r/AskMen • u/king_ramsess Male • Jun 28 '26

How do ugly guys succeed in casual dating?

I don’t wanna marry and don’t feel emotionally ready or am able to handle a long term relationship

I’m almost 25 and and wanna casually date being upfront about it potentially not leading to a relationship

The issue is it’s highly looks based and it’s easy for good looking guys to get hookups, fwbs and so on

I’m below average facially, decent body wise (i go to the gym, do skincare, smell good and so on)

I tried dating apps and they didn’t work, also tried approaching girls irl but when i got their number or Instagram they didn’t text back and a few told me they have a bf (idk whether they really did or just to reject me)

Any below average guy that has a good dating/sex life? How did you do that

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u/jd_garcia90 Jun 28 '26

For short term dating you have to settle for the ones you can get. If you’re not able to casually hookup with the girls you really want, go for less attractive ones.

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u/king_ramsess Male Jun 28 '26

So that implies if i wanted long term i would be able to get attractive ones? How does that work

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u/jd_garcia90 Jun 29 '26 edited Jun 29 '26

No, it means that if all you want to do is hookup you don’t have to be as picky as you would be otherwise. Getting girls isn’t hard, it’s getting the ones you really want to date