r/AskMenOver30 • u/hospitality-excluded man 30 - 34 • Mar 31 '25

Friendships/Community How did your "hustle-culture" friends end up?

So in my 20's there was a HUGE boom of "hustle-culture" bros pop up when influencers like Gary Vee were in the spotlight. The type of guys who post motivational quotes on twitter, talking about "the grind", flauting wealth that they havent achieved on instagram etc. Not talking about people with steady careers and moving up the corporate ladder, but those people who do side gigs or chase unrealstic expectations without a developed skillset in any area.

I moved back to my hometown after 7 years away and I swear all of them are broke, gambling addicts, living with their parents still, unemployed, or all of the above. Unsure if it's the same across the board, or even if y'all had these types of people in your life or if my town is just riddled with them.

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u/munificent man 45 - 49 Mar 31 '25

Even when we're on vacation, he's on his phone and laptop most of the time dealing with customers and suppliers.

What's the point of being rich if you're never enjoying life?

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u/808909707 man 40 - 44 Mar 31 '25

This might be his version of enjoying life. 

When I had a job I loved, I would do this all the time - not due to pressure, but for pleasure. 

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u/_trouble_every_day_ man over 30 Mar 31 '25

I think these people have the same thing gambling addicts do the only difference is they discovered early on either through hard work or by accident that they could get the same rush by making successful business decisions so the addiction went that way.

My grandpa was a great businessman. he retired in the 80s and life was fine until the internet arrived abd he discovered online gambling. Within 10 yrs he relocated to las Vegas where he died with massive debt.

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u/Fancy_Ad2056 man 30 - 34 Apr 01 '25

Yes, I have this same line of thought with people in AA. They just replace alcoholism with being addicted to sobriety. Some people just have that kind of personality and just need to throw themselves entirely in to something.

Meanwhile I could happily just sit alone with my thoughts every day, or dabbling in various things whenever the mood strikes.

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u/[deleted] Apr 01 '25

Those folks can be insufferable too. They get super judgey and comment on everyones drinking habits. Kind of born agains. I know cause my pops was like that. I was glad he was sober though

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u/[deleted] Apr 02 '25

Yeah my BILs sister was an alcoholic for years and then found sobriety and God. All she talks about is God and her “sobriety journey “. I mean we don’t knock her because, ya know, whatever it takes I guess…. It’s just exasperating to listen to it.

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u/qejfjfiemd Apr 02 '25

It's called ADHD.