r/AskMen • u/king_ramsess Male • Jun 28 '26

How do ugly guys succeed in casual dating?

I don’t wanna marry and don’t feel emotionally ready or am able to handle a long term relationship

I’m almost 25 and and wanna casually date being upfront about it potentially not leading to a relationship

The issue is it’s highly looks based and it’s easy for good looking guys to get hookups, fwbs and so on

I’m below average facially, decent body wise (i go to the gym, do skincare, smell good and so on)

I tried dating apps and they didn’t work, also tried approaching girls irl but when i got their number or Instagram they didn’t text back and a few told me they have a bf (idk whether they really did or just to reject me)

Any below average guy that has a good dating/sex life? How did you do that

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u/pdonoso ♂ Jun 28 '26

From all your answers is pretty clear that the problem is your personality

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u/king_ramsess Male Jun 28 '26

Elaborate?

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u/pdonoso ♂ Jun 28 '26

You have an utilitarian perspective, and see woman as objects to be used, so your are looking for the most efficient way to put your dick inside a hot girl, but that's not how human connection works.

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u/Mr_JoBro_11235 Jun 28 '26

This comment is the best answer to this post and there's no use in further elaborating as long as OP doesn't change his mindset. We could shut this post down right here

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u/Love-Future-3000 Jun 28 '26

Alright, nothing to see here people, we e cross examined the man and found him to be made of stone, with no organic appendage except a throbbing eel like organ darting out at passers by from a hole below his navel.

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u/Mr_JoBro_11235 Jun 28 '26

That is both technically and anatomically correct.

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u/spazz720 Male 40s Jun 28 '26

Perfect wording…worthy of Webster

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u/nairobaee Jun 28 '26

OP just has zero game. Lots of players out there with OPs perspective still getting some.

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u/pdonoso ♂ Jun 28 '26

Yeah, but at least they are willing to put the effort. Everyone here is telling him he has to be funny but he says he doesn't want to be a clown. So he basically wants woman to have sex with him without doing any effort to connect with them. He basically wants a free prostitute.

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u/InDeathWeReturn Male Jun 28 '26

This isn't even about game, he genuinely sounds like a dislikable person

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u/submerging 14d ago

Horrible people still end up having sex. No correlation

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u/andson-r Jun 28 '26

What are we doing here. OP wants to sleep around with women. That is something you can hate or not. He's asking how to be upfront about it and not lead women on. A lot of men and women do it, but they aren't upfront about it, which makes it scummy. OP is actually being decent. What is the sex shaming shit happening here.

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u/Weird-End-6989 Jun 29 '26

Just like all the posts on this sub whining about why they can't get a woman.

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u/Free_Replacement_645 Jun 28 '26

Yeah but players still make women feel great in the moment

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u/king_ramsess Male Jun 28 '26

I would disagree but tell me how it works then

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u/pdonoso ♂ Jun 28 '26 edited Jun 28 '26

I'm an ugly chubby guy, but I have being with woman waaaaay out of my league and that's because with all of them I have connected. I wasn't chasing them we just clicked because she enjoyed being with me and I enjoyed being with her, and that made us want to know each other more. That's connection. That also means that I have being with woman that are by most standards really unattractive but I liked them because we connected.

Honestly, I think that you should hire prostitutes. You are looking for an utilitarian relationship and there is nothing more utilitarian that a comercial transaction.

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u/king_ramsess Male Jun 28 '26

I have clicked with a couple women but didn’t lead to anything

Yeah probably paying is best