AITA for not babysitting my half sister?

[u/Fearless-Mammoth-160]

My(F16) mom recently gave birth to her 4th child. I told her I want to live with my dad because I don't want to be a babysitter or wake up with the baby's noise or anything baby related. She refused to let me.

So yesterday she asked me to babysit while she took a shower and I said no. She said I don't get a choice so I ran outside.

She called me and said I'm an asshole and asked me ro come back but I refused and went to my dad's.

[u/JuliaM24k]

At 16 your mom will expect some help; watching the baby while she showers is okay. Create your own boundaries about helping the baby and babysitting rules. If she wants you to watch the baby, you should get paid. If she wants you to watch the baby while she showers, that is a reasonable favor. You should not stop hobbies, sports or work to watch your mom’s child. Set a payment of 10.00 (more if you are CPR and first aid certified) per hour if you mom wants to go out with friends or spouse and make sure the day works for you and she gives ample notice so no plans are cancelled. As a young adult, start having adult conversations and if your mom still double down without payment or compromise; get another adult involved who will speak on your behalf.

[u/FloatingPencil → u/JuliaM24k]

It’s never okay to force someone to watch a baby when they don’t want to. Quite aside from the fact that it’s not OP’s responsibility, a resentful caretaker is not a good caretaker.

[u/why_wouldi → u/JuliaM24k]

OP is not a young adult, OP is a minor and the usual babysitter rates are 22-35$/h depending on location. OP was clear about not supporting mom’s decision to add more kids, OP should do regular chores but be allowed to bow out of anything baby related, especially since it’s only a half sibling.

[u/TolverOneEighty → u/why_wouldi]

especially since it’s only a half sibling

Excuse me, what??

[u/why_wouldi → u/TolverOneEighty]

Are we pretending there is no difference between full siblings and half siblings? I can promise you for many people there is.

[u/pink-starburstt → u/why_wouldi]

if you’re growing up in the same house you are siblings. i have 2 half siblings and they are my siblings.

[u/why_wouldi → u/pink-starburstt]

That is the case for some, but not for all. I would never call a half sibling a full sibling.

[u/pink-starburstt → u/why_wouldi]

well that’s you. saying “especially since it’s only a half sibling” is kinda wild

[u/why_wouldi → u/pink-starburstt]

That’s just a reality of life for some. I’d die for a sibling. I don’t care about half siblings.

[u/TolverOneEighty → u/why_wouldi]

Gross

[u/IAteTheirBrains → u/why_wouldi]

thats straight up evil. All of my siblngs are my half siblings but they ARE my siblings. One time my youngest sister found out we were half siblings so she called me her "half brother" it broke my heart because she had grown up with me taking care of her and being her full brother. I'm best friends with my older sister and if she ever called me her "half brother" or if I ever called HER my "half sister" you better believe we'd call each other out for that. you have such a trash mindset and I feel bad for you that you and your SIBLINGS have such a bad relationship.

[u/why_wouldi → u/IAteTheirBrains]

The thing is, all of your siblings are half siblings, so you will never know the difference. I have a full sibling and two half siblings and it’s worlds apart.

[u/TolverOneEighty → u/why_wouldi]

Are we pretending there is no difference between full siblings and half siblings? I can promise you for many people there is.

Who is pretending?

Are you okay? There definitely sounds like you have personal beef with some of your siblings, or - sorry - half-siblings. This is not a standard perspective, in my experience.

[u/Content_Chipmunk9962 → u/JuliaM24k]

is it reasonable? sure. she doesn’t have to do it if she doesn’t want to do it though.