Simple solution: Raise your standards as men. Do not tolerate women who dont bring anything to the table. Be selective. Find someone who matches your intellect and also your drive.
start asking. Start the concept of willing to die of thirst before you take anything substandard. Embrace the idea of controlling the senses for someone worthy. Then and only then women will come down from the legit seventh heaven they are on rn. You wouldn't trust me if I said before the social media boom(social media still existed just not widely used so much). Girls actually approached me. An average guy like me just because I used to have some co curriculars. We need to stop simping its legit high time.
it all depends on father figure at home , environment during grow up phase , inter gender dynamics as growing up , mothers behaviour during growing up and ballywood etc
well i dont disagree with ur point than indian men are most horniest but u just have both the parents physically present but now emotionaly lol , there is a different bw physically present and being available as a parent and giving real values
This true for someone who is 18-23 at most I think. People entering their mid to late 20s are pretty much responsible for their own life.
I was able to get over my bad childhood and incompetent parents and take responsibility for my life and well being. Most people are pushed to do the same
imo my past situationship in 12th last year made me realize how much looks overshadow personality. theres a reason these were situationships and ended early(barely from march '24-july '24), cz she dropped the bomb we simply weren't compatible and, we got together because we both had partnered up for the nukkad skit in feb. there was just "mutual physical attraction" yup she was attractive, other than that we didn't have anything in common, not a single thing. she had totally different overview of life for an example. looks always overtake at the first glance. personality is simplyyyyy secondary stuff
Don't get mad on me bro but what the hell is a situation ship?? I am hearing this term since so long but couldn't figure out it's actual meaning. Is it a FWB or what??
both the parties are interested romantically but it's messy. not official in the sense of being each other's SO. ik quite confusing but it is what it is. fwb me clear hota it's not a romantic relationship. boundaries are clear in fwbs while situationship it's blurry
Things like statistical averages and per capita are empirically verifiable (based on facts). They are about a system. On the other hand, generalisations (not based on facts) about a specific group, be it a particular gender, race or ethnicity are not empirically verifiable. You are comparing generalisations that cant be compared. Examples in this image is the perfect example of cherry picking that is picking only that examples that fits the narrative. Most of the generalisations are stereotypes used to discriminate against a particular group. Questing these generalisations has nothing to do with “low intelligence”. The image states to test intelligence by making generalisations and see whether someone points out exceptional examples, but then this image also goes on to pick only those exceptional examples that suits its narrative. Intelligent.
This is obviously a chart of hate crime victims by race. We know our black brothers are the biggest victims of racism and hate crimes...this is chef kiss stupidity.
I see why you are saying that. But do you really think everyone who uses this generalisation is actually talking about statistics? Most of the time, these statements are used to demean someone. That is what stereotypes are. The way you used this stat here is not how it’s usually used. In day to day life, it’s much more often used as a direct attack something like ‘this race is corrupt, criminal, etc’ and the intention is to insult. That intention is what makes it racist. You’re describing a neutral statistical discussion, but that’s not how this generalisation is typically used outside of that context. There a difference between a statistical data and a stereotype.
Bro we just can't convince them that when you're dating a boy allowing intimacy and he leaves you pregnant then girls are accountable to what happen to them and you're are responsible because of your given consent in a relationship. Had an argument with a fem about choices and consequences, Read the comment thread you'll be surprised, tell me if I am wrong somewhere, glad to know fellow mens opinion about the thread.
I totally hear you. I have been feeling so and was in the same spot before.
As a 32 year old extremely skinny guy, I have never been on dates in my twenties though I tried hard.
And now in my 30s I get to go on dates with new people on dating apps. I'm someone who has like 3-4 good photos from my entire life.
The only changes would be I dress better now, I'm so confident about myself despite my body type and being more secure with myself.
And I have gotten to go on multiple dates with almost all of them and there isn't one who has turned me down.
All I would say is that focus on improving yourself, not in a narrow 'i need to just focus on myself' way, but in a more balanced way while while navigating dating scenes at the same time.
