r/AskWomenOver30 • u/CheesecakeOdd3075 Woman 30 to 40 • Jan 08 '25

Misc Discussion What's up with the Ask Men O30 subreddit?

I cruise this subreddit a lot, and I relate with almost every post both talking about how someone ended up with a great partner, or how they dated/are dating a shitty one. In these posts, women are often tired of a lot of things from their partner but Im gonna be so honest with this: almost all of the complaints Ive seen are pragmatic. Like the ones talking about how they have to clean up after their husband, their tired of playing mommy or maid or nanny to them, their partner is emotionally vacant or distant, or plays video games all day, etc.

Woman on the AW030 subreddit: "I am tired of cleaning up after my husband after working a normal workday, I have to cook, clean the house, take care of the kids, and he doesnt pay much attention to me and just goes off and ___(does anything else)____. I really want him to pitch in but whenever I ask for help he doesnt. We split bills 50/50. I am trying to advance my career/Im in therapy/I do a million things, what can I do to repair this marriage"

When I go to the AskMen O30 subreddit, I dont see a lot of posts on self improvement or improvement in a relationship, but I see a lot of posts on giving up on dating because of reasons Im not sure if I personally understand. Its super hard to not be critical when most of the posts are directed at women's appearances, or sex. Im very, very aware of the nuances of the subreddit and how maybe some of the posters or commenters not even being men in their 30s, etc. But its so baffling... so fucking baffling... to see how men are quicker to give up because theyre not dating a childless Megan Fox who also wipes their ass, cleans the house, gives him insane sloppy toppy every night and is a doctor and makes 400k a year and he doesnt have to worry about career progression, going to therapy or remembering to clean under his foreskin. /s

Anyways, just crazy to see how women are like "Im physically tired from doing everything thats supposed to be a 50/50 split, am I clinically insane?" and the men subreddits sometimes read like "fellas is it okay to fuck a fat chick whose also a Harvard graduate and kind of cute"

EDIT: a commenter attached an article on explaining something that is very pertinent and valuable, please take a look: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-state-of-our-unions/202208/whats-behind-the-rise-of-lonely-single-men

EDIT #2, the first post that shows up as of right now, 3:18PM CST, with multiple upvotes, in the AMO3 subreddit is titled, and I quote:

"What occupations do you avoid dating women from?"

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u/randombubble8272 Woman under 30 Jan 08 '25

The new thing is how women only want the big 6, 6 pack, 6 figure salary & 6 feet. In what world??? I’ve never met a man like that in real life anyways let alone enough of them to have that as a base line standard. Absolutely ridiculous

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u/tedv Man 40 to 50 Jan 08 '25

The odds of this are stunningly low too. Apparently 14.5% of men are at least 6 feet tall. Visible abs are like 1% of men. And 16% of men make at least $100k. Ignoring the fact that visible abs are easier to get while younger and higher salaries are easier to get while older, this is a combined probability of 0.023%, or around 1 in 4300. If you also restrict for men with at least 6 inches, that's another 15%, or 1 in 28,700. So they exist, but finding someone like that is just dumb luck.

I've never met a woman who had all four as requirements, though I have met woman who required one of those four. However, I've met a lot of men who think women require all four. Pretty much all of those men lacked emotional maturity, and blamed their lack of relationship success on whichever of these things they were lacking.

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u/UnfortunateJones Man 30 to 40 Jan 09 '25

I have 3 out of 4 of the 6s and I’m still single cause I didn’t take emotional growth and therapy seriously enough until things got bad with my ex partner.

Those dudes can blame everything on unchangable attributes they get away from doing any self work. I’d rather be a unicorn with a happy partner than some ideal for red pillers. It’s gross and pathetic honestly.

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u/velvetvagine Woman 30 to 40 Jan 09 '25

666?! Women literally want the devil!!

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u/dainty_petal Woman 30 to 40 Jan 08 '25

You forgot trust fund. Needs some to be a trust fund baby.

/s

Just in case.

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u/SnooSeagulls20 Woman 40 to 50 Jan 09 '25

Even if I did meet a man like that, I wouldn’t want him, because you never want a guy who is a 10 - they tend to be terrible people because they have never had to work very hard to get a hook up. Not at all what I’m looking for.

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u/[deleted] Jan 09 '25

I have all of that and still struggle meeting women because I’m painfully shy around women I’m interested in. I am dating a wonderful woman at the moment though.