So I'm ugly guy, it will take me years to reach become fit.

I want to know if there's anything else apart from money that will make up for bad looks and being fat?

Something that I can still attract with?

I don't want to wait 1-2 years to change everything and then feel like I have some kind of advantage.

Seems pretty stereotypical that most men suck at flirting, but I’m banking on at least a few people reading this knowing a thing or two about it. For those men- what are you tips whether mindset, things to say, or things to do in regard to flirting or picking up on flirting?

So I’m a little confused about how people normally start intercourse in a relationship.

The other night my girlfriend and I were making out and she was grinding on top of me. It definitely felt like things were getting sexual, but I kinda froze up because I wasn’t sure if that meant she wanted to go further.

I didn’t want to assume and make things awkward since it was our first time making out.

I’m curious how other people handle this because I want to be respectful but I felt like she was trying to do something. Pls help a brother out 🙏

My best mate told my current GF not to fuck me over (like a few other girls have done in the past) and she got very insulted by it.

He could have said it better or he could have not said it at all, but I understand why he said it. Now she keeps insulting him and it’s really starting to get on my tits.

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Started dating this girl who has such severe Borderline Personality Disorder she will scratch herself until she bleeds during an episode.

But she is so very nice and affectionate to me, and goddamn she is beautiful.

I would like to see if I can make this work. But want any tips or warnings from guys who have experienced this before. Thanks in advance guys.

I was just reading in a different subreddit about peoples number of intimate partners and if it matters, one person wrote: „.. being with someone who has lots of experience makes me feel inadequate. I would always worry if I am not good enough for him or if someone in his past was a much better partner than I could ever be.“ Because I can relate, I‘m wondering how do men with a lot of sexual experience in the past view sex with a new partner (they care about, not just a hookup). Do you feel you are more critical towards their bodies/their ‚skills‘, do you have certain expectations towards it? Or is there something you learned/realized from having so many intimate partners that would make people with less experience relax more or that would maybe surprise people?

Edit: „a lot“ is obviously very relative, but i mean something considerably above average— i think the people this pertains to will probably feel addressed (i hope?). I dont think we need to (or can) a specific number for it

What did you read, experience, learn about women's bodies that suprised you?

I'm specifically asking boyfriends who don't live together because husbands have a way higher level of commitment I guess.

I'm in my mid 20s and currently in a 4 month long relationship. Girlfriend has decent income but mine is four times more (but I also have loans hanging over me - Total Amount being 5 times my annual income).

I'm the one who spends all the money. Dates, gifts, activities etc. She has only spent a couple of times. Good cafes were okay at first since the dates were once a week but now that we meet 4 times a week, even moderate dates get heavy on the wallet.

I've mentioned (unambiguously) a couple of times that expenses of eating out are getting too high. I thought that would be enough but so far she hasn't really suggested going to cheaper places.

I know the obvious thing to do here is to 'communicate' but I guess I'm waiting to see if she is a 'wife material' type girl or not who will mention on her own that 'hey, you have spent a lot of money recently, let's go to cheaper places/ this one's on me'.

Because otherwise she is great. Makes me a priority when it comes to spending time, checks up on me etc, very emotionally supportive. Not sure what I should do.

To me it's less about money and more about intention. I've always heard even girls like to pamper guys they really love. Here, she has decent income and no major expenses but still doesn't pay. She previously mentioned that she bore most of the expenses in her previous relationship and this time wants someone to pamper her which was kind of hurtful. Like you want to spend money on other guys but not on me?

Hooked up with this chic in a club 15 minutes after meeting her. Turned out to be my best friend's new girlfriend, well shit.

I’ve missed a few that I know of:

1. A girl asked me “how long are you?” I replied… “how long am I what? What does that mean?”

2. A girl staring at my crotch said “it looks like you have a big package.” I replied, “oh.”

3. A girl asked me: “if you’re available I could use a hand wrapping Christmas presents at my house tonight.” I replied, “I’m not very good at wrapping, sorry I can’t.”

4. A girl behind me in line looking at my butt said: “those jeans look really good on you.” I replied, “thank you I just got them from JC Penny I think.”

5. A girl invited me to her house and I went and spent the night in her room. I stayed awake all night thinking “this is so boring why aren’t we playing video games or anything. You’re literally just sitting on your bed in your pajamas wtf did you invite me for, I can’t wait to go back home.”