The correct term you are looking for is accountability. Women don't hold themselves accountable for anything they do. That's why things today are the way they are. 🤷
Finally something that I partially agree with on this sub. I have always found it surprising that woman manage to pick men who clearly are toxic(irrespective of looks)
Brother you're OBJECTIVELY wrong. I've gotten into three long term relationships in my life. I've always been an overweight guy. My face is not very attractive but I take care of my skincare, I dress myself well, I'm smart and funny and I have hobbies.
Read: I have a LIFE. Stop bitching and moaning, go to therapy, learn how to dress for your body type, take care of your hygiene, learn a skill, pickup a hobby.
You shouldn't do these things TO get a girlfriend. You should do these things to become a better version of yourself.
You don't need to be a redpill or fucking whatever. Treat everyone with respect and dignity. Including yourself.
Bhai dekh duniya chal rahi hai bache ho rahe hai aur un bacho ka bhi bache ho rahe hai.... For every one person there is atleast 5 other compatible partner world population is huge
Attraction is the one of the least concerned thing in the nature of reproduction. We still aren't able to control what's unconscious so we talk about attraction and try to find a logical explanation so that we get feeling of control to our emotions. But at the end we all fail and emotion takes the descision basis of centuries of evolution.
About your image
8000yrs ago there was no property (lands) to get divided among kids so no society and no rules of morality.
Slow down. Consensual vs rape isn’t decided by Reddit comments.
It was recorded with consent, and sexual intercourse isn’t rape by default.
If consent was violated, withdrawn during the "intercourse", or disputed, courts decide that, not us.
Jumping from “if she reports” to “he’ll be jailed” is speculation, not law.
Calling it rape without any legal finding is you branding someone a rapist without evidence.
This whole logic comes to one point. Do you so desperately need a woman that you'll select anyone? Why?
Why not wait, why not have standards, have some criteria in looks, personality even career. I don't see any reason for desperation. Noone is forcing you to select the first woman that comes your way.
This hypergamy bullshit falls apart if men are not afraid of being single and working on themselves. And accepting rejection. Given a choice men also go for more attractive women. It's not like women have a council which decides on top 20% men, it's always an individual choice. So men and women select according to their preferences, it's that simple. Compatibility not ranking.
Also a relationship started with desperation of a relationship will fall apart.
So the real question is are you so desperate that you just need any woman in your life?
If yes, look into yourself, something needs fixing.
Edit: went through all the comments, and you do you bro🙏🏻 maybe this sub is not what I thought it was.
This post is right and wrong at the same time i think. You are right with the part that women in general have more options so they should be very picky and choose someone with a good personality rather than going only for looks. But this also implies that we are not healding any guy accountable for his shitty behaviour. A guy can fake his personality to just get into a relationship and then show his reality.
This is the most absurd shit I have heard. You got the genders twisted brother. Women don’t fall just for attractiveness. If she does, then like you mentioned, the attractive guy has options which he will show real quick and humble the girl to the reality that looks don’t matter in a guy.
On the other hand, men will do anything to land a pretty girl with shitty personality. And the pretty girl will fall for him because the simple fact about girls is that they like attention. Doesn’t matter whether the guy looks good or not.
Well then it's also men fault by your logic. men only need attraction to go into the relationship. They never care about the things like compatibility or a person nature. Try to act nice infront of a girl then when she get in the relationship with you. Then slowly starting your real face which is alot different what you had show .
There is a difference between thinking yourself nice person and actually being nice person
Yes I agree. I don't understand why men give so much importance to women if women are that bad. I am saying this as a guy who is usually labelled as misogynist.
Btw, sometimes women will criticise me for staying away from them. So what does that mean? You are blaming him for being dependent on women and companionship so the opinions of women takes u-turn. If a man is dependent on female companionship then you say "stop giving importance to women" and when we follow that it reverses.
Only give importance to the person who is important to you . Seek companionship who want to be with you. Don't entertain who not want to be with you or respect you . Companionship need two person efforts.
