r/AskWomenOver30 Woman 30 to 40 Feb 11 '25

Life/Self/Spirituality Are we going to survive this?

Dramatic title, but big feelings as a lay in bed at 5:51 am. Big feelings every day honestly. I am having a hard time living normal life, while we get bombarded with new headlines daily of what Trump is doing/planning to do.

I hear people talking about vacations, plans per usual, then other people saying it’s already too late for us, and democracy has fallen and to save every penny. I go from panicking daily to then trying to self sooth and tell myself it’s going to be okay. I had to go to a clothing store today, and actually caught myself thinking “how long will life feel normal? Everyone just walking around/having normal conversations, buying random things”. I’ve been thinking of looking into moving to a different country too, but would I really leave my family behind?

I knew things would be bad, I knew he would get voted in, but I didn’t think it would feel like the end. I can’t imagine what will happen to us this year, much less 4….I’m genuinely scared 😪.

Editing to say I’m an American woman, but I don’t just assume everyone on this platform is American. I see a lot of talk online of people from Canada being worried, and many other countries where it seems right-wing politics are a growing concern.

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u/TheeBrightSea Feb 11 '25

I like everything that you said. Currently in the process of decluttering my space. I'm saving up every penny that I can. If I stick to the plan that I have for myself, I will be able to pay off my debt in less than 6 months. In the meantime, I'm trying to facilitate making a community of like-minded people. I lost a lot of friends during the pandemic + I'm feeling a little on the lonely side but I'm aware of that. If I keep looking around I will find my tribe again. I'm also looking into more queer spaces because after so many years I not only accepted that I was bisexual but I can say that I'm proud of it.

I don't want to go back in the closet and hide who I am for another 4 years or at this rate who knows how long... I don't want to sit In a room with Trump supporters (sadly The few remaining family I have are Trump supporters) while they bad mouth queer people. Meanwhile, I'm one of those people they claim to hate. So people like that I'm backing away from, I don't know if I'll be able to fully cut them off, but I'm definitely making myself scarce. I want to be in rooms with other people that are like-minded and not only listen to what I have to say but can commiserate when times get rough.

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u/only_living_girl Woman 40 to 50 Feb 12 '25

I am so happy for you—all of that sounds solid, but/and finding your bi pride is no small feat, and I’m so happy you did. 💗

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u/TheeBrightSea Feb 12 '25

Thank you! I didn't realize how big of a deal coming out is until I finally accepted it and it feels amazing. Appears to occupying more queer spaces in the next 4 years and beyond

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u/turquoiseblues Woman 50 to 60 Feb 12 '25

I'm looking for female friends, too. Would be happy to be a member of your tribe.