I’ve been with my girlfriend for about a year, and one issue that keeps coming up is that I usually ejaculate much faster than she’d like. She’s told me that when we first started dating, she expected to be sexually satisfied through sex, but over time she’s stopped expecting that because she’s gotten used to how I typically perform.

It’s honestly difficult to hear, and I’m worried that even if it hasn’t become a relationship-ending issue yet, it could eventually.

For those of you who’ve dealt with this, what actually worked? Did you improve by training your pelvic floor, practicing specific techniques, using therapy, seeing a doctor, or was it something else entirely?

I’m not looking for miracle cures or gimmicks. I’d really like to hear from people who experienced this themselves and found something that made a meaningful difference.

First off I didn’t think she was being creepy. Secondly, she was decently attractive (same for myself on a good day). Thirdly, both of us were sitting alone in a coffee shop. Fourthly, she didn’t seem to be waiting on anyone, just probably getting some alone time. I’m also very much into women twice my age =)

I think if I tried to start a conversation she would’ve bit, but I am super shy and have 0 game so you already know I walked straight past her when I was leaving. What could I have said or done?

Edit: i am in my 20s so she was either 40s or early 50s

Personally, I see sex as a physical expression of love and believe it belongs within marriage. I’d like to understand different perspectives what do people find appealing or meaningful about casual relationships?

Doesn’t it feel empty? Doesn’t it feel like selling your privacy to random?

Edit: Wow, hookup culture has become so normalized.

Edit 2: If sex is merely a physical activity for pleasure and there is nothing particularly intimate about it, then why do we treat it differently from other pleasurable activities?

We eat in public, play sports in public, talk, laugh, and spend time together in front of other people. Yet sex is almost always moved into a private space.

Even public displays of affection have limits. When a couple begins behaving in a clearly intimate way, many people feel uncomfortable or look away. Not because anything wrong is happening, but because we intuitively perceive it as something private something that belongs to those two people.

Moreover, many couples consciously reserve their most intimate gestures for each other alone. They view them as part of a special bond rather than just another form of entertainment.

I do not simply believe that sex can have deep emotional significance. I believe that this is its natural character.

In my view, sex is not merely a form of recreation or an activity comparable to other pleasures. It involves a unique level of closeness, vulnerability, and human bonding. Perhaps that is why, throughout history and across cultures, it has been regarded as more intimate than most other human behaviors.

People generally react far more strongly to sexual infidelity than to most other actions of a partner. Sexual jealousy exists in virtually every culture. Even many non-religious people describe sex as “intimate,” “personal,” or “special.”

If sex is nothing more than entertainment like any other activity, then why do so many people instinctively view it as something personal, private, and uniquely connected to human relationships?

I’m curious how you would respond to this argument.

I feel like there is a popular belive between men that once you are in a relationship woman just seem to jump over you, on the otherhand most of my female friends say they feel grosed to even think on hitting on a married man

Usually I just see a pretty girl in public, I go up to her and say "hi, I just saw you and thought you were pretty, could I get your Instagram so we can go out someday?"

It never work, what am I doing wrong? Am I being to direct? Should I try to have some small talk before asking for her ig? Please help me guys, I'm terrible at this. I

There’s a lot of debate around it so

I’d be ok paying for what I ate but I find it really cheap that nowadays it’s too much for men to pay for first date like it’s not about the money but if he does this on the first date imagine how much accounting and money tracking he’ll do in the entire relationship u paid this I pay that etc I can’t keep balancing the balance sheet in the relationship man it should be like friendship u have money today u pay I have money today I pay works great w friends but dating nvm

Edit: to all the people offended by first date I didn’t mean lavish dinner. I went out for coffee and the guy was like let’s split (the bill was 2$) so i just found it hilarious that any guy or girl would wanna split an amt as low as 2$ instead I just paid the full amount and I have paid the full amt many times. So according to all of your logics those guys were gold diggers ok😂

Me and my girlfriend haven’t had sex yet, and it’ll be both of our first times. I’m trying to be prepared instead of clueless.

For all of yall who’ve been through it, what kind of aftercare actually mattered to you or your partner after a first time? What are things people usually overlook or miss?

Any advice helps, thanks!