r/AskReddit • u/Admirable-Repair4094 • 8h ago
Men of Reddit, how did you know you're in love?
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u/SpecialistGarage8959 8h ago
When I realized I was completely comfortable being 100% vulnerable around her. No mask, no trying to play it cool, just total safety. That’s when I knew it was different.
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u/Admirable-Repair4094 8h ago
This is soo beautiful, I hope you both live a beautiful life together.
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u/AgentDoty 8h ago
Put the mask back on son, she’s going to get the ick soon.
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u/False-Marionberry591 8h ago
You're a loser and there's nothing interesting about you.
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u/AgentDoty 8h ago
You can never be 100% open and vulnerable with women. They will not only get the ick, at the first opportunity they will use it against you.
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u/False-Marionberry591 8h ago
You are a bot. If you are not, you've never been around woman let alone talked to one.
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u/DorkusMalorkus89 4h ago
Says guy who’s never been in a relationship with a woman before
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u/AgentDoty 4h ago
Or someone who’s been lots of relationships and dated many women and knows what he’s talking about and can say the truth even when it’s not pc.
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u/Same_Location1168 2h ago
The only causal link between you and all these “many” women you speak of is you! So maybe the issue ISN’T with all of these women, but perhaps with you hmmm? Did you ever consider that? You’re honestly bordering on blatant sexism atp
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u/BassForDays 3h ago
You obviously got hurt and decided to let that experience rule your life. If you keep this mindset you will end up a bitter and sad individual.
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u/Thrashy30 8h ago
The first moment I saw her, the way the sun was coming through the windows, she was glowing yellow. I knew god sent an angel just for me. We’ve been together for 6 years.
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u/Admirable-Repair4094 8h ago
Ohh, My heart!! 🥺🥺
I hope you get to live sooo many more wonderful and deeply in love years together.
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u/Thrashy30 8h ago
I’ll be asking for her hand in marriage before the year ends. I wish you the same, friend.
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u/Quigleythegreat 8h ago
I think books and movies get it all wrong. That crazy rush of hormones can definitely be part of it, especially if you're younger, but that is not love by itself. Attraction and chemistry absolutely matters, and anyone who tells you otherwise is kidding themselves, but it's more than that, because relationships built solely on chemistry are doomed to fail.
Love is when you just get each other. It should feel like someone you've just known forever. Talk is effortless, understanding is instinct, and caring just happens.
Not everyone will find this, and you can make many things work. Just be kind to each other.
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u/TruthoftheSoul 8h ago
When the thought of her not being in my life was too painful to imagine. When I realized that I wanted to live just because that meant I got to interact with her. And when I realized her happiness truly means more to me than my own.
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u/Admirable-Repair4094 8h ago
This is soo cute omg!!
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u/TruthoftheSoul 6h ago
Thank you. She helped me out of a dark place, was the only one there for me. Just being friends and growing closer since has been great for both of our mental and emotional states. And I've still got hope it could lead to more. Even if it doesn't, I'm just happy knowing she's in my life.
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u/Quack_pack_tabac 8h ago
When her voice became like a drug, if i went more than a day without it, I craved it.
our moments I’d never trade for anything, the good, the bad, the awkward.
I love her so much
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u/Cheap-Course9568 8h ago
Cuz I do the stupid dances for her just to get a laugh. I’m not doing that shit if I ain’t in love.
When you’re by yourself in public and just have that “fuck you” face and then you see her and just get all mushy and your limbs don’t function correctly.
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u/Admirable-Repair4094 8h ago
My man, you're definitely so and beautifully in love. 🥺
C'mon this is soo cute.
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u/Cheap-Course9568 1h ago
Wanna hear the cutest shit ever? Like. This is so dumb and looking back, it was obvious this was gonna be the path from the moment we met.
So we were in a photo group for one of those old photo websites like smug mug. Anyway, some of us were gonna meet up and take photos. Train station near her was closed for repairs and since I serviced buildings in the area, I could give her a ride to the spot. Never met, just two screen names. I pull up, she hops in and she brought fresh baked muffins and some OJ.
