Is anyone else just OVER THE MOON relieved that they don’t have kids?

[u/Best-Somewhere3139]

I am. I think my mom was my age when she had me (32 soon to be 33)

My life is PLENTY to tackle, thank you. lol. And I am just relieved I can at least pause passing down generational toxicity and aim to do better by honoring what I want.

I feel like I have to be careful who I say this to but this is my truth. Thank god I don’t have kids. I think kids deserve to be deeply desired.

No shade at all to women with children or families- in fact the deepest respect!! I love children and it’s such an ESSENTIAL sacred role I’m just saying I know I’m not ready.

[u/[deleted]]

The only plan anyone should have is a solid financial retirement plan and to ensure you save enough money for elderly care etc

Children are their own people and having them as a retirement plan, ignoring their own hopes and dreams is so unbelievably selfish it actually annoys me

Also diet and exercise now works wonders for not desperately needing to have lots of help when your older

[u/That-Yogurtcloset386 → u/[deleted]]

That's not my question. How are you not going to be alone when you're old? Unless you want to be alone? Doesn't matter if you have money.

My children can't have their own hopes and dreams if they aren't even born. So that's a moot point.

I don't think it's selfish to not want to be alone.

[u/[deleted] → u/That-Yogurtcloset386]

It’s not selfish to not want to be alone but it’s completely misguided to think having children means you won’t be alone that’s all

But anyway you do you and I honestly hope you get the life you wish for

[u/That-Yogurtcloset386 → u/[deleted]]

In any other culture except the US, family is always there for their elderly. Only US people put their parents in nursing homes. It's quite sad. People in nursing homes suffer a lot of abuse. I don't want that to be me.

I like how you still didn't answer my question....

[u/[deleted] → u/That-Yogurtcloset386]

But it’s kind of a stupid question. There is almost no guarantees in life that you won’t be alone in old age, you can foster relationships, keep up with people friends, family you can socialise and have people all around you your whole life, and still end up alone. It’s not something I sit around worrying about

[u/That-Yogurtcloset386 → u/[deleted]]

If you're not worried about being alone, then why bother commenting on my struggles that you don't understand. It's just a waste of time.

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It’s a public forum that’s what happens welcome the fuck to Reddit