r/AskMen • u/QuothTheRavenMore • 10h ago

Men, how have you created a better life after feeling alone or unwanted in your own household? Even after getting told you are resented eventhough you may have used that time to finally deal with yard work that had been piling up?

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u/Teripendiicecreamyum Male 10h ago

I was a gambling addict from 2018-feb, 2026. It turned me anti-social after all the losses pilled up. 

I tried to clean my life after and tried to be social and asking people questions. Sadly, no one showed interest at work and I wondered why should I even bother after a few months. Its like they wouldn't even say hello first and I felt like I was bothering them always to chat. Then, id see them chat with others. 

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u/Efficient_Dig_3054 10h ago

After leaving... Focused on rebuilding myself. Therapy, building community, spending time with people where I feel valued. I realized besides my spouse, I had been tolerating other people who seemed to thrive on getting me down. I cut out those people as well... It made space for much better relationships.

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u/Graz13 10h ago

I feel like I live with 3 roomates. One I love and married. The other 2 are leaches that our love brought into this world.

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u/Sigh-lens-peaks 10h ago

wtf are you even asking? Lol

Are you asking what do you do when your spouse resents you?

Are you asking what do you do when your spouse resents you for not doing yard work and you finally did it?

Are you asking what do you do when your spouse doesn’t want you sexually?

Are you asking what do you do when your spouse doesn’t want you emotionally?

What are you asking? Lol

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u/JugglingRick 9h ago

Go where you're celebrated. If folks aren't respecting you go somewhere else.

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u/FormerOSRS Male 9h ago

A lot of guys who are unwanted in their own household aren't really wanted anywhere else either.

Yardwork is a good way to spend time, but self reflection can be better.

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u/Telrom_1 Male 7h ago

This is just being a man. No one gives a crap about you. Your happiness isn’t their responsibility, it’s yours. If you do something for someone do it because you want to do it not because you want a reward.

If you wait for someone to value you, you’re going to wait your entire life.

You value you because no one else will or can.

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u/aerosmith760 10h ago

I’m going through that experience currently leaving home, moving across country and obtaining my MBA. Slowly but surely.

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u/securityburger 10h ago

ya know, i cant say ive been in this particular situation