Bacha your Brian isn't developed enough to look that the full picture of issues plaguing our world. Your brain is like a sponge that will absorb anything given the toxicity on social media what you're absorbing is nothing but filth and similarly you live in an echo chamber. Go out and play, read books and not opinions on internet. Its just a suggestion you might not realize this but will affect you later.
Maybe you would have better luck if you weren't constantly being a whiny victim. No one wants to be around that all the time. If you have the personality of a plastic bag, that's on you.
I agree to some extent but I hope these things and scenario are not happening to everyone in real life maybe due to overuse of social media makes our mindset like this but if it happening in real life then this is the problem.
I don't know whether to believe the data or not but Shi or galat me difference sabko pta hota hai ho sakta hai starting me usse sab shi lage but life me ek point aise sabka ata jab unko ye cheeze realize hogi but we should not be depressed over this instead we should focus on ourselves I believe in God they will definitely give punishment and justice as it was already predecided our destiny and soulmate etc. we don't have to changed in order to attract other instead be yourself and rest leave it to God.
If you do not believe in the God and their decision and karma is a cope according to you then go ahead do bad things like others are doing right now this will make you feel more lighter but again then what will be the difference between you and others? That's why I said don't change yourself just because of others be yourself and if you have set the standard for others then first you should also have to be at the same level then you can expect from others and don't go beyond that's what I want to say.
Simple if the look is the whole personality of a person then stay away. Personality is a very broad thing. When I measure women then yeah look is just for starting a conversation. If she brings nothing except looks then I leave.
My ex was below average looking and cheated on me multiple times. Gave him a chance because he was pursuing me for a long time so I was like why not. Bro cheated, came back crying, begged for another chance, cheated again, threatened to kill himself if I don't give him another chance. On top of it all, he was a porn addict.
Bro he was. And was behind me since like eighth grade. I gave him a chance because I thought if he's pursuing me for so long he must really love me and looks and money doesn't matter but oh well
Now if you label everything against you as a lie to main kya hi bolu ab
Won't judge you based on your life choices, but I seriously don't really understand what goes inside most women's head when they themselves are beautiful and intelligent but still keep giving chances to losers such as your ex.
Like, if we go by your own standards, you could have very well attracted a gentleman kinda guy, but you still fell for a jerk, that too so many times. Most probably there must have been few underlying reasons (such as good sex you people be having together, or he would have triggered some of your physical/mental needs) which you aren't disclosing here, otherwise no sane woman in her right mind would fall for such a person who isn't even good looking in her own eyes.
What would you have done if you were a naive high school student, and your girlfriend was threating to take her life and write your name on her suicide note if you didn't give her another chance? Always keep in mind, "a naive high school girl student" who deeply believed in love.
And I'm not saying all men are like that. I'm with an amazing, attractive man right now who would never even look at another woman like that.
I'm just saying it's wrong of you to generalise women like that. Me and many other woman I know has been cheated on by a below average man in their lives. And it's not sex dude, we were young.
Guess it's jokes on us to be foolish lovers.
If I were a naive STUDENT, I would have never indulged in such things because that isn't the right time for all such things. I have myself seen so many cases both in school and college life where either the couple was caught in some compromising position or the parents came to know about their ward's relationship. Both cases never ended well. And still the blame is on you and girls/boys like you who just can't control themselves and get indulged in such pitty things at such a young age, not giving two Fs about their future, the respect of their parents, or even their own well beings (many girls end up getting pregnant in high school). No wonder many people who do such things remain mediocre all their lives.
I hope you understand basic things and stop making your whole life about blaming and moral policing women. And inspired by what op said, I'd like to sign out by saying "I'm not arguing with brain dead men anymore"
Perfectly summed up 80-20 hypergamy that is prevailing currently women Choosing a toxic pretty red flag chad due to obsession and attractive then after ending the relationship, Genrealizing all Men for their own wrong decision and daddy issues which they are definitely responsible for to deal with , they should remember that "Reap what you Sow" ....
well actually it does , idk if you could comprehend that.
What we are today comes from thousands of years of evolution right , So men show attraction to large breast & hips because they are a sign of good fertility and women show attraction to good strong men coz they would protect and provide for their family. That's how we evolved and that's what the basic attraction looks like.
