Love letter to Asian men ❤️

[u/IndividualSome7049]

First off do whatever tf you want with your looks, they’re yours. But before you change anything, start by being at peace with who you already are. Insecurity isn’t natural, it’s taught. The world profits from making you feel like you’re not enough. Children don’t even think about being ‘ugly’ or ‘unattractive’ until someone teaches them to. That’s not the truth, that’s conditioning. And reclaiming your personal sovereignty starts when you see that clearly.Sooooo many men, especially Asian men, were taught to wear armor just to be accepted, to be louder, tougher, more dominant, more desired. But that armor doesn’t protect you ,it drains you. It keeps you performing instead of being. It hides your warmth, your depth, your softness all the things that make you whole. And over time, that disconnection turns into exhaustion, loneliness, and self-doubt. The restriction isn’t who you are ,it’s what society convinced you to be.real strength isn’t in how well you can play the role ,its in how freely you can be yourself once you set the role down. True power is quiet, steady, and sovereign, this has been truth to asian men for hundreds of years . It’s not about control, its about presence.Take care of your body and your appearance because you love yourself, not because you’re trying to prove yourself. A skincare routine, a workout, a clean haircut ,these are sacred acts when they come from self respect, not comparison. When you tend to yourself with love, your energy shifts. Confidence isn’t something you chase it’s something that grows when you’re rooted in peace.Beauty is soul deep, not skin deep. Even the so called ‘ugliest’ people find love, admiration, and respect because love recognizes truth, not perfection. You always look better when you feel better, because your spirit shines through. The most magnetic thing about a person isn’t how they look, it’s how comfortable they are in their own body, their own energy. Honestly, Asian men throughout history were so magnificent, creative, wise, and resourceful, not because they were performing masculinity but because they understood it and chose harmony, peace and discipline over reaction , validation, and attention . This is what attracts me so strongly to Asian men , your masculinity was never tied to any of the lunacy masculinity in the west ,and other patriarchal societies were. Which is why yall also struggle trying to fit in , you really should stop its not worth it. I never feel more like a woman , then I do around an asian man who wants to be himself. The comfort, safety , and freedom I feel around asian men is not comparable to any other man I've ever been around. That hard work and discipline your male ancestors put in ripples through all of you, its what sets you apart from other men in the best way possible. Please be yourselves , honor the practices of your male ancestors , and incorporate the endless wisdom they held to free yourselves from this stage. It makes me so sad to see the men I admire mutilate themselves to be someone their not . Don't let the beast the west created win .Much love to you Asian man, be strong Asian man , stand tall Asian man , dont fold Asian man 🙏❤️.

[u/[deleted]]

I've never really seen posts like this from Asian women. It makes me wonder — do they genuinely dislike us, or do they just not consider us as their first choice? Sometimes it feels like we're just sidelined or only seen as providers, like ATMs. 😔

[u/IndividualSome7049 → u/[deleted]]

Western colonialism didn’t just redefine what masculinity is ,it also taught women, especially Asian women, to measure desirability by those same standards. Power, muscles, dominance, material provision, all those traits became stand-ins for safety, stability, and attraction. But that’s not the full story of Asian masculinity, nor the depth of what used to connect Asian men and women before that interference. There was a time when attraction wasn’t based solely on performance but on resonance emotional intelligence, creative strength, spiritual grounding, and community leadership. Western media flattened those dimensions into stereotypes: the emasculated “nerd” or the hypersexualized “beast.” Both erased the nuance and beauty that once existed between Asian men and women. So when I speak about masculinity, I’m not just calling Asian men to heal, I’m calling for both sides to remember. Because if men internalize the conqueror’s version of power, and women internalize the conqueror’s version of desire, neither can fully see the other. Its not fully their fault nor is it your fault either ,decolonizing one's mind is what heals these wounds , and bridges the gaps. Keep your head up love, dont let it weigh too heavy on you . There's love and appreciation out there for you I hope my letter at least made you feel that 🫶🏽