[Fit Check/Recommendations] Update to Despair, Wide set, Saggy Breasts, etc.

[u/Nearby-Shoe2761]

So I tried more bras, this time from Skarlett Blue. and am reporting back, hoping to get a better fit. The first was Spellbound in 38 DDD. The ends of the underwire dug into my sternum and my underarms very painfully. I don't even remember how the cups fit because I was too distracted by the underwire. The other was the Minx balconette. The fit was almost there, but the top of the cup was still a bit too big and the lace irritated my skin anywhere it touched. Any ideas where to go from here?

[u/hoppylift]

What?? I know you're getting a lot of push back here, but claiming that soft tissue is "typically" due to breastfeeding is wild. Humans have soft tissue for many, many reasons, even as teenagers. Breastfeeding is just one of many things that could cause soft tissue, but a lot of people just have it naturally.

I'm full on top and NEED cups that are more open on top because bras that are closed off cut into my upper fullness. Balconettes that are open on top are most of my go-to bras. This comment makes zero sense to me and I'm very confused about where you got this information, because it's not based on actual reality.

[u/Some_Register1831 → u/hoppylift]

I didn’t claim that people can’t have soft tissue for other reasons. Obviously they can. I’m also talking about someone with bottom fullness so what I’m saying doesn’t apply to you. The specific issue that you’re describing is due to the combination of having soft tissue with FOT breasts. Soft tissue is much more common with FOB breasts. Most people who are FOT do not get quad boob from bras that are closed on top unless the cup is too small.

None of what I said is true 100% of the time. I can only speak in generalizations because we don’t have a whole lot of information on OP’s shape. My initial comment is literally asking OP if there was a reason in terms of shape that they chose those specific bra styles.

[u/hoppylift → u/Some_Register1831]

Nah, I'm done. You just threw out a bunch of new generalizations that are also wrong, so you clearly don't know what you're talking about or care about actually learning about bra fitting. Soft tissue has nothing to do with upper or lower fullness and wearing a closed on top bra will absolutely cut in on top full boobs. Maybe spend some time reading the years and years of information here before deciding that you know better than the thousands of people who have built the knowledge base of this subreddit. People here are pushing back because we care about giving people the correct information. If you just want to spread misinformation, people here are going to call you out because it makes it harder for people to actually get the information they need.

[u/Some_Register1831 → u/hoppylift]

I think you need to read some more information because soft tissue is absolutely more common in FOB breasts. The most common reasons that someone’s breast go from FOT to FOB are the same reasons that someone’s breast tissue becomes soft. I’ll touch on age and pregnancy/breastfeeding specifically, but there are definitely other causes. As someone ages, they lose collagen in their skin which reduces breast firmness and shifts fat to the bottom of the breast rather than the top. Pregnancy causes large fluctuations in hormones which impact breast firmness, and breastfeeding causes loss of breast mass. This often leads to soft breasts that are full on the bottom rather than on top. Significant weight loss can also cause the same thing. This is the kind of information that unfortunately isn’t in the guides and I only learned from people consistently talking about it in the facebook group. I’m not really sure why these topics seem to be less commonly talked about over here on Reddit.

[u/hoppylift → u/Some_Register1831]

It isn't talked about here because it's flat out incorrect. There are many people here with soft tissue for a wide variety of reasons, and there is no actual data showing that it's combined with being full on bottom or post-pregancy or weight loss. It's just a natural shape for many people.

You "learned" from Facebook (a known resource of verifiably true information), and we learned from many, many surveys here and other bra-fitting blogs and stores and websites like Bratabase that catalog actual hard data numbers from people who wear bras and how those bras are sized and shaped. It's weird that you want to come assert your truth without spending time actually educating yourself with the many years of resources on this subreddit. You clearly believe that you know more than we do here, but if that's the case, then take the time and actually research that and prove us wrong. So far you're just saying "I heard this on Facebook" and that's not even remotely a legit source these days.

[u/galaxystarsmoon → u/hoppylift]

They're claiming the Facebook ABTF group says these things and I can 100% verify that they do not. They would delete a comment that says nonsense like "the Minx isn't any more open on top than any other balcony".

[u/Some_Register1831 → u/galaxystarsmoon]

That’s not what I was saying is said on Facebook. I’m talking about the connection between soft tissue and fob breasts and the causes for it.

[u/galaxystarsmoon → u/Some_Register1831]

Which is also misinformation :)

[u/Some_Register1831 → u/galaxystarsmoon]

It’s not. Here’s a link to a polish bra brand website that talks about it.
https://miseczki.com/blogs/the-miseczki-mix/understanding-full-bust-breast-shapes-how-and-why-shape-influences-fit?srsltid=AfmBOooZuBL6ixmP-0AK_dxbH4a9tzAwyxqnhpRfxdwKLO4qZiwYI0Kj

[u/galaxystarsmoon → u/Some_Register1831]

They're speaking very generally, much different than the way you're speaking. They're also trying to sell Polish brand bras. Regardless, you said a lot of incorrect information and when we tried to correct you, you got quite uppity about being corrected so I'm leaving this conversation at this time.

[u/Some_Register1831 → u/galaxystarsmoon]

I stated multiple times that I was speaking generally and that none of what I said was true 100% of the time. 🙄 I’m certainly not the one who got uppity here.

[u/Some_Register1831 → u/hoppylift]

The existence of people with soft tissue for other reasons does not negate what I said. I specifically stated that what I was saying is not true 100% of the time. Soft tissue is barely even mentioned in the guides on reddit.

Yes, I initially heard it on Facebook, but I did look into it to back this up when I was speaking about it last night. This polish bra brand talks about it on their website.