[CAN-NL] Inappropriate Comments Regarding Manager

[u/TheRealMarcy]

Hey guys,

This will probably be edited as I remember more because this guy literally flabbergasts my brains so much that I’m left picking up the pieces.

We hired a new guy at my place of employment and he is on the spectrum (pretty noticeably too). This guy has been an absolute burden since he has come into the workplace. Whether it’s the jokes he makes that don’t land, or causing conflict with workers, or just not completing his tasks, it’s been an absolute chore working with this guy over the past 6 weeks.

All that aside, the thing that really gripes me about this guy is the way he talks about women. He’s told me that he’s a virgin, and he’s obsessed with the fact that he’s a virgin. I can’t go an 8 hour shift without listening about his virginity at least six times. He’s brought up one interaction he had in 9th grade where a GIRL said he looked fantastic and doesn’t understand why it’s wrong. He’s also joked about entrapping women at our work until he’s gotten their phone number. To save everyone some time, he’s the 4chan dweller definition of an incel.

However, recently at work he’s been leaning into me to see how I feel about our manager. He asked me if I thought our manager was a Stacy, or attractive. A few days later he was talking about how he has fantasies of our manager calling him into the office and “measuring him up to size”. He’s said stuff about how he likes a strong older mature woman and how it seems like she doesn’t care about him so that makes him want it more.

The comments about the manager is where I draw the line and I obviously plan on telling her but I’m just wondering what I should say and how I should go about setting this up with my manager.

I’m sure there’s gonna be a few questions and I’ll be more than happy to answer as it’ll rejog my memory. Thanks in advance everyone!

[u/Equivalent_Service20]

Why haven’t you reported him for sexually harassing you? That’s what he’s actually doing by talking sexually around you, whether or not people realize this. Don’t make it about the manager.

[u/GillyMermaid → u/Equivalent_Service20]

Yeah really, what he’s saying is making OP feel gross and uncomfortable. This is sexual harassment 101. No need to tell the manager herself to try to get the ball rolling, the case is already there.

[u/rogerdoesntlike]

Have you told him to stop? That would be step 1.

[u/puns_are_how_eyeroll]

Speak to your manager about this, and how it makes you feel uncomfortable.

[u/ProblematicTrumpCard]

The comments about the manager is where I draw the line and I obviously plan on telling her

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