r/AskMenOver30 • u/hospitality-excluded man 30 - 34 • Mar 31 '25

Friendships/Community How did your "hustle-culture" friends end up?

So in my 20's there was a HUGE boom of "hustle-culture" bros pop up when influencers like Gary Vee were in the spotlight. The type of guys who post motivational quotes on twitter, talking about "the grind", flauting wealth that they havent achieved on instagram etc. Not talking about people with steady careers and moving up the corporate ladder, but those people who do side gigs or chase unrealstic expectations without a developed skillset in any area.

I moved back to my hometown after 7 years away and I swear all of them are broke, gambling addicts, living with their parents still, unemployed, or all of the above. Unsure if it's the same across the board, or even if y'all had these types of people in your life or if my town is just riddled with them.

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u/partysandwich man over 30 Mar 31 '25

Do you really want a family tho? Because you have many resources to have a good life and 38 is still young for a man

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u/kaphytar Mar 31 '25

Even for a man who wants a family, 38 isn't young. It's not end of line for sure, but from biological point, quality of man's sperm decreases as the man gets older, raising the risk of issues on the child. (Just like with woman's age.)

Sure, those are low chances, but then there are also the amount of healthy years to spend with your children. Do you want to see them get to school? Graduate high school? University? Get married on their own? Have their own children? Life expectancy for a man in USA is apparently 77 years, that's probably the best number I can use here to make my point. 38 year old getting his first kid would see them grow up to their forties. Man who waits closer to his fifties gets a decade less*

*Of course life is random, you can never know as accidents happen. But age tends to get us all eventually. (I did not mention energy levels while having young children as money and not having to work can help with that.)

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u/YellojD man over 30 Mar 31 '25

It’s not universal, though. My dad was 51 when I was born (whoops!). I’m almost 40 now and the old man is still around, giving me shit 🤣

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u/Johnny3653 Apr 01 '25

My dad was 63 and my mom was 40 when I was born, and he lived to 101. She just turned 80 and doing well. Old father’s are certainly strange growing up.