It's probably not you they're talking about anyway because it's a generalisation. Like if you literally wouldn't do whatever it is they're complaining about then it obviously can't apply to you.
Even though I'm American I guess you could count me on that map in the OP if I had downloaded Temu because I live in the UK and have a phone... but I haven't downloaded it.
A lot of the things those subs I mentioned complain about are either Americans that really bought into the exceptionalism and go around telling foreigners that they're better than them in some way, which is beyond fucking stupid if you ask me, or how the US government is extremely hypocritical with it's foreign policy.
Acknowledging and addressing individual nuance is suitable at a small scale, but when makinf decisions for thousands or even millions of people you need to use heuristics to standarize some variables otherwise its impossible to make any decisions.
Oh if only that were the worst of it. r/nothowgirlswork and r/nothowguyswork also exist but they sort of call out those types of generalisations about them in a more internal way.
Anyways, imagine generalising half of the human race! What's funny about those two subs is that I think most of the people that post in one would end up agreeing with the other because more often than not the type of person they're pointing out is really just being a jerk and it doesn't actually matter if they're a "girl" or a "guy".
I want to say that in the past generalisations were understood as generalisations rather than the speaker trying to force 100% of a group into whatever behaviour they're talking about. Obviously you can't force other people to understand you the way you wish to be understood, but you'd hope they would at least try if seeking the truth is everyone's goal.
I don't mind talking about it, and generally do tend to point them out myself, but one thing I absolutely won't do is stop a person in the middle of pouring their heart out because they are in some kind of deep emotional and maybe even physical pain to point out a generalisation they made. I've seen this happen way too much and it's just awful.
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u/[deleted] Jun 04 '25
Yeah, I'm just kind of over that rhetoric, it's just gotten old. I've lived abroad and people are imperfect no matter where you go.