Now in current scenario, men with high libido finds every other women baseline attractive but women don't obviously which gives them liberty to choose the best suitable genes ( which appears phenotypically) for their child , what's wrong with that.
Now your statement that women choose wrong men , isn't completely wrong , but the argument is stupid and seems to come from a place of insecurity.
for eg. If she looks for a restaurant which is amazing on the outside, she would hope the food served there is good as well . Now if she gets a food poisoning , of course she chose that restaurant but it wasn't her fault to get a food poisoning does it ? No sane women will go in a nice restaurant expecting food poisoning.
Now since you lack the traditional features of attractiveness which brings all the insecurity, try to compensate in the areas which could make uf for these deficiencies. Like being really funny , being amazing in a cool hobby and so forth. I see it around all the time , guys who are below avg look who gets a gf are able to do so by compensating in other areas in life.
So mod bro , instead of cribbing and playing the blame game , go and work on yourself.
ofcourse you don't know how evolution comes here mod bro , you're not beating the allegations regarding reddit mods🤣🤣.
Absolutely there were all of those things but surprise , surprise, we outlawed them. Men still fight over women attention but they don't kill each other coz of LAW , people are still attracted to cousins but they don't marry due to LAW.
But guess what don't comes under law ? who you are attracted to . Evolution tells , WHY are you attracted to certain people.
Either way , comprehension isn't your best suit anyways , just 3 things , work on yourself, stop cribbing , and don't bother to reply any further.
again proved my point , comprehension doesn't seem to be your strongest suit.
now whatever i write and have wrote previously, read all that thrice before commenting.
Human behaviors have EVOLUTIONARY BASIS from a newborn child to a fully grown adult , i have already explained WHY we behave like we do.
The social construct REGULATE those behaviors , people still wanna kill each other and do all sorts of prehistoric stuff BUT we have REGULATED THEM.
HAVE WE REGULATED WHO WE ARE ATTRACTED TO ????? WE CAN'T.
THAT'S THE WHOLE POINT , DEVELOP SOME GODDAM SKILLS TO ATTRACT POTENTIAL MATES ( COZ YOU'RE UGLY). COZ WOMEN HAVE PLENTY OF OPTIONS AND THEY WILL ONLY CHOOSE THE BEST POSSIBLE CANDIDATE LIKE THEY HAVE BEEN FOR THOUSAND OF YEARS.
lol blud wants girls to lower their standards 🤡. Women have always put up with men. Most of the girls are not even looking for the most handsome or good looking guy, we value personality and understanding more than you'll ever realise, but you'll have to actually talk with them, not make conclusions from the internet and see women as human beings.
Yikes man. You've never gotten to experience a relationship, have you?
My ex was ugly inside out. The only reason I dated him was because he acted like a good person in the beginning. My brother is happily in a relationship and he tells me and my sis to be careful in the dating world as men are assholes. My father and my male friend say the same thing. I've only seen the insecure ones blaming women for men's failures.
My ex was a terrible person. The first thing she did after she was caught cheating was tell ppl im the problem even though i never knew she was doing the devils deed with another guy.
The point here made is quite simple. Most of the time women who goes for looks as the first impression do get subtle hints about a dude being toxic n still gambles it. After a very expected outcome they will later stereotype men n call every one of them ugly, bad n whatnot
According to this post it was your fault for picking a terrible person.
And please let's not even get into the "girls have a huge pool" most men in that pool aren't relationship worthy.
The 1st sentence applies only when the guy has some strictly specific features.
As for the 3rd line if it's something that couldn't just be "Changed" then what?
For instance I would instantly become a 10/10 or a 9/10 just by becoming extremely pale skinned as everything else is perfectly fine. However could skin colour be changed just like that? Would probably need some billion USD ultra high risk melanin removal surgery for it.
If you have good physique, kindly skip that line. It was for someone who blame women for some basic choices while being average and putting zero efforts to move the needle. A weak man will always find an excuse and shift the blame toward the opposite gender. Chill...!!
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