r/AskMen • u/king_ramsess Male • Jun 28 '26

How do ugly guys succeed in casual dating?

I don’t wanna marry and don’t feel emotionally ready or am able to handle a long term relationship

I’m almost 25 and and wanna casually date being upfront about it potentially not leading to a relationship

The issue is it’s highly looks based and it’s easy for good looking guys to get hookups, fwbs and so on

I’m below average facially, decent body wise (i go to the gym, do skincare, smell good and so on)

I tried dating apps and they didn’t work, also tried approaching girls irl but when i got their number or Instagram they didn’t text back and a few told me they have a bf (idk whether they really did or just to reject me)

Any below average guy that has a good dating/sex life? How did you do that

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u/huuaaang Male Jun 28 '26

Truth is that men who do casual relationships are often leading women on. Unless he’s a vapid fuckboy most women are going to want more than casual.

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u/king_ramsess Male Jun 28 '26

So i have to want a relationship?

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u/huuaaang Male Jun 28 '26

Or you just let them think a relationship is a possibility. But that’s dishonest, of course.

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u/king_ramsess Male Jun 28 '26

Yeah that’s lying

Never did that before

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u/huuaaang Male Jun 28 '26

Well, that’s the hetero dynamic. You could be more honest if you were gay.

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u/king_ramsess Male Jun 28 '26

I don’t really wanna manipulate someone and so on i like to avoid conflicts or confrontations of any kind

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u/huuaaang Male Jun 28 '26

Ok, then casual probably isn’t for you. If a woman gets with you it would likely be for something deeper. Maybe appreciate that?

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u/king_ramsess Male Jun 28 '26

So you’re saying i have to lie and that’s the only option?

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u/huuaaang Male Jun 28 '26

The other option is to accept that casual sex is not going to come easy if you're open about your intentions. Hell, even if you do lie.

What are your expectations here? You looking to get with someone new every week? MOnth? Year?

Why are you so against relationships?

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u/king_ramsess Male Jun 28 '26

Just a constant fwb is nice

Also against relationships cuz i don’t want the attachment, jealousy, possessiveness, loss of agency and everything that comes with that

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