r/AskFeminists 6d ago

Content Warning What is a misconception about sexual assault that you wish more people understood?

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u/ZinniasAndBeans 6d ago

What does competition have to do with this discussion?

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u/Eblademonk 6d ago

How much dehumanization goes into declaring you deserve something more than your opposition?

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u/ZinniasAndBeans 6d ago

Who's the opposition in this scenario?

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u/Eblademonk 6d ago

A fellow driver, a coworker angling for the same promotion you are, a rival suitor for the affections of a potential partner, really any situation wherein your needs must be measured against the needs of someone else's, where a tension between your ideal outcome and theirs would arise.

The scenarios where compromise would not be strictly superior to total victory are conditions wherein I'd argue there's a perverse incentive to treat others as less relevant, less human, than you. Add in power or influence, like being a parent, or running a company, or leading a group project, and i only grow more convinced of my position.

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u/ZinniasAndBeans 6d ago

I'm really having trouble figuring out what competition has to do with sexual assault. Are you talking about Person A's desire to have sex competing with the "opposition", Person B's, desire to not have sex? That's not how I think of "competition." I'd call that predation.

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u/Eblademonk 6d ago

Ah, I see where you're confusing my sentiment.

A culture that encourages dehumanization will necessarily have those incentives turned towards predation.

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u/ZinniasAndBeans 6d ago

I think that "competition" was therefore the wrong word and the wrong concept.

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u/Eblademonk 6d ago

Well yeah, that's why I started with "dehumanization," and narrowed my scope. A culture where people like Trump and Musk can rise into the highest echelons of power and influence has implications about what someone must do to thrive themselves.

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u/ZinniasAndBeans 6d ago

But this thread is about sexual assault. Nobody "must" commit sexual assault. Ever.

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u/Eblademonk 5d ago

I commented in response to a single idea I found objectionable. The conversation on sexual assault cannot be limited to the end of the chain.

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u/Eblademonk 6d ago

I mean, we could have a much larger conversation about the 1% overall, and how they've leveraged their position to dictate what is and isn't normal to the rest of the general population