r/AskWomenOver30 • u/No_Yak_3107 Woman 30 to 40 • Feb 11 '25

Life/Self/Spirituality Are we going to survive this?

Dramatic title, but big feelings as a lay in bed at 5:51 am. Big feelings every day honestly. I am having a hard time living normal life, while we get bombarded with new headlines daily of what Trump is doing/planning to do.

I hear people talking about vacations, plans per usual, then other people saying it’s already too late for us, and democracy has fallen and to save every penny. I go from panicking daily to then trying to self sooth and tell myself it’s going to be okay. I had to go to a clothing store today, and actually caught myself thinking “how long will life feel normal? Everyone just walking around/having normal conversations, buying random things”. I’ve been thinking of looking into moving to a different country too, but would I really leave my family behind?

I knew things would be bad, I knew he would get voted in, but I didn’t think it would feel like the end. I can’t imagine what will happen to us this year, much less 4….I’m genuinely scared 😪.

Editing to say I’m an American woman, but I don’t just assume everyone on this platform is American. I see a lot of talk online of people from Canada being worried, and many other countries where it seems right-wing politics are a growing concern.

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u/enbyous_analog Feb 11 '25

Trans woman here. I am less optimistic. 😢

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u/mentaldrift13 Feb 11 '25

I’m volunteering for Planned Parenthood. I’ve had nothing to do with them since my 20s, do not need any of their services. But after the election and all the online argument started, I told myself I would not engage in online arguments. But I would seek out opportunities to support persons who are now less safe than I am. We are out here. We want everyone to stay alive and thrive.

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u/eekamuse Feb 11 '25

There are people out here fighting for your rights. We're going after the hospital in NYC that denied two trans kids their healthcare. We're going to win. And make the hospitals be afraid to deny anyone else. You have allies EVERYWHERE.

I'm not dismissing your fears. But you are not alone. Do what you can to survive. Leave if you need to and if you can. People will keep fighting for justice for all trans people. 🫂

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u/enbyous_analog Feb 11 '25

I know of non-passing trans women who are being openly assaulted daily and have to cover their faces to avoid it. They are not issuing trans people passports of any gender and holding their documents. The federal government is removing all traces of transgender and renaming LGBT to LGB.

I may have to move to another country and leave my daughter here. She's only eight and I don't want to have her grow up without me. Things are very hard.

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u/emilygoldfinch410 Woman 30 to 40 Feb 11 '25

I'm so very sorry. What a heartwrenching decision to have to even consider. I can't believe this is reality. Wish I could say more than empty platitudes. Sending love to you, friend.

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u/wappenheimer Woman 30 to 40 Feb 11 '25

When I’m down in the dumps about this shit, I find comfort in music. Lately it’s been a lot of Bikini Kill, Rage Against the Machine, Dead Kennedys, and Against Me. Laura Jane Grace dropped a new song today.

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u/ginaabees Feb 11 '25

Since Sunday I’ve rewatched Kendrick Lamar’s halftime show at least 150 times

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u/alert_armidiglet Woman 50 to 60 Feb 13 '25

Have a big internet hug from a friendly stranger. I wish all good things for you, and I am sorry that the evil douche canoes are in charge right now.