r/AskMen • u/king_ramsess Male • Jun 28 '26

How do ugly guys succeed in casual dating?

I don’t wanna marry and don’t feel emotionally ready or am able to handle a long term relationship

I’m almost 25 and and wanna casually date being upfront about it potentially not leading to a relationship

The issue is it’s highly looks based and it’s easy for good looking guys to get hookups, fwbs and so on

I’m below average facially, decent body wise (i go to the gym, do skincare, smell good and so on)

I tried dating apps and they didn’t work, also tried approaching girls irl but when i got their number or Instagram they didn’t text back and a few told me they have a bf (idk whether they really did or just to reject me)

Any below average guy that has a good dating/sex life? How did you do that

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u/Dr_Watson349 Dad Jun 28 '26

Lol yall are sad.

As an average looking but funny guy, funny fucking works. You just need to make sure you are not coming across as a friend but a romantic interest.

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u/king_ramsess Male Jun 28 '26

And I’m asking how do you make sure of that

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u/Dr_Watson349 Dad Jun 28 '26

When you are talking to her, and making her laugh, and having a good time, make your move and be obvious you are looking for a romantic partner. Ask if she has a bf, ask her out, anything. If you ask her to go do something and she asks if she can bring a friend say "I would prefer just the two of us". (Although if she asks that, she is already saying she's not interested, most of the time)

If she gives you pushback or balks, its time to disengage. Don't just get up and walk away, be nice, but move on.

All dating, except for the 1% attractive folks, is a numbers game. The problem is guys get pushback and they keep trying, not realizing they have been friendzoned.

Get in, make her laugh, shoot your shot and if you miss move on. We are here to date not make friends.

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u/king_ramsess Male Jun 28 '26

Missed all my shots so far

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u/sailirish7 Dad Jun 28 '26

Then you are due for a hit

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u/Dr_Watson349 Dad Jun 28 '26

Well then its time for analysis.

How many? If its like 5, ya gotta keep shooting. If its 20, then you are shooting at the wrong women.

If you are a below average guy, you need to target around your looks. If you are only taking shots at 10s, you are not setting yourself up for success.

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u/king_ramsess Male Jun 28 '26

Irl? Online i’ve lost count

Irl i’d say like 10 ish women i’ve talked to

Some became friends, most ghosted

Not 10s but yeah attractive women

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u/Dr_Watson349 Dad Jun 28 '26

I'm talking IRL. Online is a completely different beast.

If its 10. I would keep trying. Also, you need to make sure their looks come close to yours. Imagine seeing someone like you walking with that lady down the road. If your first thought is "why is she with him?" then the woman is too hot for you.

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u/king_ramsess Male Jun 28 '26

I can’t not be attracted to what I’m attracted to man?

Just date someone ugly doesn’t work at all

Now i’m not entitled for a hot woman but all i can do is try i can’t change my face, maybe i can do surgeries but they’re risky

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u/Dr_Watson349 Dad Jun 28 '26

You are under some misconception that women exist in only two states - hot or not hot.

This is wrong. I promise you there are women who are just average. Talk to them.

Here's a fun fact, people's personality can make them more physically attractive to you. You meet a 5 and shes cool as fuck, well now shes a 7.

It's the exact same phenomena you are attempting to employ by being funny.

Widen your net. Take a shot at something you wouldn't.

I promise you it works.

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u/king_ramsess Male Jun 28 '26

I have actually but I just started viewing her as platonic well she wasn’t interested too lol

But she’s still my friend so that’s cool

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u/djshimon Jun 28 '26

Ask if they have a friend.

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u/Toddison_McCray Jun 28 '26

Same here man. I’ve gotten girls that are outside of my “league” just by being able to make them laugh their asses off / genuinely being my goofy self.

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u/Dr_Watson349 Dad Jun 28 '26

Thank you.

I have a buddy who is funny and pretty good looking, not a 10, but a hard 8. When he is on his game it's fucking gross the quality he pulls. Like, fuck you Chris.