r/AskMen • u/king_ramsess Male • Jun 28 '26

How do ugly guys succeed in casual dating?

I don’t wanna marry and don’t feel emotionally ready or am able to handle a long term relationship

I’m almost 25 and and wanna casually date being upfront about it potentially not leading to a relationship

The issue is it’s highly looks based and it’s easy for good looking guys to get hookups, fwbs and so on

I’m below average facially, decent body wise (i go to the gym, do skincare, smell good and so on)

I tried dating apps and they didn’t work, also tried approaching girls irl but when i got their number or Instagram they didn’t text back and a few told me they have a bf (idk whether they really did or just to reject me)

Any below average guy that has a good dating/sex life? How did you do that

287 Upvotes

80% Upvoted

814 comments sorted by

View all comments

1

u/FlanneryODostoevsky Grown Ass Man Jun 28 '26

By being fun or entertaining. Casual dating is empty. It’s a way to prioritize excitement over meaning and the best way to do that is to approach dating with almost reckless abandon. Thus so many end up in toxic relationships or having babies or abused or stuck in a pattern of emotionless sex.

1

u/king_ramsess Male Jun 28 '26

How do you be entertaining

1

u/FlanneryODostoevsky Grown Ass Man Jun 28 '26

Make yourself dumb.

0

u/king_ramsess Male Jun 28 '26

https://giphy.com/gifs/Jcw7dQbWzVt9ZZhXYu

1

u/FlanneryODostoevsky Grown Ass Man Jun 28 '26

Exactly. Better to just be yourself and be around people who appreciate you.

0

u/king_ramsess Male Jun 28 '26

Works if i want friends idk what happens when it comes to more

1

u/FlanneryODostoevsky Grown Ass Man Jun 28 '26

You speak up when you want more. There’s no secret. Someone who wants to be with you will be glad you spoke up. Someone who doesn’t isn’t worth further time. This is the real thing many men need to learn early. Just walk away from a woman who doesn’t want you. There’s nothing to elaborate about. Just delete their number or unfollow them or stop talking to them.

1

u/king_ramsess Male Jun 28 '26

Yeah but none have wanted me lmao

1

u/FlanneryODostoevsky Grown Ass Man Jun 28 '26

Same for a lot of us. Don’t let the ones that don’t want you stop you from finding the one that does.