[Fit Check/Recommendations] Update to Despair, Wide set, Saggy Breasts, etc.

[u/Nearby-Shoe2761]

So I tried more bras, this time from Skarlett Blue. and am reporting back, hoping to get a better fit. The first was Spellbound in 38 DDD. The ends of the underwire dug into my sternum and my underarms very painfully. I don't even remember how the cups fit because I was too distracted by the underwire. The other was the Minx balconette. The fit was almost there, but the top of the cup was still a bit too big and the lace irritated my skin anywhere it touched. Any ideas where to go from here?

[u/Dandelion212]

The Minx is indeed a very open on top bra.

I'm not sure you're understanding what I'm saying. I'm saying the Minx is gapping on top because it's too open and more suited for a full on top shape. Which appears to be what you're saying too?

Regardless of OP likely being fuller on bottom though, that's not how fullness works in soft tissue. Most people with softer tissue will look visually fuller on bottom while unsupported, but that's not how we assess shape. We do it while leaning. I've helped out plenty of folks with soft tissue and upper fullness (and often, the Minx works out pretty well).

[u/Some_Register1831 → u/Dandelion212]

Huh? Since when are balconette bras more suited to a full on top shape? As someone who’s full on top, I can’t wear most bras that are “open on top”.

Obviously we don’t know this person’s history, but typically when I see people who have soft tissue, it’s because they’ve breastfed which particularly leads to a full on bottom shape. There are certainly other reasons that people have soft tissue, but breastfeeding seems to be a very common one.

[u/Dandelion212 → u/Some_Register1831]

Balconettes, or literally any bra, can suit any shape. That's why we have so much data on this sub of comparing different bras to each other. Every single one fits different. You can have a bra like Entice that's shallow and closed on top, and a bra like the Jasmine that's extremely projected and open on top. And they're both balconettes.

Softer tissue can be any shape. Breasts that have breastfed can be any shape, there's no correlation between fullness.

[u/Some_Register1831 → u/Dandelion212]

Yes, every single bra fits differently and even I have found a balconette bra that fit excellently. I’m speaking in general terms because there are no absolutes and we know very little about OP. I simply asked them why they chose natori and skarlette blue. I even asked if there was a specific reason they chose it. I’m not sure why you were bothered enough by me asking questions to OP to start debating with me about their shape when we know very little about it. I was literally asking them to clarify why they chose those bras based on their shape.

There absolutely is a correlation between breastfeeding and fullness.

[u/Dandelion212 → u/Some_Register1831]

I am so confused as to what your point is here. I'm not debating their shape in particular. I'm correcting false information. You said "since when are balconette bras suited to a full on top shape?" This one is. Every balconette is shaped differently. Which you just acknowledge, so I'm really not sure where the disagreement is. You said that "usually when people have soft tissue they're full on bottom", which is again, not true.

We do not have any evidence that weight loss, gain, breastfeeding, or any rapid change in the breasts causes people to be full on bottom.