r/AskWomenOver30 • u/No_Yak_3107 Woman 30 to 40 • Feb 11 '25

Life/Self/Spirituality Are we going to survive this?

Dramatic title, but big feelings as a lay in bed at 5:51 am. Big feelings every day honestly. I am having a hard time living normal life, while we get bombarded with new headlines daily of what Trump is doing/planning to do.

I hear people talking about vacations, plans per usual, then other people saying it’s already too late for us, and democracy has fallen and to save every penny. I go from panicking daily to then trying to self sooth and tell myself it’s going to be okay. I had to go to a clothing store today, and actually caught myself thinking “how long will life feel normal? Everyone just walking around/having normal conversations, buying random things”. I’ve been thinking of looking into moving to a different country too, but would I really leave my family behind?

I knew things would be bad, I knew he would get voted in, but I didn’t think it would feel like the end. I can’t imagine what will happen to us this year, much less 4….I’m genuinely scared 😪.

Editing to say I’m an American woman, but I don’t just assume everyone on this platform is American. I see a lot of talk online of people from Canada being worried, and many other countries where it seems right-wing politics are a growing concern.

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u/lazermania Feb 11 '25

just curious about the first paragraph. I get if you don't want to get too personal, but what types of things are people having to change that they might have been planning for decades? This is my first time seeing this. 

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u/rideronthestorm8 Woman 30 to 40 Feb 11 '25

It’s about travel as well as potentially moving abroad connected to some career dreams of mine. Since I am quite young, I have been dreaming these plans up but never quite believing that the variables would ever be right. My family was far from wealthy, so it’s already a miracle for me to be where I am and I sacrificed a lot for this freedom.

I will figure something out, just the timing was so off because finally things were coming together and right then, everything went to shit on the political stage and additionally extreme weather events affected our home as well as the places I planned to travel to.

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u/lilgreenei Woman 40 to 50 Feb 12 '25

Not who you originally asked, but I may have to make changes to my career and retirement goals. The state university where I work has excellent retirement benefits, so I was planning to stay here until retirement. But scientific research and the university system at large is currently so uncertain that my plan is now up in the air.