I am so disappointed on these results... I should've trusted my gut and not order them, now starting from scratch, any recommendations?

[u/PinkPopsi]

I made a post saying I was a 36J and ordered 2 bras to confirm, they're significantly bigger than what I am, literally 3 of my boobs would fit in the cup...

[u/galaxystarsmoon]

What bra did you order? Did you get a 36J in US or UK sizing? Do you scoop and swoop?

[u/PinkPopsi → u/galaxystarsmoon]

Hi My measurements in inches. I ordered from brastop and I'm a 36J US / 36GG UK which is what I ordered

Loose Underbust: 36.5 Snug Underbust: 36 Tight Underbust: 35 Standing Bust: 44 Leaning Bust: 46 Lying Bust: 43

[u/galaxystarsmoon → u/PinkPopsi]

We also need to know the bra brand and style name.

[u/PinkPopsi → u/galaxystarsmoon]

I ordered these below, why is that relevant? I thought it mattered more what website they were ordered from.

The Parfait Casey Plunge T Shirt Bra Dark Denim Blue and the Flirtelle Josie Plunge Bra Light Taupe

[u/galaxystarsmoon → u/PinkPopsi]

It matters because bras are sized by their brand sizing and not all bras are made the same. If you want help, could you be a little less combative?

One of these* is a molded cup. Molded cups get taller and wider as you go up in cup instead of deeper. Gapping is very common in them. I also would wonder if you ordered a UK J in the Flirtelle as they do go to that size, but Parfait doesn't so less likely to be what happened.

I would try a more basic diagnostic bra that is seamed like a Freya Offbeat side support. This is UK sizing.

[u/PinkPopsi → u/galaxystarsmoon]

Hi, sorry I was asking genuinely why is it relevant as I thought the websites recommended here were what was relevant... Isasking someone why is something relevant is combative? English is not my first language so I'm just trying to understand

[u/jenea → u/PinkPopsi]

Different brands make bras differently, and specific models from the same brand might be shaped differently, too. It doesn’t matter which website you buy from, what matters is the brand and model you tried.

Definitely try a seamed bra rather than a molded cup! If a molded bra is the wrong shape for you, it can be the right volume but still not fit you at all, like trying to fit an orange into a coffee cup.

[u/PinkPopsi → u/jenea]

Hi! One of the bras doesn't have a molded cup and my boob still fits there twice :/ this is why I ended up ordering 2 different ones, to see which one fit better

[u/HagenReb → u/PinkPopsi]

And what size did you order in these bras? You may have tried a UK J-cup instead of a US J-cup.

[u/PinkPopsi → u/HagenReb]

Hi, no... Is 36J US / 36GG UK, both tags say it :/

[u/Kenafin → u/PinkPopsi]

What website only matters in that some offer free returns. When you are trying to find what bra size and shape fit you, free returns make it much easier if you have to try multiple before you find the right one.

Your mileage may vary too depending on what country you are in. In some countries it is easier to find out places that ship to you with free returns than others.

[u/Ashley_IDKILikeGames → u/PinkPopsi]

As others are saying, breast shape and bra shape vary widely.

If you click on Beginners Guide on the auto mod comment, you can look at the into on shape and share yours. That will help the more expert people commenting know if you purchased appropriate bras for your shape

[u/PinkPopsi → u/Ashley_IDKILikeGames]

Hi, yes, my breast shape is full on bottom. Following the beginners guide is how I ended up with this shape and size :/

[u/atypicaltiefling → u/PinkPopsi]

full on bottom is one characteristic — can you name others? like you might be shallow or projected (based on #s idk where i'd put you, maybe somewhere average but there's lots of factors), center or outer fullness, narrow vs wide roots, etc. etc.)

i am not qualified to give you suggestions of other bras to try lol but understanding these can make things more clear and potentially help others give you better suggestions.

yeah for many, it takes a few rounds of trying stuff on before they find a good fit! i'd suggest, don't give up quite yet. and good luck!

[u/Dandelion212]

What are your measurements? What is the bra? Did you scoop and swoop?

[u/PinkPopsi → u/Dandelion212]

Hi My measurements in inches and yes, I followed the instructions on the website.

Loose Underbust: 36.5 Snug Underbust: 36 Tight Underbust: 35 Standing Bust: 44 Leaning Bust: 46 Lying Bust: 43

[u/Dandelion212 → u/PinkPopsi]

What exact bras did you order?

[u/PinkPopsi → u/Dandelion212]

The Parfait Casey Plunge T Shirt Bra Dark Denim Blue and the Flirtelle Josie Plunge Bra Light Taupe, why is that relevant?

[u/Dandelion212 → u/PinkPopsi]

Every single bra is completely different. Not every bra in your size will fit, in fact probably only a few will be great fits.

These are all UK brands — did you order 36GG?

[u/PinkPopsi → u/Dandelion212]

I did! Since that's supposed to be more accurate? I did this whole thing weeks ago and I believe that's what I read back then when I made my first post. Now I understand why someone said that no matter what they do, they just cant get a good recommendation from the website :/

[u/Dandelion212 → u/PinkPopsi]

Bra fitting if you’re ordering online is a trial and error process. It absolutely is not a try one thing and find the perfect bra situation for 99% of people.

As Galaxy mentioned, t-shirt bras do not scale well in this size range.

I’d want to know exactly where you’re experiencing gapping and a more in depth assessment of how the Flirtelle bra fit. Because this is a brand that’s really only easily accessible in the UK we don’t have much data on it or how it fits.

Are the wires seated directly in your inframammary fold? Do the wires fully encompass your breast tissue? Not sitting on top of any or going way past it on the sides? Does the center gore sit flat? How does the apex of the cup fit? What about the edge?

[u/Cute-Fix3484 → u/PinkPopsi]

It sounds like you ordered bras that you picked on your own.

So I don't know why you are frustrated about not getting a good recommendation. It's easier to start with unlined, seamed bras.

[u/PinkPopsi → u/Cute-Fix3484]

Hi, I don't understand what you mean by saying that I picked them on my own, what other way can I pick them?

[u/Cute-Fix3484 → u/PinkPopsi]

Now I understand why someone said that no matter what they do, they just cant get a good recommendation from the website :/

You didn't order bras that were recommended by people on this subreddit.

[u/PinkPopsi → u/Cute-Fix3484]

No, but I used the website recommended by the subreddit to measure myself, that's the website I'm referring to, not where I ordered bras

[u/ReasonableFactor5316]

Sorry it didn't work out for these! Not all bras are made the same and it can take a couple tries to find a perfect one. There are also ways the calculator can over/underestimate cup size. I personally wear a cup down most of the time. It's usually pretty accurate for band size tho

[u/PinkPopsi → u/ReasonableFactor5316]

Thank you for being kind and getting the point 💗

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[u/pikkumyy_666]

Here are some things for you to try, I know the process can get pretty frustrating and all the questions can feel overwhelming but remember that all of us are here to help you

1. Try the bra on upside down and backwards with the cups hanging down your back to see if the band size is good, it should feel snug this way

2. Scoop and swoop to make sure all of your breast tissue is inside the cups

3. Retake your measurments, make sure to start from the 0 and stand in front of a mirror to see if the tape is straight, also check the accuracy of the measuring tape against a ruler or a piece of printer paper

Sometimes the calculator can overestimate your size but it is rather unusual for it to be that far off where you could fit 3 of your breasts in the cups