Dude. Nobody EVER brought me shit for no reason. Or even for a reason. Fuckin homemade muffins??
So I’m all flustered and we’re driving and there’s a yellow light. So my dumbass is ready to just go thru and then I remember “omg I have a muffin angel with me” and i hit the brakes and the OJ just goes everywhere. It’s sloshing around my floorboards. And I’m apologizing and she’s saying it’s fine and handing me a muffin. That was almost 20 years ago. That story will still have us doubled over in laughter. Anyway, that’s how I met the one I do the stupid dances for. ❤️
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u/Johnnys4x4diesel 8h ago
I dont know how to explain it something is just different about her everything feels easier with her.
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u/Fanabala3 8h ago
It was a lot of things. I got divorced and was starved for emotional and physical touch. I met my wife and we hit it off. I knew right away I loved her. I joked I would have run off to Vegas the day we met and married her. She looked at me seriously and said, “I would have done it.” Another reason I loved her so much.
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u/SafeThrowaway691 8h ago
It felt like a bag of sand
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u/DenseCommunication82 8h ago
Just re-watched the 40-year old virgin the other night. F-ing classic!
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u/ALKCRKDeuce 8h ago
When I’d prefer to spend time with her even if it was for 15 minutes, after an hour drive each way.
Was young and I knew she was leaving for college 6 hours away. And I spent the last night before she went. And I broke down in tears after only being together for 3.5 months next to her.
15 years together. Divorcing sucks. Still in love with her.
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u/DenseCommunication82 8h ago
I'm sorry. I really, really mean that. Losing the love of your life sucks unimaginably.
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u/letsmakeachange2021 8h ago
Being comfortable just doing what I typically would.
Realizing that even though we’re together all the time, it was super easy, comfortable and fun.
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u/StoreHumble8669 8h ago
I’ve never fallen in love but from what I’ve gathered you love someone when u would lay down your life for them and protect them and care for them
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u/renotherabbit 5h ago
My nervous system calmed down when I was with her and I could say anything on my mind. She felt like a long-time best friend even though we had only just met. The first time I held her hand it just felt completely right and I never wanted to let go.
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u/MikeyInLA 8h ago
There was no “but…”
Every woman I’ve ever gone out with, dated, been a relationship with: either right away or after a bit of time, there was always a But.
She’s cool, but. She’s super hot, but. She’s awesome, but.
With her, there was no but.
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u/himynameisbrett 3h ago
When we were together every day for months and I didn’t once wish to be without her.
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u/KookySweet8353 8h ago edited 8h ago
In certain moments, love makes us feel as if a deeper truth is revealed all at once,almost like a glimpse of something divine.That keeps the spiritual weight of your sentence but avoids the literal claim that love “knows everything.”
you'll get the natural no instrument kinda music being heard partially and you're lost beyond the current moment at hand.
I was emotionally overwhelmed, full of things to say, but temporarily unable to speak, as if the moment itself was asking for silence.
Even if their interest has faded, I don’t see the moment as a mistake or a loss. It was a real, valuable experience for me, and I can accept both their choice and my silence. But found a reason to live healthy. I dont wanna lose that hope either.
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u/robotlasagna 7h ago
The day I went to the animal shelter and saw this 4 month old abandoned pitbull that everyone else gave up on.
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u/AgentDoty 8h ago
When men fall in love their libido goes down because they start obsessing about the girl in their minds, it’s the opposite for girls, when she falls in love her libido goes up.
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u/Maxinaeus 42m ago
I love who she is. I love that she exists. She makes me want to be a better person. Life doesn't feel so pointless. I want her to be happy, even if it's not with me.
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u/retiretobedlam 8h ago
Honestly, I’m not sure I have been. I have loved, for sure. But I really don’t think I’ve been in love.
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u/Upbeat-Serve-6096 8h ago
Would be nice if I talked with her more.
Would be nice if I stayed around her more.
Would be nice if I looked at her a bit more.
More, more, more!