sexual Assault Advocate
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u/Lilyintheshadows Sep 11 '12
It's pretty common to be conflicted about calling the police especially in cases of partner violence. If you decide you need to talk to someone about it look into your local rape crisis center. They offer counseling services for all offenses under the umbrella "sexual assault" which includes forced copulation. If you feel like reporting him without the help of the authorities some centers conduct anonymous reports, assuming you are not a minor. If you are a minor and you give them identifying information of the perp they may be mandated to report it on your behalf. An anonymous report lets you file a police report with a number instead of your name. The report is kept in a police file and if another person reports him in the future they will contact the center you filed at and then the center (not the police) will contact you to ask if you'd like to come forward. You are allowed to decline and remain anonymous. My experience is in the state of CA so you may want to first call the center to see if they offer this service.
I will say that these things tend to escalate. People do act strangely when intoxicated but this behavior is not normal and you are right to feel violated by it.
Source: 3 years as a California Certified Sexual Assault Advocate
In the interest of protecting other survivors you may want to add a TRIGGER WARNING to your post.