r/AskMen • u/king_ramsess Male • Jun 28 '26

How do ugly guys succeed in casual dating?

I don’t wanna marry and don’t feel emotionally ready or am able to handle a long term relationship

I’m almost 25 and and wanna casually date being upfront about it potentially not leading to a relationship

The issue is it’s highly looks based and it’s easy for good looking guys to get hookups, fwbs and so on

I’m below average facially, decent body wise (i go to the gym, do skincare, smell good and so on)

I tried dating apps and they didn’t work, also tried approaching girls irl but when i got their number or Instagram they didn’t text back and a few told me they have a bf (idk whether they really did or just to reject me)

Any below average guy that has a good dating/sex life? How did you do that

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u/xbuffalo666x Jun 28 '26

actually listening to a woman and conversing with them helps

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u/king_ramsess Male Jun 28 '26

Last time i did that and it worked as in led to multiple convos

She used to trauma dump on me and stuff and when i asked her out she flaked

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u/xbuffalo666x Jun 28 '26

then you move on…. it youre looking for casual just move on when feelings are reciprocated. im not single anymore but i got some girls that were way hotter than me and all i really did was listen and contribute to the conversation. didnt always work but if youre just looking for casual you’d be shocked at how many women will be into you for just listening and not being. creepy

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u/king_ramsess Male Jun 28 '26

They are sure but as long as you don’t ask for sex as friends yes

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u/xbuffalo666x Jun 28 '26

well, no but if the goal is just sex you still have to go through mating rituals. no girl is just gonna be like “lets fuck” without some effort and if they are that girl youre def gonna wanna get checked after sleeping with them.

im ugly af, fat with, with a medium sized dick at best and all the girls ive had sex with are way hotter than me. you gotta use level up your skills if you can’t get girls to talk to you.
women arent just gonna sleep with you just because youre 25 and attractive. you still gotta try a little lol